I am dieing here. My dad has brought his son from russia over from his ex wifre. he lives with us and hes 21. Hes absoultely dreadful, demented, no common sense, etc. My mom hates him becuase he does the most idiotic things and never apoligizes. My dad also treats him diffferently and always argues with my mom about random things. It makes me want to break down and cry. My hands are shaky causing the bad writing. PLEASE, PLEASE help! I dont want my mom to divorce from my dad!
2007-09-18 14:33:01 · 8 answers · asked by Jenna Holder 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As frustrating as this may sound, it's out of your hands. You are sadly an observer in this mess. You need to talk to your mother and father about this. You should tell them how this is making you feel.
2007-09-18 14:36:28 · answer #1 · answered by vtothef 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he was raised in Russia then he has a different set of ideas for what is acceptable and not acceptable. He just needs to be told when he is being dreadful and why it is dreadful. Be patient with him as he is in a different environment than he is used to. At the same time you can learn what it is like where he lived and it will bring the 2 of you closer. By the way if this is your dad and not your step dad then the boy is your brother not your step brother. Half brother to be more exact but the 2 of you have the same genes that came from your dad. Maybe when your parents see that you are taking an interest in him and he starts to learn from you they will quit having conflicts and learn something too.
2007-09-18 21:43:12 · answer #2 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family counseling might be a good idea in this case. It sounds like there are a lot of issues that are upsetting everyone differently -- your step-brother is away from home in a strange environment, your mother is resentful, your father's behavior isn't consistent, and you're torn and worried. Is there a trusted adult (family member or good family friend) you can talk to, that might be able to help you talk to your parents and help them see that the situation is getting out of their control?
2007-09-18 21:43:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your stepbrother deported? Ha.
Unfortunately, most of this is between your mom and your dad. There is little you can do to make their relationship work. Your parents are probably very stressed out and taking it out on each other.
If I were you, I'd do what I can. Which is, work on your stepbrother. Figure out why he's is acting like such a complete jerk. Maybe he feels like he was neglected by your dad? Is he really angry at all of you and trying to punish you all?
2007-09-18 21:46:22 · answer #4 · answered by sarah_dtv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a pretty tough bunch.. He may be playing dump, to get more attention, your dad pays him more trying to mak up forhis mistakes, your mom resents the stepbrother,for breathing(he reminds her ,life did start before her!! Get into group sessions asap
2007-09-18 21:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your mom and your dad and talk about how this is making you feel.
2007-09-18 21:39:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get the both together and talk to them. If they both care about you, you will be suprised how much calmer things will get.
2007-09-18 21:36:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TALK TO THEM NOT JUST MOM AND DAD BUT ALSO STEP BROTHER!!
2007-09-18 21:38:19 · answer #8 · answered by Brittany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋