How do you get over a guy that cheated on you?
2007-09-18 13:55:18 · 44 answers · asked by ♥nikki♥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find someone to take his place.
2007-09-18 13:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by rangerfan_79 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl this hurts, i have been there and the only thing i know to do is keep moving, get yourself back in the game, forgive him if you can cause thats a big step towards getting over him. WHen you forgive, you dont have to go back, dont have to even let him know, its a personal, liberating choice that frees you from the anger and some of the pain. Your gonna hurt exspecially if you loved him, but remember most cheaters keep cheating and its better to find out ASAP. Set your eyes on yourself and your future and hey if another guy pops up, a cute guy always help! Nothing like a good transition guy!
2007-09-18 14:04:43 · answer #2 · answered by NADDYBOO1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well weather or not people admit it or not, when your cheated on it effects you self esteem, go out and have some fun with friends..put your dating life on the back burner for a while and get right with yourself....and don't look for a guy..let a guy find you you might be surprised what happens...and if he cheated on you he prob didn't know what he had anyway, and isn't worth your time....
2007-09-18 14:03:30 · answer #3 · answered by tattoo3217 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize that you are not the cause of his cheating, so don't question who you are, it's not your fault. Realize that you are lucky to find out he's not trustworthy or worthy of you, that he will do it to the girl he cheated on you with, that you are free of a stupid-insensitive jerk, who cares for no one but himself, that you are free to find someone to treat you with more respect and finally forgive him because he is human and weak. If you don't forgive him, (not saying tell him, I mean forgive him within yourself), you will carry around pain, hurt and anger until it chokes the life out of you, it won't hurt him.
It's ok to hurt, cry and call him all the nasty names you can think of, to get you over this shock. Afterwards, keep you mind busy and your life full of fun and exciting things to do.
I've been there, it took me nearly a year and cost me a lot of heartache, tears and money, to realize he wasn't the man for me and to realize his lies and cheating quickly ended a marriage that was sucking all the joy from my life. ****Remember that it's better to lose a relationship that only you care about, than to stay in one where someone makes your life miserable.****
2007-09-18 14:44:49 · answer #4 · answered by boj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time to heal, not "get over".
Concentrate on your life and see what, if anything, you want to change. Take some time out for taking care and focusing on yourself.
This is not a good time for another relationship; as undoubtedly it will be a "on the rebound".
It hurts, I know. I have been there. Give yourself time to let the wounds heal. Cry, laugh, talk about it with a friend and work it out. Stay at home, go out, take a walk....listen to what you want to do and go with it.
..and never-ever forget; If he did it once, he will do it again.
once a dog, always a dog.
Good luck!
2007-09-18 14:10:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple forget him. am sorry but it not that easy. well look on the positive side. he is a cheat. once a cheat all ways a cheat. he will cheat on the one he is with now soon or later. there are plenty of nice guys out there just for you. good luck babe. .
2007-09-18 14:04:20 · answer #6 · answered by willy wom bat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on how long he cheated on you, the consequences could depend.
my opionan is if he is cheating on you, and you just give him a slap on the hand (in other words saying no)
best is to just say "we are not going to work out together, and sense you cheated on me, were through"
hope this helps!
2007-09-18 14:01:49 · answer #7 · answered by D3V!N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If with prior gf, then his heart is still with her.
If with someone new, then his heart is not with you.
The best "formula" I found was turning to God with deep heartfelt prayer. I prayed that He comfort me, help me to see beyond my pain. Help me to grow stronger. Help me to forgive. Help me to understand my bf and why he did what he did and have some compassion for his waywardness. Ask God to send someone new to dry my tears. Ask God to send me someone who will love me back the right way and to not turn to others for love. Ask God to help me to grow by this experience and mature by it.
There are some people you never truly get "over". What you have to do is to learn how to re-channel that anger, hatred, fear, lonliness and any other emotions you feel. Take a step up and away from your emotions and look at your bf as the individual that he is and that he has weakness' and faults (like yourself, just different). And pray that he comes to see where he has failed and that he grow by it and not hurt other women in the future. He is creating pain to other women as he goes along, and he needs to understand what he is doing and to stop. Prayer and talking to him in a sister-to-brother personna will help you to detatch yourself from being emotionally chained to him, yet able to help guide him toward better behavior.
How do you get over him?
By praying for the both of you and asking God's guidance.
Then get on with your life and help him when you are stronger and better equipped to handle him without emotional turmoil.
Eventually either you're a match or you're not. Time will tell.
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2007-09-18 14:07:14 · answer #8 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With time. Its nothing but the truth. Time really does heal all wounds, you just have to let enough air at it. Take a breather, get your life back in focus, hang out with your girls, and just keep reminding yourself no matter what, you're better off without him. You deserve a guy that is loyal, and you will find one.
2007-09-18 14:00:05 · answer #9 · answered by Kris 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
(excerpt)
...Can that which is so real just die away,
And all the passion vanish from a mind?
Not so, these things burn slow and fight to stay
The only thing to soothe the pain is time...
-me
You could do the whole rebound thing (new man), and never even let your feet touch the ground.
But that can be a whole other can of worms.
Regardless, DO go out and have fun! :)
2007-09-18 14:32:34 · answer #10 · answered by Steve A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd assume it would be easy to forget a guy like that...he's not worth remembering if he cheated on you
Just go out on dates with other guys...That should do the trick
2007-09-18 14:01:31 · answer #11 · answered by ♥nisa♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋