I'm confused DATING HELP!?!?!?!????????

Question

I'm 14, 9th grade, taking 10th and 11th grade classes, one girl likes me, she's clingy and dramatic, i like another, but i don't want to jeportize my relationship with girl #2 by going out with her, my ex is trying to screw everything up for me, and i want to focuse on my school work, any advise???

Answer 1

Yea your 14 years old and emotionally immature and shouldn't even be playing this game. It would be a REAL sign of intellegence and emotional attunement if you'd realize that you can't make good, deep, geniune relaitonships into love-affairs at that age, its just riduculous. Besides that you talking about how you want to focus on your work? Do you actually understand it? Learn, thats the best thing to do at your age and figure out WHY its such a bad idea to date at your age, because if you don't know, you don't know enough to make a relationship work at that age. But its not going to stop you I guess, but realize combinding perfessional and personal life is one of the BIG reasons you don't date in school, also combined with the fact that highschool isn't reality, its social struture will only propetiate emotional ignorance, look out side the box..... reason with that school work, getting the A+ doesn't matter, understanding how it effects your life does. Be smart buddy I can tell you are, but your always going to be confused unless you understand love. Its not enough. Read some books if you serious and reason thru it yourself

"Emotional Intellgence"

"Man and his symbols", Carl Jung

Good starter books.... the frist book was written by a doctor whose name alludes me.... I don't say this because you missing anything more then anyone else, I'm saying this because I think you NEED to understand, and can....