If your boyfriend says that he doesnt want you to have any male friends what would you do?

Question

I like this dude alot, he's not even sure if he wants me to have female friend either...why would he say that????

Answer 1

It sounds like he'd be jealous of anyone that would take your time away from him, especially other guys. I don't think you need a guy like that. If he's trying to control your life like this now, it will only get worse. Talk to him about it, but if he wants to control you, I'd dump him. Controlling can lead to abuse.

Answer 2

The truth is that he is jealous. Now look at it this way: If he stops you from having male friends and even female friends, what do you think he would do if you two decide to get married? Your guess is as good as mine.

Truth again: Good relationship is simply based on true love and trust. If I love and trust my girlfriend (and I know she does same to me) I would not be bother if he has male or female friends. I can't keep a watch on her 24/7 and will not even bother to do that.

So find a suitable time and place where you two could talk openly mutually, not necessarily in his house or yours. Tell him how you feel about his instructions (and if he truly loves and cares for you, he would listen to what you have to say) and in turn, allow you to be who you are, and not who he wants you to be.

Good luck, though!

Derrick

Answer 3

Dump him in a big way. This is dysfunctional behavior. It a control thing. Have respect for yourself!! I don't care how cute this guy is you are going to get seriously hurt, mentally or physically. This is a huge RED FLAG. This "dude" has big insecurity problems which is why he has to have control over you. Please please. You deserve so much more. Walk away you will feel better about yourself and gain strength and attract a dude that you really want.

I tell you this from personal experience. Thank god my friendships were strong and I didn't lose them. I almost lost myself though. Now I am married to a man who loves my friends and they love him. Isn't that what you want?

Good luck.

Answer 4

know what? if you really like this guy a TON and don't think hes a psycho, give him ONE (AND ONLY ONE) chance to understand where he's coming from. Explain that you dont get why he wouldn't want you to have male friends if you're a trustworthy girl. And if he comes out with a controlling answer or doesn't even bother to justify it, get rid of him. You're better off finding a more secure guy with just as many good qualities.

Answer 5

D**n don't you watch movies where Dudes be controling they women the whole no friends thing is how it starts then he will tell you not to see ya family and start BEATING the HELL out of you. Learn now and get the HELL out of there. He got really low self astem cause he only wants you to be with him. If he really liked you he wouldnt mind cause then he would know in the end you would come back to him

Answer 6

He wants you all to himself, I know how it feels but I know that you need to have some breathing room. I would never come out and say "you should have no friends" I usually just tell my GF which friends I'm not comfortable with and just don't hang out with her on those days. You need some space though man, thats no good. I'd say get away.

Oh, and man friends can be sketchy. Especially since 90% of people end up cheating (which I hate) good luck in your choice!

Answer 7

For the first person that answered, what does Muslim have to do with this question. Secondly, I married a muslim man and he does not have it in his heart or mind to control. To answer this question, Sweety, if you stay with him all you really want in life is DRAMA. It is not worth it. A controlling man like that is not controlling you because he likes you, he is only doing it to show that he can control. So don't believe his sorry A** and get yourself a cute nerdy boy. Because believe me although they may not be cool now. They have their head on and will eventually have a different view in life.

Answer 8

He says it because he is controlling. Run in the opposite direction from this man! I can tell you that this will mean trouble for you for the rest of your relationship (and I speak from experience). Control is a form of abuse and you need to learn early on that this is a very big issue and should not be accepted on any terms. No one should tell you that you cannot have other friends in your life. Please think about this very carefully.

Answer 9

My mom was recently in two relationships like that, one of them was my dad. She let him and my former stepdad control her for a grand total of 17 years. She wasn't herself when she was with my stepdad, she didn't have fun, and she wasn't allowed to have male friends. She was unhappy, she cried a lot, and that affected my brother and I. Now she has a new husband who loves her for who she is and trusts her. She's happy now. Don't let a guy hold you back from having friends. Dump him as soon as you can and don't look back. You don't want to pend 17 years crying.

Answer 10

for the guy friends, hes obviously overly jealous and if you ever do break up be prepared for him to be..kind of crazy when you have a new bf. and for the female friends well if he doesn;t like them then i can understand he probably thinks they;ll tell you things about him and it'll get in your head and influence the way you feel or think about him. but he really has no reason to tell you who to hang out with, just please don't drop your social life for him cause when he's gone you wont have anybody.