Asking For Money Instead Of Gifts?

Question

Im getting married but my fiance and i dont have a house.
We will be staying with my parents after we marry.
We dont have anywhere to put gifts so we were thinking of recommending money as a gift. We dont know how long we will be at my parents house, and we dont want to have to put things in storage.
Are there nice ways to suggest this?

Answer 1

Word of mouth...only way. Tell your parents, tell your bridal party, and you can tell anybody who asks you first what type of gift you would prefer. Putting anything about gifts on invitations, especially when you are trolling for cash, is extremely tacky and rude.

Answer 2

You should not make ANY mention of what you would prefer as gifts, unless the person has directly asked you.

DO NOT ANNOUNCE your gift preferences in the invitation, on a web site, with a mass email, or by any other means. It is just rude rude rude! Regardless of what your living circumstances, bringing up the money gift topic without being directly asked is just plain out offensive.

If someone directly asks "What type of gifts would you prefer?" THEN you can say: "Well we are most concerned with saving up for a house right now, so we can move out into a place of our own. So any gift money we happen to receive will be going straight towards our house fund! But whatever you feel like gifting us, I'm sure will be lovely. It's just most important to us to have you share our day with us."

Regardless of what gifts you receive, simply accept them graciously and send PROMPT thank you notes. Storage room can always be found with friends and relatives.

Answer 3

If that's what you want, then that's what you should tell people if they ask. Now if you want to put it on your invitation be very careful in how you word things. I find no problem in being up front about these things and just telling people the reality that they already know, but for some reason people get all offended when you spell it out for them. I would just not register anywhere and tell as many people as you can in passing that money is the only gift you need and that you would be grateful if anyone wants to give it.
Good luck and I think this is a subject that people very easily over-react to so be careful to be gracious in receiving gifts.

Answer 4

in case you desire to be completely perfect approximately this - do no longer ask for presents or money in any respect. presents shouldn't in any respect be suggested interior the invitation. anticipate your travellers to touch you and ask the place you're registered, then say which you probably did no longer sign up everywhere considering you will nonetheless be residing with your mom and dad following the marriage till you sustain sufficient money to flow out. permit your travellers discern it out on their very own; do no longer bypass so a good distance as to easily explicitly ask for money (or the different present). asking for money makes travellers experience like they're in user-friendly terms being invited so as that they are going to offer you with a recent. you choose the concentration of your wedding ceremony day to be you and your marital happiness, no longer you and a perceived choose/greed.

Answer 5

how many times are we going to see this question here?

first of all gifts are not a requirement!

secondly if you need money that badly then drop the wedding idea, get married at city hall and save all the money you are so eager to spend on a wedding! honestly!

regardless of what some young brides say it is never appropriate to ask for cash, it is tacky to ask for cash and there is no nice way to bring it up.

the best you can do is ask your family to tell people if they ask what you need or want - tell them cash. still tacky, ignorant and rude but if you insist on demanding money from people............................

Answer 6

There is no official way to say money only. You can put the word out , but indicating it in writing would be a horrible mistake.

Answer 7

me and my husband already had the traditional gifts i.e toaster, kettle etc etc so we sent a separate card with invitations saying " there is no wedding gift list as such but if you would like to contribute towards vouchers for the following stores ..................... there fore they can choose how much and for a store you have asked for, there fore you can save them for when you do set up home together or for something you know will be help full for you. good luck on your wedding day :-)

Answer 8

Since gifts are never required it is quite rude to ask for money instead of gifts. Just let your parents and bridal party know that if anyone asks if they need anything, just state that you have everything you need.

Answer 9

By word of the mouth is the only way. Someday you will have your own place and will wish you had received some things for your home. Until that time you can store them at your parents house.

Answer 10

This question comes up on this board every single day. If you search past questions, you should be able to find hundreds of answers to this question without any trouble at all.