Even though he claims he's not lying, I constantly "think" he is... what are some things I can do to keep my mind off of thinking he's lying to me all the time, or sneaking around on me?
2007-09-18 12:46:14 · 37 answers · asked by needhelp25 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel that if you can't trust him, then maybe the realationship won't work.
You should be with someone you can trust. Because it is also not fair to him that if he isn't doing anything wrong, but you don't trust him, then he is constantly going to be defending himself to you.
Has he done something that makes you not trust him? Something that you have actually caught him doing, not just something you think he did?
Also, were you cheated on in a previous relationship, and have lost trust in everyone, and that makes you suspicious of him? If so then you would have to work on that for yourself before you will be able to trust anyone.
2007-09-18 12:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seems like one of the biggest mistakes people make. Not listening to your intuition or gut
If you constantly think he's lying, you're probably right. He's not worth the trouble. Go find a guy you can trust 100%.
2007-09-18 12:51:11 · answer #2 · answered by updo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same prob and im guessing he did something to make you wonder what hes really doing its hard cause once they lie its hard to trust them again.if u cant find anything he did wrong then you will stop thinking like that but if you find something he lied about again then u should prob break up with him it will only get worse.good luck <3
oh and if it reallys bother u and he dont like u thinking hes lie'n then have him call you when he goes somewhere and ever hr while hes there so you know nothings going on and then you wont think that way anymore thats what i did.
2007-09-18 12:52:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If after having a long and honest talk about your relationship you still don't trust him, then you shouldn't be with him. Trust is the one of the most fundamental aspects of any relationship.
Though, if you really want to be sure you could hire a private detective.
2007-09-18 12:53:18 · answer #4 · answered by Hector Victorious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a relationship for 8 years and 5 of it has been without trust. It doesn't get any better, if anything it makes you get more paranoid about yourself and turns you into something your not generally.
If possiable move on, or get some help, before you fall into a pit that takes forever to get out of......
2007-09-18 12:55:53 · answer #5 · answered by littlemonstersx2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the key to keeping any relationship a good one. Without trust it's pretty much doomed.
It could just be your own securities. Most likely it is. Unless he is giving you a reason to not trust him. In that case you have something to worry about and maybe it's not ment to be anyways!
2007-09-18 12:52:08 · answer #6 · answered by lindsay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here is the thing,you are not crazy,you know him better than anyone,and he is lying ..im a reader,the question isnt is he lying,it is what are you going to do about it,continue to let him lie and play you false or show him you are tired of it,if u do nothing then you accept every lie he is telling including the one he is telling you about everything
2007-09-18 12:54:56 · answer #7 · answered by msdiamondeyevishuns 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its more than worth asking him if he is. Say that you wont take lying and if he is, you will forgive him. Hey forgive and forget right? If he tells the truth, and says he is lying, then i think he should get a second chance.
2007-09-18 12:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by girlygirlprincessbritt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have no reason as to why and he hasn't done anything in the past.. you need to trust him or the relationship is doomed.. Maybe it's a "projection" of what you had done in the past or possibly somethings you might think about too.
2007-09-18 12:51:24 · answer #9 · answered by xjaz1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i am in the same shoes...i am always thinking he is sleeping with or talking to other women..he has cheated or he said he didnt but i dont beleive him...now i am in constant fear that he is cheating again...i dont do any thing to stop thinking about it i just embrace my fears........i love the man but i think he cannot be trusted..i feel like everything that comes out his is a lie.....i have told him how i felt but it makes no difference i still feel like he is lying..i dont trust him at all i feel like he is telling me what i want to hear
2007-09-18 12:56:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋