There is this married woman at work who is having an affair with another married co-worker. Since i started there she seems to think something is going on between me and this guy just because we talk now and again,she slams doors and has threatened me a couple of times warning me not to mess with her etc. I tried being nice but she likes making me feel uncomfortable when she's around. If she is jealous why make it so obvious?she also made a comment the first day she met me saying the men there would love me,is she jealous of me?why would a grown woman act childish,she is like over 20 years older than me!
2007-09-18 12:05:41 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you answered your own queston there, she said the guys there would love you which i take to mean you're cute. Plus you're 20 yrs younger then her, i know from experience that older women can get very insecure and jealous of younger prettier girls. There's not really anything you can do about it, it's her problem hun, just get on with things. All her behaviour is gonna do is show her up to the very people she wants to be thinking good things about her, and that's the guys you both work with. Keep a cool head and don't retaliate and you will come out on top :-)
2007-09-18 12:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by leanne j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well #1 you should take this to your supervisor about her threats. This is a form of sexual harassment.
She is way jealous of you because you must be young and pretty.
You can't change everyone and it is obvious that they do not have any scruples as they are both committing adultery.
Stay clear of her. Don't talk to her unless it is strictly work related.
She will stab you in the back, given a chance, do not trust her.
Maybe you will have a Christmas Party this year and then it would be just fine to talk to her and ask her about her boyfriend, of course when her husband is standing there!
2007-09-18 12:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her on her own and tell her straight that you have no interest in this man or what she does with her private life. Tell her to stop threatening you and basically as firm as you can say "get off my back" then walk away. She thinks your weak because she has gotten away with so much so this might make her think. If things continue, have a word with the boss. DON"T stop speaking to the bloke or she will have won through bullying.
2007-09-18 12:13:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is simple. It is probably because she feels that compared to you her pickings are slim. She is having an adventure outside of her marriage and doesn't want it to be destroyed by any reality (In other words the guy she is sleeping with will go with a much younger woman). Nothing against you personnaly, she is just 'Living la Vida Loca" and you are a does of stiff compatition. Just go with it, her fling will fall apart on its own without you having anything to do with it.
2007-09-18 12:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she is jealous and obviously insecure,she is 20 yrs older than you,so that would probably give her cause to worry.You being so young and his age and all.The best thing you can do is ignore her and her childish outbursts,and if you want to keep being cordial to this guy,then by all means do so.She can't stop you from being polite to one of your co-workers.If she keeps giving you trouble report her to your boss or better yet your Human Resources person.
2007-09-18 12:13:54 · answer #5 · answered by demonfirelife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i first starting working, i experienced this kind of behavour, i was quite shy and let her walk all over me...she used to talk about her daughter, saying how beautiful she was. at the end of the day it wasnt my fault that the guys liked me, even though i would have been to shy to flirt back with them, she was a jelous old woman who made her self feel better by making me feel bad.......im now quite grown up and i would never treat some one like that just cause they are pretty
2007-09-18 12:17:46 · answer #6 · answered by plastic dolly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insecure older woman feeling threatened by the younger cuter woman. If she is harassing you, you should report it to your supervisor or HR department. Some people are just so jealous, they can hardly control it.
2007-09-18 12:12:08 · answer #7 · answered by Don Drapers woman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just answered your own question, she's 20 years older than you. If she threatens you again take it to your superior and explain the situation. You shouldn't have to take this type of behavior on the job.
2007-09-18 12:13:16 · answer #8 · answered by ophirhodji 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age has nothing to do as to what age a person acts. An old 50 something person can act like a kid the same way a teen can act like an adult.
2007-09-18 12:10:54 · answer #9 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she is afraid of you. She must think that you are cute and being younger she is fearful you will take something from her. Most the time when people do things like this, it is because they are also considering doing it. So if she is afraid of what you might do, it is probably because she is contemplating doing whatever it is she is accusing you of.
2007-09-18 12:13:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋