I worry about things too much. Sometimes about things that are out of my control. I worry if I don't finish a good college I won't have money to support my family when I have one. I don't think its normal to worry about these things at my age. I am only 20 and everyone tells me my whole life is ahead of me to make these choices but I don't think so. I am stressing out so much. I don't want to make some stupid mistake now that will affect me later in life. I am also stressing out over college expenses and worrying what if I pick a major that doesn't get me a good job and a decent pay? I need some advice here pleaseee....Have you ever been in a situation like this? And no stupid responses please. I am already stressed enough. Thank you.
2007-09-18 11:28:30 · 14 answers · asked by DoLz 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Here are some tips to overcome worry:
Hope for the best. A positive attitude works wonders and prevents us from falling into the dark pit of worry and obsession. Stay focused on what's going right in your life.
Fill up the mind with powerful thoughts of faith and success to fill up the vacuum now left in the mind. You become a worrier by practicing it; you can be worry-free by practicing the opposite. Fill up the mind with powerful thoughts of faith and success to fill up the vacuum now left in the mind.
Never participate in a worry conversation. Induce your conversation with faith and worry-free statements.
Say positive things about those things you previously spoke negatively of.
Write down your worries. Recording your worries in written form can help you channel nervous energy and pinpoint the real subject of your anxiety. Then you can work to solve those problems rationally and objectively.
Take it one day at a time. It's important to plan well, and to prepare for the future. A daily checklist can help you break up larger tasks into more realistic nuggets. After you make your daily to-do list, concern yourself only with the issues at hand. Focus on making the most of the present moment.
Trust yourself. Each time you find yourself worrying about some future event, remind yourself that you are capable of handling the problem when it arises. Develop a sense of trust in yourself to handle anything that comes your way. The best way to develop this trust is to charge your "confidence battery." Reflect on all of your successes...the times you succeeded in something on the fly. Spend less time worrying about what could happen with thoughts of what did happen-and how well you handled it.
Keep busy. "The secret of being miserable is to have the leisure to bother about whether you are happy or not." If you're obsessing over something you know is silly, distract yourself. Start a new project. Take the kids out for ice cream. Call your mom.
Keep the faith. Your religious faith can go a long way in breaking the worry habit by helping you give those anxieties to a force greater than yourself.
Get help. A support system is vital, but resist the temptation to exaggerate things when talking to your friends. Remind yourself that the level of stress you experience is directly related to the way you internalize it.It's important to recognize that everyone struggles with worry at some point. Talk with your friends and family about possible new ways you could handle these jittery sitations. Make friends with optimistic people, practice prayer and meditation.
2007-09-18 13:58:47 · answer #1 · answered by pcgamer1987 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am going to agree with your friends, you worry too much. Life is a matter of choices. Most people in their lifetime will make a bad choice but.......there is always a way out of that choice. I love this old saying; EVERY POT HAS A LID, which means that there is nothing that can't be fixed by just applying yourself. You sound like you have some TRUST issues and hun I don't blame you in this world of today. Just trust your gut........you can always go with your gut. If you are worried in picking the wrong major then get online and check out the jobs that are the upcoming jobs........learn in those fields. I have to say here, there is NEVER a shortage of nurses or doctors, and NEVER a shortage of chefs. In other words, think about what our world is going to need in the next 10 to 20 years that people can't do without and major in that field. As far as worrying about things out of your control that is your answer right there. You are wasting energy that could be used somewhere else. You are at a cross roads with your life right now and I can see that and feel that from you.....do not be so serious, ENJOY LIFE........there is always time to worry :) I wish you all the luck in the world. Blessings
2007-09-18 11:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by DERLANDSON 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are 20 y/o, you have the option of changing your mind a number of times before you finish college. pick a career that is fun for you, one that you look forward to doing each day when you get out of bed. be the best at whatever you chose and the money will follow. you do not know any 12 y/o that you would allow to make a life choice for you..so it is with you now..when you are 28 you may choose to for a different career or 38. It is perfectly ok to do that. It is your life.
you may be crossing bridges long before reaching them. that puts lots of stress on you. focus your energies on learning as much as you can where you are right now..the rest will come naturally, when the time is right.
good luck
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2016-05-17 23:22:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
College can be very stressful!! Take the time to relax and your only 20 and in college..so you have a level head on your shoulders..be proud of your accomplishments!!! I was marriage and pregnant by the time i was twenty...i wish i could go back...I'm 37 divorced, with three kids and going to college and believe me I wish I would have done the right thing and went to school instead of "growing up" to fast!!
Worring is a part of this wonderful world that we live in but don't let it consume you!! Best of luck to you!
2007-09-18 11:38:59 · answer #5 · answered by truckmama_34 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds perfectly normal. At least it sounds like what I went through when I was 20. I'm not sure there's anything anyone could have told me that would have made it go away - just know that it is all going to be fine and that you will work things out. You will make plenty of mistakes, but at age 48 I'm still making them and I'm considered to be a "success". Through experience, you will find your way. You will be fine, honest.
2007-09-18 13:00:10 · answer #6 · answered by dhdaddy2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in your case...i think it's a good thing to worry about major decisions in life, like what you're facing...it makes you cautious and you weigh things more carefully....
it only means you care alot about your future and you don't wanna make mistakes...
but then again...you should also realize that worrying won't change anything.
so i think you should collect yourself...clear your thoughts and focus on your goals....
it'll also help if you gather enough info about the choices you are about to make....do a research or something...ask people. stop asking your own mind....it's as clueless as you are. good luck =)
2007-09-18 11:41:40 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Slide♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only MISTAKE you can make in life is... to NOT try.
If you try...you will sometimes fail....
but, learn from the temporary set-back, and always find a new path to move forward.
For now....work, plan and set goals for only YOU...not a family that might not materialize..... If you make decisions based on you only, then you will succeed.....
good luck....
2007-09-18 11:35:05 · answer #8 · answered by Rudy J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey am only 16 but i feel the same...i worry about things that i cant even control and which are ahead of me by 5 years..i worry about every little thing..and when that goes away i find something else to worry about...when i think about it..yh i think it might be depression..i start crying so many times a day that its not even wort trying to count ...but that's only when am alone..am fine when i go out with friends, but i just cant be alone..and when i am like now i need to have music playing so that at least i dont think about everything as much ..the thing is i dont know how to deal with it so i just surround my self with friends and try to forget about it..but in the end it just gets worse..
i think you need to just talk to someone...tell them all of those things that worry you...am not gonna be the one to tell you that u should just say to ur self that its not wort it and that u should just go out and deal with it...i know its not as easy as that and its not the right way to go..am doing it and it gets worse every day...
so just talk to someone....if u dont feel like u can talk to ur family or friends talk to a stranger...hell,you can even talk to me..:)sometimes its easier to tell everything to someone u dont know...and from there start to deal with ur problems...step by step..
i really wish u luck babe..:)
xx
2007-09-20 08:20:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just relax go out have some fun or something what do you like to do then do them like when I'm stressed out i listen to rock music and it helps me alot you should do the samething and it will help.
2007-09-18 11:38:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋