Is this what God really thinks of Divorce?

Question

Hey Ladies, christian ladies! Read this and see if you agree with this Christian man's opinion of divorce. let me know k?

http://www.jesus-is-savior.com/Family/Marriage/divorce_not_ok.htm

Ah, so Karyn W pick what you like from the bible and leave the rest eh?

when does the bible give exceptions for women like its ok when he beats you?? HMMM?? can someone point that one out to me? OH right cause its not in there! lol

Answer 1

I'm feeling very sorry for his wife. He just want a society that manipules the woman, and beats them too. OMG.

Answer 2

I am a Christian. I read quite a bit of the article. I do not agree with the man. I believe that the bible (new testament part) says not to divorce (put away) a spouse except for adultery. That is how I believe.

Just because I believe that the only grounds for divorce is adultery, does not mean that I would stay with an abusive husband. I would leave or make him leave. I would not divorce him, but I would never go back to him unless he sought psychological and spiritual help. The change would have to be proven to me.

I would never quit praying for him, and I would hope that at some point, he would accept Jesus as his Saviour and change his life.

Answer 3

The Bible says, "For the LORD God of Israel says that He hates divorce..."
(Malachi 2:16 - New King James Version)

edit---
I didn't read the article. God does hate divorce, but He also does not want us to do harm to our bodies. The body is the temple of God.

When there is abuse, to stay will be to allow your body to be harmed. Perhaps instead of divorce, a separation some times may be in order with the understanding that the couple will try to reunite when the abuser gets help. In this situation, both people need help.

Again I have not read the article, but I hope my comments help!

Answer 4

Wow- I'm a believer (in Christ) but I couldn't even finish that guy's article...

He has taken a great many liberties and turned scripture into a political debate.

There are principles that speak against divorce in terms of having faith that the Lord will deliver you and your spouse from the situation. But the really important thing to remember is that when we have a growing relationship with Jesus, we are promised the counsel of the Holy Spirit. Through this counsel, you will be lead in the direction God wishes you to go. For this reason, I would discourage "painting with too large a brush" when asking questions like this.

If someone truly wants to know what God wishes for them to do in any situation, they need only hit their knees in prayer.

Answer 5

Leaving an abusive spouse is a good response regardless of whether one or both is "saved." "Natural affection" is prophesied to be missing in the end-times.

1 Corinthinas 7:10, 11 describes your situation, and puts limits on your course of action for the future regarding a possible divorce.

Paul and Peter both write in their Epistles that Christians are to obey the laws of their land(s). Assault and battery are still c rimes in civilized countries, so until your husband understands His duties and responsibilites, you should not return to him.
(Titus 3 and 1 Peter 2&3)

But neither are you to remarry since you are both believers.
Managing his anger, and controling his responses is a job for the Holy Spirit. Self-control is a fruit of teh Holy Spirit, listed as temperence, in Galatians 5.

Praying for wisdom, discernment, and repentence for all in this situation.

Answer 6

I think he is mislead ,Jesus died for our sin's ,so everyone can be forgiven .Divorce IS NOT the unforgiveable sin .I think this man need's help .I know for a fact no matter what you do no man should beat a woman .I have been there and it will never happen again ,I'll send them to their maker before anyone ever lay's a hand on me again .To the women out there DON'T believe these lie's . PEACE TO YOU

Answer 7

this is bull. This is a MAN who is being just like people use to be. When women were expected to have a mans child and wait on him hand and foot. I am protistant. And i believe my beliefs. Christ died for us to live and be happy. If a man is hurts his wife than he is also going against his vows. When a man and woman are being wed the preist asks them if they will CHERISH each other. Hitting is not cherishing. So it's not all our faults. We don't wake up one morning and say, I'm bored...I THINK I'LL DIVORCE MY HUSBAND!

Answer 8

While I agree that women in this feminist country seldom consider their own culpability in their marriage ending in divorce, I disagree with him that divorce is not justified on grounds of abuse.

In fact did you know that God got divorced. "I gave faithless Israel her certificate of divorce and sent her away because of all her adulteries." Jer 3:8

According to the Bible the issue is not really divorce per se, but remarriage after divorce. Jesus didn't condemn divorce. What he called adulterous was remarriage after divorce.

See also Marriage, Divorce and Adultery
http://www.bcbsr.com/topics/marry.html

Answer 9

What an odd answer to a question about spousal abuse. It's like saying, your husband abuses you because you're not obedient.

This is a heartless response, in my opinion.

Answer 10

even if divorce is a sin then in that case i would have to pray for forgiveness from god. I would not could not stay in an abusive relationship.
and i will not obey my husband so that he does not hit me.
if he hits me he is wrong not me.(unless i hit him first then i am wrong)