I had his voicemail password throughout our entire 8month relationship. So we argued a lot because I constantly saw that he was involved with no good females. but he never knew how i would find out about them. It was females that he's been involved with sexually in the past. and if we would break up for a few days, he would go have sex with them again. So, we were broke up for about 2 months, and i finally told him my secret and got it off my chest that i've had access to his call records all along. Now we're trying to work things out. he tells me he's no longer involved w/ those girls, but he still is! I know this because I still have ACCESS! Do I tell him I invaded his privacy AGAIN? or just leave him alone? I know I'm wrong here, but I love him and I want things to work out. why is it so hard for him to leave this females alone? I do so much more for him than those girls. and he tells me he loves me, but...He just lied today and said he doesnt talk to them, But he called them 2day
2007-09-18 09:50:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why are you dating a guy that you cannot trust? And why are you trying to work it out? Dump him and find someone better.
2007-09-18 09:54:51 · answer #1 · answered by Grandpa S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you break up with him and move on with your life. That is unless you like being with someone who constantly lies to you and the drama of the whole situation. I am not going to tell you that having someones password, snooping in e-mail, etc is an okay thing to do, but the fact is he is not doing the right thing either by having casual sex with whoever every time you guys hit a bump in the road. You should understand that most men who have this type of behavior will always have it, in other words he has a lifetime of doing whatever he wants in his future, and unless you want to sit by and deal with that I suggest you get out while the gettings good. You have not got that much time invested in him, move on.
2007-09-18 17:01:16 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really cant improve on whats already been said.
If you dont trust him, you don't belong with him. But checking his voicemail without his permission probably means that you arent ready to be in any kind of an adult relationship. You got more issues than a cheating boyfriend.
2007-09-18 16:57:30 · answer #3 · answered by WhatsYourProblem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry dear, your trying to work it out...he isn't. Either accept that it's over or accept that there's always going to be more women than just you in this relationship. Sounds to me that I love you means I love the way you take care of me and let me get away with cheating time and time again. Best of luck.
2007-09-18 17:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop spying on him! either u trust him or u don't. i can see if you come across something randomly, but looking for trouble is exactly that. if you know he's lying than why keep asking him for him to lie to you?!?!? my ex boyfriend was like that, just a lying aSz bastard but he lied cause he knew he could get away with the crap he was doing. he'd tell me he was at his boys house and i'd hear car horns beeping and females talking in the background, car stereo and all that junk. so basically, if you wanna be with a dude who u know lies to you that's one thing, but if you can't take it leave his lying butt alone and let the next chick deal with his bogus crap.
2007-09-18 16:57:36 · answer #5 · answered by Benny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you wasting your time and energy.. You need to save your energy for a MAN who can respect you! He has no care in the world that you know about his extra affairs. You gave him an inch and now he is taking the field regardless of what you say. You are excepting his actions.. What makes you think he is going to change?
If he has no respect for you, then get some damm respect for yourself!!.. Kick his *** to the curb!
2007-09-18 17:12:18 · answer #6 · answered by Maya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a liar and a cheat. You obviously already knew that or you wouldn't have bothered listening to his voicemail. You didn't cause his behavior by listening to his voicemail - his behavior probably caused you to listen to his voicemail.
Again, he's a liar and a cheat. You've confirmed it. Run away as fast and as far as you can from someone like that. You've already given him one chance too many.
2007-09-18 16:58:10 · answer #7 · answered by Patriotic Libertarian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard when you love somebody. But he isnt worth it. Its takes 2 to make a relationship work. He isnt giving you his full committment. Move on...hard but you should try
2007-09-18 16:57:07 · answer #8 · answered by Bethyboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to end the relationship. it can never be good if you can't trust him. obviously he is still lying. confronting him doesn't work. you have to break up with him. he's not ready to be with you. he still wants to be involved with them too.
2007-09-18 16:54:57 · answer #9 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. im so sorry. tell him when he says i love you again, tell him to look you in the eye and tell you the truth. and if he lies again. i say, tell him you know what he is doing again. he shouldnt be treating you like that. its wrong.
2007-09-18 17:04:50 · answer #10 · answered by Cole.Baby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋