confused about my sexuality...??

Question

Okay well I'm a 13 year old girl. i think some guys are cute but i just can't bring myself to actually ''like'' them. When i see a cute guy i'm really not as interested in him as i am into checking out his gf or a girl that he's with. what does this mean? i mean ive had these feelings before but i ignored them and went on but now i'm older and i'm starting to get verry confused!!!!! someone please help me! i think i might like girls but i am not totally shure! are these feelings weird or normal? does this make me a freak? should i talk to someone about them? what should i doooo?????

I am not just "checking her out" i am actually attracted to them... like i think girls are wayy hotter than guys... but some guys are cute... im jusst sooooooooooo confused!!

Answer 1

HORMONES
seriosuslyy girll
dont sweat :)
uur just curious..
live life how uu wanna be
follow ur heart not ur head ♥

Answer 2

Hello,

No you are not a freak first of all. I too at one time was confused about my sexuality it is perfectly normal and now I am a 37 year old married mother of two sons, one who is 19 and one who is 17. My oldest son is all boy and has been from day one. He is of course hetrosexual. My youngest son is all priss and has been since day one GUESS WHAT he is gay and that is OKAY!!! He is my son and I still love him, probably more than ever for being so brave and coming out in the open with his sexuality. The thing is that if you are a lesbion then you just are and nothing anyone says or does will change that. Hopefully you have supportive parents and you guys can figure this out together. You will need a support system in place it is very important. Just remember to tell your parents or whomever you can talk to that you did not choose to be this way you were born this way and that's the way God made you. No one chooses to be different we are born that way. Stay strong and don't be afraid.

Answer 3

honey, you are still so young. And I'll be completely honest with you (and maybe this is because I'm in a relationship) but when I'm out and I see couples I'm always checking out the girl first... In my opinion girls are just so much more beautiful to look at than boys.
Give yourself some time, eventually you will KNOW what your preference is (and don't be afraid either way). You are NOT a freak, you are young and you are still in the process of learning your likes and dislikes, there's nothing wrong with that. It's ok to be curious.

Answer 4

hey, Sexuality is tough okay especially at your age. To be honest there is not much to value in a 13 year old guy. really!! I would defiantly wait to make some sort of decision about sexual orientation until you get to the age where you are observing a man in real life situations, dealing with responsibility's.

I think that women are physically more appealing (mind you i am a guy) but in general i think that is the case even if you are "strait." with that said, 90% of attractive qualities about a guy are not physical and are only there when a guy is older and more mature. Ask any woman who is madly in love with a man and is married what attracts her to him.

the better person he is the hotter he will look to you i promise!!

hope that helps

Answer 5

Too soon to tell.

And to be honest, you don't have to decide now. You are, and I mean this not intending to sound "grown-up" or "mean," but you are a child. You have thirteen years.

This means you are changing, getting different levels of hormones and getting used to these things takes time. You're not going to just wake up one day and have it all figured out like the instructions to your Ipod or your MP3 player. People, believe it or not, have an amazing variety of "beingness" and self-expression.

For now, don't worry. Feelings are not weird. They are clues to where to look. No one or book is there to tell you just what to do. Talk it over with your parents, with a trusted lady counselor, maybe with a family doctor or nurse.

There is a book called "Guide to the Perplexed," by a scholar named Maimonides. Maybe when you get a chance, start reading it a little at a time.

Answer 6

Its perfectly normal to be courious. Your not a freak so dont ever think that!! I think your a little young to decide if you are liking girls more then boys. But you should talk to sumone about it because their advice could really have an effect on what gender you decide to with for the rest of your life. Why dont you try going out with both when you get a little older and see which better fits you. If you come out to like boys more then girls or gilrs more then boys it'll be your choice and you'll be more comfortable. Just take your time and dont let anyone pressure you into anything.

Answer 7

I think you are normal for a 13 year old girl.
Subconsciously you are checking girls because you want to find out what you need to do and how to dress when you become really interested in boys.
And at 13 your body has not developed the hormones haven't kicked in yet. So don't worry about which sexual direction you are headed for at this time.

Answer 8

You are still young and will have alot of mixed signals from your mind. I think we all look at our same sex and acknowledge if they are pretty, slim or fat, and compare them to ourseves. it's okay for a girl to say that another girl is pretty. Guys look at other guys (but don't admit it) and compare size and shape and if they are good looking. If you feel like you want to touch another girl or kiss her, then you might have to pause and ask yourself what you are feeling about her. You can have girlfriends and feel VERY close and have secrets, but if you want to be more to them and get physical, you need to talk to a counselor or someone you can trust, and get your thoughts cleared on what is happening. Being a girl gives you a connection to other girls because you are the same and you feel comfortable with them. There is still alot you don't know about guys and maybe that's why you don't feel as close or shy with them. These things usually work out as you get older and understand what you are feeling.

Answer 9

It depends, are you saying that you are sexually attracted to the girls or are you just checking them out and comparing yourself to them? If you are sexually attracted to them, then yes, I think it is something that you need to speak to someone about. It does not make you a freak. Not even close. Many women do this, and there are many lesbians out there as well. They are not usually considered freaks either. The feelings are pretty normal if you are comparing them to yourself. Also, many think about how it would be being with another girl.

Answer 10

Well, you're 13-- even "pure" straight people don't know how to respond to "liking" members of the opposite sex at that age. It's very confusing. You may be "checking out" the girl not so much because you're interested in her, but because you're comparing her to you, seeing if you're "as good as" she is (to see whether you could get that boy).

Many women don't develop romantic feelings for guys until quite a bit later.

I'm not trying to say that you aren't gay, or that you shouldn't be, if that's really how your sexual orientation is. I'm just saying that you can give it time, that it's all right to be confused. In a couple of years, I would guess that you will quickly discover what feels "right" with you.
Good luck! I'm sorry that you're confused, and all of us who lived it know how hard being a junior high kid can be.

Answer 11

First of all you are not a freak. Alot of girls go through this (especially at your age). It has a lot to do with puberty because your body is changing alot and it makes you want to know more about your body and subconsciously you want to compare your body to other girls bodies. These feelings usually subside after about one or two years and then go away.
It is possible that you are interested in girls sexually. If that is the case then it is your choice whether you want to experiment or not.
It is also your choice whether to talk to someone about it or not. If you want to then make sure it is someone that you trust.