Okay so theres this kid(my neighbors cousin)who lives about a town or 2 away from me. he comes over my neighbors house alot especially when it was during the summer.and i met him and then he found my myspace,and was like lets hangout and stuff and used to leave me like 20 billion messages on myspace. He then asked me later online when he got my sn(b/c i wrote it in my about me section on my page) that if i ask u out later what would u say and i said i know u like me but i like someother kid named matt(and i do) and i just wanna be friends. and to him it was like oh well i can talk and talk to u online and we can hang out and basically he always wanted me to call him and i kinda hesitated it. till one day my sisters bfmade a sn and said hey this is matt im dating sara please stop bothering her so much and he believed it. The thing is he still LOVES talking to me so much and says im pretty and i even constantly keep talking about matt to make him go away but he wont leave me alone. HELP!
2007-09-18 08:45:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had the same freaking problem. 3 times.
Ahahahaahaha.
Okay. Heres what you do. IGNORE HIM.
This guy he gave me 50+ calls and 10 voicemails in one day.
And uh. Do not pick up his phone calls, or reply to his IMs and etc. Serious. That just leads them on. They might bother you for a few days after that but it'll be over when he senses you're not into him. Ignore him completely. Serious.
2007-09-18 08:53:48 · answer #1 · answered by little bird 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You write at a 2nd grade level. So what are you doing dating at that age ?
Here's a strategy. This came from what I surmised while reading your query. Don't talk. If he calls you or meets you on the street or at the mall, or in church, wherever,don't say a word. NOT ONE. If he asks you a question, look away and don't respond. If he calls on the phone, hang up without saying anything. E-mails ? Delete and don't respond. Don't make eye contact. Don't pronounce his name.
By not doing these things, you don't acknowledge his existence. Do this long enough and he DOESN'T exist. When he realizes this, there is no point in him trying to contact you because he doesn't exist. So his non-existence will become a reality. And your problem will be over.
Like most young people you talk too much. This solution will be a real test for you. But what will come out of it is that you will realize the power of silence. There is a great saying: "Tis better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to open one's mouth an remove all doubt."
2007-09-18 09:09:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
At this point, it just sounds like infatuation.
Tell him in no uncertain terms that you don't want a relationship and that his continued 'pressure' makes you want it even less. Tell him you cannot spend so much time talking to him online or over the phone. And mean it, cut him off, don't answer his emails/IMs/texts and phone calls.
IF, he continues to bother you talk to your parents about it. Have them or another adult talk to him and tell him to back off. You might also start to document everything that happens, keep a diary, save any emails he sends, etc. If it does go as far as the police and charges of stalking, having a history documented will help greatly.
2007-09-18 08:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by Wundt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could try stalking him. Hide your phone number(caller id) and call him constantly.
Or do not speak to him or answer when he talks to you. If you acknowledge him he will continue to be a pest.
Also let as many persons as possible know that he is bothering you, even your parents. If there is a way to block him from sending you any messages do it. Make it absolutely clear that you want nothing to do with him.
I actually had a prob with a stalker myself so I know what am talkin about. I actually had to get the police involved even my church sister and since she warned him to leave me alone he has not troubled me since.
My stalker is actually sick mentally maybe that could be the case with your stalker.
2007-09-18 09:02:02 · answer #4 · answered by Ana Maria 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop talking about another guy to make him go away. Just stop talking to the guy. Block him on your myspace, ignore his calls and texts... he'll get the hint.
2007-09-18 08:52:27 · answer #5 · answered by Yogi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's a problem for you then simply just ignore all his calls, texts, ims or w/e. Block him on your myspace and aim or etc... If you do that, then there'll be no way for him to contact you. Good luck .
2007-09-18 08:52:58 · answer #6 · answered by M@caroni 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem here is you are answering him. If you want him to leave you alone, block his screen name. You have an 'ignore' button for a reason. If you keep talking to him, he is never going to get the hint and will never go away. Either that, or you have to outright tell him 'quit contacting me!' You have to step up here. Don't be a pushover.
2007-09-18 08:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Have your neighbor talk to their cousin and tell him to stop bothering you. If that does not work. contact the police.
2007-09-18 08:53:15 · answer #8 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Isn't there a "BLOCK USER" option on Myspace?
2007-09-18 08:53:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WoW, is this guy white? Tell him to whack off more... Ignore him and do what you gotta do... That's all... If it gets worse... report him
2007-09-18 08:52:35 · answer #10 · answered by Kevin C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋