How long was it after your spouse died before you started dating again?

Answer 1

My spouse has not died, but my mother died when she was 48. My parents had been together for about 30 years and they were very much in love. My father started to date again in less than a year and in about 16 months he remarried.

We talked about it one time and here's what he told me. When a person loses their mate after many years, if the surviving mate begins to date again in a relatively short period of time, it is a testimony to the marriage and the lost mate that their marriage was a source of happiness and comfort. It was something to be missed and desired. If the surviving mate waits many years, or never looks for another partner in life, it would seem to say that the original marriage was not such a source of happiness and comfort and that the surviving mate is convinced they would be happier alone.

I never forgot that conversation and I believe it to be true. My father was very happily married a second time for 12 years before he died.

Answer 2

I have never lost a spouse but a good friend of mine is going through this. He lost his wife and baby in ahorrible automobile accident, then he hooked up wiht a girl that was not sensitive to his situation, he just had a baby with her and now they are not together anymore.
I guess you will know when you are ready or when you are not. Maybe try a date, see what it feels like. f you feel like going further, then do it. The only one that will truely know how you ar doing wiht everything. If there is someone that you would like t ospend time with ,then do it. If you feel like taking her out again then do it. Just go with your gut. If you get there and your gut tells you that this not right, then explain your situation and tell them that you thought that you were ready for something that you are not.
Always be honest with yourself and whoever else is involved. You wouldn't want to hurt anyone else's feelings. Be careful, and do what your heart tells you. Good luck, I'm so sorry that you are going through this. Best wishes and take care. Talk ot your kids about it if you have them, een if you think hat they are to young, they may have some important input.

Answer 3

My spouse died 15 months ago today and I have not started dating yet, and don't plan to for some time. Even though I'm very lonely, I've had little support, and I really want companionship badly. I know I"m not ready and it would be foolish to do so.

not that anyone cares

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Answer 4

Hard to answer, I think it depends on the circumstances of the death. If your partner had been dieing of cancer for a long time or had been in hospital for many months there is a normal shift in your relationship, It's not that you love them any less but often the intimate side of the relationship ended a long time ago you know that death is coming and you have time to work on your emotions. If your partner gets hit by a car on the way to work then everything is in turmoil, Ithink do what ever you feel comfortable with but don't rush it.