How can i get over my fear of getting married?

Answer 1

Marriage is nothing to be scared about, maybe you've had a bad experience or you have seen it happen, but not all marriages are the same, everyone's is different, try reading books on marriages, it will tell you what it's like and get you interested it will also help you have a good one when you decide to get married. Good luck!!

Answer 2

Well, you don't go terribly deeply into what causes your fear except that of 'getting married' so we'll have to start there.

Fear is a good thing. It keeps us mindful of danger. So don't discount fear.

And if you are fearful of getting married - well heed that fear. It will help you stop and think about what you're doing - and whether or not this person is right for you. If they push and you bolt - then you recognized the danger of being shackled to the wrong person. That's a good thing.

Other than that - if you're really worried about your fear of getting married, you can speak with your minister and perhaps a good therapist.

Answer 3

I used to have the same fear...well actually, marriage didn't scare me it was just the fear of ever getting divorced. So, I figured if I never got married, I would never be divorced! It makes sense. Anyhow, I met someone who swept me off my feet, and it just all fell into place. It happened when I least expected it, and that is how you get over the fear.

ONE DAY YOU WILL MEET SOMEONE YOU WILL WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH, MARRIED OR NOT, AND YOU WILL WAKE UP ONE DAY AND REALIZE, wow, I'm not afraid anymore. You will find that person that will make you believe in marriage. I have been engaged for 2 years, in a relationship for 3 1/2 yrs., and if you would have asked me 3 1/2 yrs & one day ago, I would have told you marriage (and failing at it) scared the hell out of me. Who knew that I would end up here..I sure as hell didn't.

Just be patient, don't force yourself, and you will get over your fear naturally. Obviously, you just haven't found that person yet or you're just not ready. You will KNOW when you're ready.

Answer 4

By getting married.

Answer 5

Figure out which aspect of the marriage or wedding that you are afraid of then tackle that. For all you know it could actually be a fear of combing all of your finances and having to be financially accountable to another person and not getting married.

Answer 6

Go to therapy...this has to do with issues of trust. You may have had a bad example growing up. I know my parents did their best but screaming at each other for 40 years is not my idea of a healthy marriage. But it worked for them. I'm happily married, now I fear having children. One step at a time...

Answer 7

Listen to your instincts. If it's just nerves, breathe deeply and list all the pros for marrying your husband to be. If there's an underlying problem, you need to address it before you say I do. Divorce is a lot more expensive and difficult than marriage. Find out what's bothering you and see if you're just nervous about a lifelong committment.

Good luck to you.

Answer 8

marriage is a big commitment so there is nothing wrong with being scared! it's not for everyone and living with someone everyday is hard...a big title isn't necessary to commit yourself to someone..but if you really want to get over it maybe therapy or taking it really slow will help..also you didn't mention you're age so no one can really say where you are in life.don't just get married for the sake of getting over your fear!

Answer 9

You can spend time with your love and tell yourself that he's the only one you need. That way you don't keep an eye on the others and won't regret a thing.

Answer 10

Don't get married. That should take care of it. Marriage isn't what it's cracked up to be. It will take you years to get the hang of it.