Okay my boyfriend or whatever is like we should take a break and we've been going out for like 4 MONTHS and he said he wants to take a break because we haven't seen each other for like 3 weeks so he said that he didn't want to cheat on me while he was still dating me just wanted to take a break and be friends for awhile and if things work out we could get back together and if things changed......anybody have any advice on this I mean I know he'll find somebody else but that leaves me with nobody but sometimes that's okay...but I know hes deff more flirtacious when were not together it's like he needs that attention whether it's from me or other girls....especially when were not hanging out........ADVICE PLEASE!!!
2007-09-18 07:21:07 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So basically what he told you was.....he doesnt want to cheat on you, so he wants to be "freinds"... because he already has another girl in mind that he wants to date....but he wants to put you and his relationship on hold so that if the new girl doesnt work out he can still basically come back to you....
Don't be stupid, dump his A$$
2007-09-18 07:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by Heather B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all i can tell right now that he has an immature approach to dating; it seems to me that he feels as though his needs and feelings are well over yours. Thats ok for some people i guess; But clearly he is only holding on too you because you DO give him the attention and what appears to be TOO much of yourself. I'm not trying to bash the guy because if the genders were reversed i would feel the same way. I think maybe the two of you are looking for different types of relationship. Nothing wrong with getting what you want.The problem here is that BOTH of you need to want the same thing in a partner.Sorry honey. CLearly thats Not the case,do you really need to ask what to do? Good Luck Either Way :o
2007-09-18 08:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by Amy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people will suggest leaving him for good and others will suggest hanging in there. I say, why not do both? If he wants to see other people, say fine, but that doesn't mean you won't either. Get yourself back into the dating world and see what's out there while he's off flirting and doing his thing. However don't completely dismiss the idea of getting back with him. Open all your doors. That way if he does leave for good, you have this great new pool of guys to choose from but if he does come back and want another chance, you can consider it.
Who knows, maybe you'll find someone better in the meantime.
2007-09-18 07:31:23 · answer #3 · answered by Lunar Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
My question to you would be how old are you both? I mean... if you are in High School or Middle School, you are both to young to really think about a serious relationship right now anway! Now, take your time and enjoy your early years. You will have plenty of time for LOVE when you are older. You are both more then likely going to meet many people along the way relationship wise. Do not make such a BIG DEAL about being without a guy! Be true to yourself and find other things to do without A GUY to fill the void. REMEMBER,
you complete yourself! And lastly, stop saying.... like this or you know like...It sounds very inmature.
2007-09-18 07:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just let it go. especially if u are young. last time i told a guy i wanted to take a break I ended up going out with a different guy 2 days later. To this day we are still together (4 years) and we will be getting married in 8 months. I hope my ex still doesnt think we are only on a break lol
2007-09-18 07:27:27 · answer #5 · answered by hazellaura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he wants to cheat on you and by taking a "break" he can come back and say that he never has cheated on you technically. This is a pattern that he'll keep up for as long as you let him - him taking a "break" every time he's bored of you just because he knows you'll take him back.
My advice is for you to either accept that you're nothing more than a security blanket or dump him completely and save yourself from the endless drama.
2007-09-18 07:33:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take a "forever" break from him.
For goodness sakes, can't you see he wants to date other people without the hassle of being accused of cheating? He really wants to cheat but wants to get off on a technicality.
My advice is to let him make some other girl miserable. You've paid your dues. Now try to understand that what this guy's asking is NOT characteristic of someone who cares about you. Experiences with guys like this are what lead us to distinguish between the treasures and the trash.
2007-09-18 07:35:24 · answer #7 · answered by pufferoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, that is just a typical guy. How old are you two? Sounds like he is either met someone and wants to be with her so he wants to take a break and not cheat on you and then if it doesnt work out with her then you two will get back together. i would get rid of him and dont take him back, you are better than that! any girl is! Don't let anyone treat you that way, he just wants to go explore, let him go explore and let him know you won't be there for him when he comes back.
2007-09-18 07:29:53 · answer #8 · answered by becky p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants a break because he has found someone already. 99 out of 100 times, wanting a break means breaking up without having to be at fault.
Ive done it, and had it done to me also. Since I found out what it feels like to be on the flip side, I have vowed to never do that again.
Just tell him that you dont play little games and you think its best if you two stop seeing each other.
2007-09-18 07:30:39 · answer #9 · answered by Rick R , Super Duper Samurai 侍 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say he is definitely a stand-up guy to let you know ahead of time instead of cheating on you and you finding out and being extremely hurt. Agree that you two can date others and maybe date each other when the opportunity arises (remember that when you love something and let it go, if it returns it loves you back). Good luck and God Bless.
2007-09-18 07:28:28 · answer #10 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has to take a break because you haven't seem each other in 3 weeks...to me that says " Ive already found someone I like and I want to see where it goes before I actually pursue it"
Personally, I think that he has already made up his mind. Why would you let someone dictate your happiness?? I know you like him and that is why you are dating but if hes willing to put you aside and come back to be with you if he wants to...what kind of sh!t is that???
Are you willing to sit around and be his 2nd choice??
2007-09-18 07:28:25 · answer #11 · answered by Jae Rae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋