Will leaving my daughter in a wet diaper help her become potty trained?

Question

She's 2 1/2 and she can't stand being wet anymore. She cries and cries whenever she's wet for me to change her "Damper" (diaper & pamper mixed together LOL) Anyway if I leav her in the diaper will it hel with tht potty training. I need to get her out of diapers already!! I know she's ready because she hates diapers and just wants to wear her panties but she always pees in them still. I don't even know how to being to potty train!!

I don't mean all day!!!! Come on people!! I mean she comes running to me right after she pees once. I mean to leave her in it after a few times instead of just one pee!!

Answer 1

No - and not advisable. This is not how the free world potty trains their kids. Sorry! It is a fantastic way to end up with diaper rash though. Probably not what you want.

Here are the steps and it's worked like a charm with all of my four children (some are more stubborn than others, but it was basically easy - easy - easy!)

#1
NO diapers, NO pull-ups, nothing that even resembles a diaper because she needs to be all done with them. If she still needs one overnight, that's fine, but I would wake my kids up in the middle of the night to go and they didn't have accidents.
#2
Go to the store and buy at least 2 packages of panties. Let her pick them out! Also pick out treats (and these shouldn't be candy, but something healthy that she loves and doesn't have very often - something very special)
#3
Take an entire weekend off and dedicate it to potty training.
#4
On Friday, or whichever day you choose, beginning in the AM - take all bottoms off. Tell her what you're doing - no more yucky diapers, she's big! Tell her she's going to go on the potty all day and get treats! She gets to run around bare all day, except for a shirt. If she is taking a nap - of course, give her a blanket.
#5
GIVE HER LOTS TO DRINK! It can be Milk, juice or water - but give her lots. I think I gave my oldest kool-aid (which I never did, but I wanted her to drink a lot, hence, she would have to go a lot). Keep her in a room without carpets, if at all possible.
#6
WATCH HER LIKE A HAWK - as soon as she starts to go (and she will eventually), pick her up and run her to the bathroom. I used a seat that clipped onto the toilet seat. It worked great - I told my daughter it was HERS and she was all happy. As soon as she gets anything into the toilet - she gets a treat. Tons of praise - tell her how proud you are and how big she is!!! Make a huge deal - clap, hug - everything.

Continue to give lots of fluids - when she has to go - ask her - or wait until she starts going again. With all of mine, they were 2 yrs old and they were telling me by the 3rd or 4th time they had to go - they continued all weekend and by Sunday, they were wearing underwear and telling me when they had to go. Everytime they went, they got treats and it was a big deal.
If she has an accident in her pants - I found by making it unpleasant, they quit doing it. I would say, "Oh NO! That's not good - what a mess!" Hand her a washcloth and make her clean as much as she is able. Try not to help. The more times she has to clean herself (and do not turn this into bathtime with toys - there is no reward here) and take care of the wet clothes, the quicker she'll stop = it works like a charm. I even made the water just cooler than warm. It wasn't cold, but it wasn't pleasant and I would say, "I can't afford hot water for your bath and this all the time. You're going to have to hurry." Oh did my 2nd daughter hate that! She'd cry and whine and I just ignored her and acted disappointed.
You can do it - just do not give in and don't make it a battle of wills. She's ready - take 3 days and get rid of the diapers for good!
Best Wishes!

Answer 2

wet diapers will not help her. You need to suck it up and deal with the mess of wet undies, but only if she's really ready to learn. Consider cloth training pants, which are like quadruple layered underwear. Some have an extra layer of padding in the crotch to help soak up leaks. You can wear a plastic diaper cover over the whole thing. Some training pants even have a built in plastic outer layer.

Relax about the potty training thing; your daughter will pick up on your tension about it and become very tense about it as well instead of treating it like a natural occurance. I worked myself into tears on more than one occasion when pottty training my first daughter and really tried to lighten up for the next. Punishment is definitely not the answer, ever. You've got to be super upbeat about it. Will she use the potty at all? I found that it helped to do very frequent diaper checks/changes when really starting the pt process hard so I could get an idea when my daughter peed. No sense in sitting on the potty if she just went in the diaper, but if you change it right away when you notice it's even a smidge wet then you can tell if it's been awhile since she peed and then it's worth trying to have some potty time. It sounds like your dd is ready to learn; having a preference for dry pants is the first and most important sign of readiness. Good luck.

Answer 3

I wouldn't leave her in a wet diaper - the reason we change them frequently isn't so much for comfort as it is for hygiene. A wet diaper is a wonderful breeding ground for bacteria. What you will do by letting her stay in it is probably give her a urinary tract infection.

Put her in the panties. Take her to the potty every hour and ask her to try to pee. When she does, reward her with praise and a hug and a kiss. When she has an accident, have her help clean herself up, and don't scold or punish her. Just tell her that next time she needs to do that on the potty. It takes time.

Edit to add: Don't rush the bed-time thing and don't get angry or shame your child for wetting the bed. Some children do not outgrow night-time wetting for a very, very long time, even if you train YOURSELF to get up in the night and try to make the kid go potty at 2 am (see this site: http://www.medem.com/MedLB/article_detaillb.cfm?article_ID=ZZZ30FMNH4C&sub_cat=109 ) Of my four children, two had to wear diapers or pull-ups until kindergarden and still had occasional accidents until the age of 9 or 10. After talking with my parents and my husband's parents, we discovered a family history of enuresis on both sides of our family.

Answer 4

I would suggest putting the panties on her. If she HATES to be wet, she'll really hate the feeling of the pee running down her leg. It took my son peeing in his big boy undies 3 times before he realized he hated it and wanted to pee in the potty. He's been doing great ever since. Leaving her in a wet diaper will probably just cause diaper rash and that's a whole different problem.

*Keevelish - I use the sticker method and it works great. My son LOVES to get a sticker after going potty. My mom did the same thing with me. I'm 24 years old and am perfectly happy with going potty without getting a sticker anymore thank you very much. *rolls eyes* The reward system is to get them started. Eventually, they'll go potty just because they have to go and could care less about a reward. Sheesh.

Answer 5

You are sending her mixed messages by taking her in and out of diapers. Its time to stop them all together. During the day put her in panties and take her to the bathroom every 30 minutes or when ever she tell you she needs to go.Especially after she eat or drinks anything. Let her spend at least 5 minutes each time on the potty. Purchase some pull-up and use them only during nap time and bedtime.

And I will let you in on a secret. my daughter was very stubborn about potty training. She would sit on the potty but it was when she was relaxed and watching Dora or another TV show that she peed her panties. So I took the potty from the bathroom and placed it on a plastic mat in front of the TV. It worked!!! for 20-30 minutes she would sit and every time she would take care of business too. My friends used to laugh but in just three short weeks she was totally trained during the day. it took about 6 more months to stay dry at night but that wasn't too bad with the use of pull-up.
Remember kids take different amounts to train so don't get discouraged. It will happen.

Answer 6

I wouldnt suggest leaving her in a wet diaper too long, seeing as it could cause some nasty diaper rash. Dont rush the potty training....it will happen when it happens.

Best thing you can do, when she does go in the potty.....make a big deal out of it. Give her praise, jump up and down, clap. Let her know you are very happy with her, maybe even offer a treat for her going. Just remember, accidents are going to happen. Be patient

Answer 7

Nope, it's showing her that you don't care if she gets diaper rash or not, which is most likely to happen. You're putting way too much pressure on her, you and the whole situation. Some kids aren't even reasdy until they are 4 years old. it will happen. Let her lead the way. make the potty available to her and she will do it on her own. POTTY is a control issue for children in a world where they have little control of thier environment or what goes on in their daily lives. Praise her if she asks to use the potty. Change if she's wet. Don't make it such a big deal and don't be in such a rush for her to grow up.

Answer 8

Leaving her in her diaper is totally contradictory to the goal you have. The best way to get your daughter out of diapers is to get her out of them. Literally. Leaving her in a wet diaper will just lead to diaper rash. Go get some undies for her (NOT pull-ups) and toss the diapers forever. Don't go back to them, even if you have to clean some messes.

Be very open about your bathroom habits, and anounce when you have to go. Let your daughter follow you into the bathroom and watch you. Let her know that she can tell you when she feels the urge to go, and ask her often if she needs to use the bathroom.

Talk about going to the bathroom all day long. Wherever you are, like point out little children who go into the restroom with their moms at the supermarket and tell her that you are so glad that she is a big girl and can use the bathroom just like that little boy does.

Get her on a bathroom schedule and tell her that we go potty after drinking, or eating, or before bed, and when we wake up. That way she will learn to automatically go after these things. Wake her up at the same time during the night if need be to use the bathroom. Her body will naturally wake her up when she gets used to it.

Have patience and don't give up. Don't ever get frustrated at your daughter and make going to the bathroom a positive thing. But don't use treats and stickers- what do you do when she is older- still give her them? They don't work.

Answer 9

I don't think that will work well. Have you tried setting up some kind of reward system? Like a chart with fun stickers that she gets to put up everytime she successfully uses the potty. Then take stickers away when she goes in the diaper. Make sure to give her rewards often, like every 10 stickers she gets a piece of candy, or a small toy, or extra TV time.

I have heard that using cloth diapers reminds kids that they are wet earlier and makes them uncomfortable, so it speeds up the process of potty training. Since she's used to disposables, maybe trying some cloth diapers will make her uncomfortable enough that she'll start using the potty.

Answer 10

No. The fact that she hates the wetness is a plus for you.
Take her with you (when you have to go) to the bathroom and inbetween your time because the trick with girls is to get them to do it a couple of times in the potty. They will catch on quick after the first couple of times. Making the bowel movements take a little longer and be sure to praise her a lot.
Even after she begins to use the potty, carry extra panties/pants because accidents will happen and almost always away from home.