Neither is a proper thing to say. A simple "I'm so sorry for your loss" would be appropriate.
2007-09-18 05:56:42
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answered by glitterkittyy 7
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I'd feel that it was the truth, as that would be the case, the young often have a harder time battling diseases. I would not speak such things as to tarnish the memory of my lost daughter. Instead I would focus my energy on comforting the family I still possessed and help them cope and go on with their lives. I'd grieve, but always cherish the time I spent with my daughter and work most likely be awakened to how quickly life can be taken away and work extra hard to make the most of the time I have with my family.
2007-09-18 05:58:47
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answered by Jett 4
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The "part of the plan" tactic is stupid, to be sure. But it is also well-intentioned, and is a feeble attempt to provide comfort by eliminating the sense of randomness in the tragedy. The survival theme is the exact opposite - it attempts to remove comfort by emphasizing the sense of randomness that already makes greiving more difficult.
2007-09-18 05:59:27
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answered by NONAME 7
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It would upset me if someone said that he or she was not fit enought to survive. I personally think that it is more of an insult than someone saying that it is part of God's plan. Saying it's part of God's plan isn't saying your son or daughter wasn't fit enough or good enough.
2007-09-18 06:00:31
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answered by Michelle R 3
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We lost our youngest son to heart trouble. (Aortic Stenosis) This was so devastating we could not handle it.
The Christians these people bash on here everyday are the ones who came to our aid. Not an Atheist in the bunch knew how to help.
My mother was a christian already.
Through this we all now live for God including my Dad who was never a believer.
How would I feel? I would probably be offended if someone just came right out and said that. I still wrestle at times with it, but when I look at all that was accomplished, I accept it.
2007-09-18 05:59:09
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answered by ? 5
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Evolution isn't really "survival of the fittest" as much as it is "survival of the genome"
Cancer is just unfortunate. Good thing we live in a time where we can at the very least least attempt to do something about it
2007-09-18 05:58:18
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answered by Southpaw 7
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God is Loving remember Gods plan was for ppl to live eternally in a paradise earth.
Revelation 21:4 says God will to away with Death
PPl dying is not Gods plan merely the consequences of the sin that Adam did Rom 6:23
2007-09-18 06:01:28
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answered by excited2bet 2
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Been there.
I won't say anything, as anybody who made such a comment would not be worth the breath required for my speech.
It would not be worth it to tell them that ignorance makes them unfit for society, so I'd keep that thought to myself.
Who is to decide why such things happen? Who is so arrogant as to try? Unless you are in a lab, working on finding the reason and thus the cure, shut up.
2007-09-18 06:01:06
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answered by Anonymous
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All of those answers are ignorant and insensitive. The idea here is to comfort, not give stupid platitudes. Tell the bereaved how sorry you are for their loss and ask if there is any way you can help. Listen and encourage them to talk about their lost child. When people are bereaved they neither care about "God's plan" or "evolution". They just miss their loved one and want to have them back.
2007-09-18 06:02:31
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answered by Anonymous
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I'd feel anger! As Christians we are to mourn with those who mourn and be happy for those who are happy. Often times we say things that make sense to us but it's at the wrong time and we aren't in that persons shoes and should probably be backhanded for it. I know because I can be a foot in mouth expert.
2007-09-18 12:17:28
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answered by Anonymous
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i could get her some counseling and maybe some team scientific care with adolescents her age that lost a determine. At her age it rather is mandatory to "fit in" and he or she probably feels on my own and at a loss for words. As with the God difficulty, do no longer push her. I keep in mind every time I heard the "It improve into her/his time to pass" difficulty i could get much greater mad because of the fact i could no longer comprehend it as I do now. I somewhat have felt an identical difficulty many cases. interior of a year of my husband and that i assembly we lost 3 relatives participants, and a pair of others had extreme injuries. between those we lost improve into my mom in regulation and it improve into in a tragic twist of destiny. I blamed God and refused to have faith God could try this so "needless to say" there is not any God. even however, i eventually observed the mild lower back. God works in mysterious approaches and he or she would be in a position to ultimately come around whilst she is waiting. She is fortunate her mom had this form of stable pal as you who would be there to assist. it somewhat is amazingly spectacular of you to take her in and help her relatives out. stable success, take care, and God bless.
2017-01-02 08:32:01
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answered by marica 3
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