My husband and I will be going to two weddings: my co-worker in October and a friend in November. We don't want to spend too much nor give too little.
2007-09-18 05:05:21 · 16 answers · asked by charlotte 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
its not the price that matters its the thought that goes in to the gift you get them. try to get them something that will last a long time or that they need. they will love it more cos u thought about the item and not the price...xxx
2007-09-18 05:12:29 · answer #1 · answered by cinderella 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you're close to your co-worker, I would say that $20 or a gift from the registry is plenty. For your friend, I would do $40 or so.
I know some people are gonna think that is way low, but yesterday I opened up all the cards from my reception on Saturday, and most people gave $25. Some people gave as much as $50, and my grandparents gave $100. People who I didn't know as well (such as some more distant relatives in his family) gave $20, one group gave a card that they all signed, and about a dozen showed up empty handed, with two of them saying they did plan on giving something, but I would have to wait because they didn't have it yet.
It might be a regional thing, but people on here always suggest $50 or $100 at least, but it seems to me like that is NOT what the average guest usually gives.
2007-09-18 12:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My first cousin just got married this past weekend. The wedding was a three hour drive for my bf and me and a 4 hour drive for my family. Anyway, we spent $20 on one gift for the couple. I am currently between jobs at the moment and the couple knows that. My bf and I also had to pay for gas and a hotel room for the wedding weekend, too. We got the gift from the registry. Just give what you can afford. It's honestly not all about the gifts or money, it's about the people who are in attendance for the wedding and celebration.
2007-09-18 12:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by Case 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That "cover your plate" stuff is a load of crap. If I want to spend $50 on dinner, I would go to a nice restaurant of my own choosing and order exactly what I want. Not go to a wedding and eat a plate of something I didn't order. The couple invited me to their wedding, so I am giving them a gift for their wedding. If they invited me to their house for dinner, I wouldn't be expected to cover my plate for that, would I?
I will give them something I can afford and feel comfortable with. In my part of the country, $50 would be a decent gift. If I am feeling flush and want to show off, then more than that. If it is someone I really like, then maybe $100.
I don't buy off registries because of stories of couples putting stuff on the list so they can return it for cash. Why waste my time buying something someone is just going to return?
2007-09-18 12:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I tell people 15% of their weekly incomes is a good starting point. For a co-worker who you aren't close to I may drop this down to 10% or so. Usually this ends up with a number that doesn't break the bank. Your income determines alot. For instance if my poor college student friend gave me $50 it would be much diff. than if my millionare aunt gave me $50.
Honestly, the BS about "covering your plate" is so retarded. Weddings are not fundraisers and it's not your job to make sure the couple can afford their wedding. If they couldn't afford the $100 a plate location they should have picked someplace else or invited less people. It's retarded for someone to shell out $200 for a chicken dinner and end up eating ramean for two months because that was their grocery budget for the next three weeks or something. IMO if a couple expects a person to "cover their plate" then they should give options of plates at various price ranges.
2007-09-18 12:13:03 · answer #5 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes, I agree that weddings are not fundraisers, but the purpose of giving a gift at a wedding is to help the couple out with their new life - thus the registry, etc.
I agree that you should give what you can afford. You definately shouldn't extend all of your finances because of the weddings, but you should give a nice gift. I know that for my wedding I would feel a little offended if a couple gave me $25 dollars when I spent money to pay for their food, drinks, cake and dancing for the evening. You spend more than $25 going out to eat at a chain restaurant these days.
I think it depends on the event itself also. If one wedding is in someone's backyard and is a little more casual, I would think a $40 gift off of their registry would be appropriate. If a wedding is going to be a sit-down formal affair, I would give them a $100 check.
2007-09-18 12:26:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
The ideal amount to spend for any gift for any occasion is whatever you can afford comfortably! If money is of no consequence in your situation, then I would probably spend about $50 for a friends wedding gift, more for a close family member.
2007-09-18 12:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by naniannie 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its more based on what you can afford. At my wedding I recieved lots of different priced things... from $25 gift cards to expensive pieces of china... I loved everything and was not offended by "just" $25. Give what you can afford.
Check out their registries, they may have lots of items on there that they really want or really need no matter what the price. One of my favorite items on my registry was only $30.... when I got it I absolutely loved it and was so greatful!
2007-09-18 12:24:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if they have gone to a store and registared just buy something that you can afford. Besides it's the thought that counts not the size of the presents not unless the bride and groom think they should get expensive things, then it just shamefull. Because they should be glad to get a gift.
2007-09-18 12:14:25 · answer #9 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it really depends on how close to the couple you are...
i would say between 20 and 30 pounds is a fare gift...or gift vouchers are a good idea...they will probably get alot of them then they can put them all 2gether and get something they really want ..alot of people these days make out a list of things they would like as gifts..you could ask them what they would really like...i find sets of really nice towels are a usefull and good gift...cant have too many towels..x
2007-09-18 12:13:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My rule of thumb is around $50 if I buy a present, and $50 for a gift card.
2007-09-18 12:19:53 · answer #11 · answered by SisterSue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋