What are some excuses you give you boyfriend/husband whatever when you don't want to have sex? My boyfriend is convinced that i don't want to have sex with him because he thinks i'm giving it to someother guy. When the truth is i don't have a reason, I just don't want to do it!!!
2007-09-18 04:46:05 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am appauled by the first comment left on here by Mr sarcasm, and DONT YOU LISTEN TO A WORD OF IT!
Personally, I don't give excuses as I love my sex, and I love giving head as well but sometimes I'm not always in the mood to do that.
I often say to my partner if I'm trying to get out of it "just put your arms round me a minute" and when I've begun talking to him he sometimes drifts off and after a few minutes they lose their hard on anyway!! Other times I tell him I don't feel well or have stomach cramps, or sometimes that I'm too tired (although that doesn't often work)
And at this point I'm really hoping my partner doesn't log on to here!!
If you don't want sex AT ALL then this guy isn't doing something right, or your not sexually compatible. This can be a problem. What you need to do is be open and honest with each other, tell each other what you really want. Write it down if you want if you are too embarrassed to say it.
Before I can help you further I need to know a little more about what the ex is like and I understand if you don't want to tell a complete stranger, but I am good at giving advice, especially about sex and relationships, so if you want a little help, email me, I check my emails quite a few times daily.
2007-09-18 04:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_steph27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not having any desire is bad thing. You should find out why you do not have the desire. Sex is a beautiful expression of love. frustration, joy and hate. You boyfriend should be concerned if you do not have the desire but he should also try to get you in the mood.
I went without sex for a long time because my ex- husband was never in the mood. It can ruin relationships. Sex is just a big deal as loving the other person. I am not saying you should do it everyday but find out why you do not want to at all.
2007-09-18 11:59:17 · answer #2 · answered by cannon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the truth is always the best in my eyes. I would let him know how you are feeling and ask him to respect your choices. Your body belongs to you, not him.
Now if you are looking for an excuse just tell him you have a headach or that you are not feeling well. That's an old one that lots of women would say. If he still don't accept that answer then tell him you are suffering from a yeast infection!! That should get the point across to him, then maybe he will take a hint.
Either way, Good-luck and Best Wishes!
2007-09-18 11:53:22 · answer #3 · answered by blondieoftexas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told him that you just don't want to...
People do go through moments in life when sex just isn't the main thing in their life. Our bodies go through changes, which can cause people to loose their sex drive, it comes back; but it does happen. I would just tell him the truth... Or do what I do, I just tell my husband that I don't feel good or that I am really tired and now wouldn't be a good time, and he always seems to be OK with it!
If he doesn't trust you then that is a whole different story! Talk to him!
Good luck to you sweetie!
2007-09-18 11:54:25 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't want to say i agree with the boys on this one, but some people think sex is an important part of a relationship, and if he really get's upset i could see him wanting to leave! BUT what would work is saying your tired! You worked hard, or tell him the truth say your not in the mood. But i must say if my lover was using excuses i would leave him.
2007-09-18 11:52:56 · answer #5 · answered by mommak071005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth. There are lots of guys who would prefer not to be dating a girl who doesn't like to have sex often, and you need to give him the opportunity to make up his own mind as to whether he wants to stay with you.
My advice - figure out why you don't want to have sex and fix it pronto. If it's him, dump him. If it's your problem (psychological, physical) get to a doctor. Lying to him won't help anything.
2007-09-18 11:55:47 · answer #6 · answered by Elizabeth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question is why dont u want it? but aside from that, u could use the age old excuse of a headache and make sure u act real good... make him pamper u in the process so that u get him to believe u really are sick and at the same time, help revive ur libido.
2007-09-18 11:52:17 · answer #7 · answered by Love B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I say that I don't want to have sex, which is rare, I don't have an "excuse" per se. It just means I don't feel like it right then. He knows I'll be up for it later, so it isn't a problem.
2007-09-18 11:51:01 · answer #8 · answered by gorgeous 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it's just not the right time. You don't have to give him sex if you don't want to. If he can't understand then he needs to find someone else.
My husband will get mad at me for not wanting it. They all do that. I don't know any man that won't get mad.
Just remember you are not under any obligation to have sex with him. If you give it to him freely it is a privilige
2007-09-18 11:53:34 · answer #9 · answered by Cindy T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation. I have sat my fiance down and explained that I dont have the desire anymore. I need to work things out and it has nothing to do with him. I explain its not attraction, or that I hate him its just I need some "me" time and right now sex isnt something I need to work on.
2007-09-18 11:52:16 · answer #10 · answered by mychellelynne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋