How many guys would still be there!!?

Question

I don't wear a lot of makeup but I do wear some. Sometimes in the morning do to allergies and aging skin, my eyes are puffy underneath. Actually sometimes it lasts all day. My hear is kind of on the dry side so in the morning it looks awful. I guess what I'm saying is I feel I look like a wreck in the morning. I guess I'm not a natural beauty. This actually hinders me. I broke up with someone of 8 years about a year ago. I'm afraid to get close to someone because I'm afraid once they see me, really me they'll leave. The last guy and I had many problems but 1 thing he had was he could see me anyway and he looked at me the same. How many guys if you got to know someone, and then down the road saw them like this would stick around?

Answer 1

Girl! You are not the only one who doesn't look cute in the mornings. OMG YOU ARE HUMAN! You just need to have more self confidence and pick up an "this is me take it or leave it attitude" Look at it this way. Do you stay with a guy because of his looks and then want to leave him once you find one little "flaw". NO. Thats usually not how it goes. Sure people we are initially attracted to someone for their looks but it runs much deeper than that. You are going to make yourself miserable if you maintain your lack of self esteem and confidence. Love yourself and others will love you as well :)

Answer 2

The whole key is: "then down the road saw them" with no makeup. That's the trick.

If you wear makeup, then suddenly stop, that's just false advertising! lol
I prefer little or no makeup at all. That is the type of woman I gravitate toward.
A little is just fine. Too much is not good at all.

We all are what we are.
I hope you find someone who accepts you just as you are. Try to stay true to yourself from the beginning, and there will be no letdown for "him" later.
I know, much easier said than done, but it's the truth.

Randy Travis lyrics come to mind: "Honey I don't care, I ain't in love with your hair. And if it all fell out, I'd love you anyway."

There are some men out there who's affection is that genuine.
"A good mate is hard to find" is the real problem here, not you.

Answer 3

honey, i think all of us girls look like a train wreck when we first wake up! at least, every girl i know complains of the same thing haha. my boyfriend sees me when i wake up, he sees me when im bed-ridden sick, and when i cry. and he thinks i'm the most beautiful girl he's ever seen no matter how crappy i look. when you find someone who REALLY loves you, they think you look wonderful no matter how bad you really look! i'm sure you look great throughout the day, once you're finally awake =]


p.s. but if you really are self concious..here's some hints! for really dry hair, such as mine & yours, i recommend you start using a leave in conditioner made by Infusium 23 called Moisturetherapie! i started using it and my hair is no longer a dry mess =] good luck hunnie!

and try taking some benadryl before you sleep! it'll help with the allergy-puffiness in the morning =]

Answer 4

I looked at some of your other questions and you seem very insecure. I think if you would find some things to do that you enjoy and would just do those things and quit worrying so much about what other people think you would be happier. I'm sure that there is a beautiful woman in there just waiting for the right person to discover you.

Answer 5

Most guys don't care, at least the good ones. Stop caring what other guys think, because its only really what you think that matters. When I say that, if you wake up in the morning and only think of yourself and see your self as beautiful, then thats what they'll see.

You'll also have to stop looking so closely in the mirror, especially a magnifying one!!

Answer 6

i might unload him asap. If he likes yet another woman and he or she him, WHAT ARE YOU DOING??? actual love does not play video games or have wandering eyes, this is committed and confusing paintings. you're able to desire to make certain this as a purple flag, a deal breaker, strike 3. Your youthful, i'm guessing, you need to not additionally be pondering a intense courting that is going to reason you lack of self belief. have exciting, do no longer exchange into overly invested in this, WHAT? you are able to no longer flirt? circulate on, the writing is on the wall and it spells hassle. Do your self a prefer and decrease the guy unfastened, despite if it extremely is destined to be, this is going to run this is direction and he would be back. yet why you will possibly take him back purely you are able to answer.

Answer 7

You know a lot of women have to do a lot of things to try and look pretty, but if you're happy with you're self all that other shouldn't matter. but in real life I guess it does, men should know that in the mornings a person isn't going to look their best men and women both, that's why we take showers and freshen up, before we start our day!

Answer 8

It's not as rare as you think because face it, we all look like hell in the mornings(at least from our own points of view)...don't sweat it, because everyone has some quirk they feel is overwhelmingly obvious to other people, but most times folks are too absorbed in their own situations to worry about what someone else has going on.

Answer 9

Usually us guys that stick around for awhile do so because we like who you are. We start seeing you because of attraction, but keep seeing you because we like the person. Not necessarily the physical appearance.

Answer 10

If the guy loves you it shouldn't matter what you look like underneath all the make up...they should love you for YOU not who that want you to be.