Can you help me get rid of this nut?

Question

Alright so it was last week when we had our PE class. After that class when we were changing our clothes this girl(my classmate) just walked in and just passed by some of us mostly naked. The next day she sat beside me and I could have swore to have heard her saying "SEX" to my ears in such a manner that was very sexual. I mean what the!!! I admit I had an erection but Im not interested in her. Im inlove with someone else someone smarter, nicer and more religious than she is. But you know Im a virgin and to have someone as hot as that nut coming to you for sex its really tempting. Even today she continues but I dont tell her to stop. Could I be possibly liking this? I want to tell her to just stop but the whole class kinda thinks were you know TOGETHER coz she would always make it appear that we are. I dont want to be viewed badly by anyone and I know that if I told her to stop she would be up to something. I need help desperately. What to do? How do I make her want someone else?

Answer 1

Well sweetie...this girl doesnt want YOU she just wants to have power over you... You could give in but you'd end up feeling absolutely awful.....especially when she ignores you straight after in the classroom or corridors. You should just turn around next time and laugh and say "look hun, I'm so not interested in the type of girl you are, go and try to play with someone else's mind haha"...

Good luck ;)

Answer 2

I don't think you can make her want someone else. To a young man, I guess it could be very tempting, but just keep in mind what you stand for. You are a virgin? Well, if you want to stay that way until you have found the one, and I hope you do, no matter what this girl does or says, tell her you are not interested. I can see how you could be enjoying the attention, after all she is giving you an ego boost, what guy wouldn't love it? If you are in love with someone else, let this girl know that and talk to the girl you like. Let her know that you are interested in her and the other girl wont leave you alone. Possibly the girl that is bothering is dealing with some hidden self esteem issues and feel she needs to act in a sexual way to make boys like her, thus making herself think her self esteem is great. What ever happens, just tell her you are not interested, and let her know up front that if she doesn't stop you will have to talk to someone (like a school counselor) about her sexually harrassing behavior. I'd hate for it to come to that, but you may have to do that. On the other hand, she may be looking for someone to firmly say no and actually mean it. As for what others think, well it really is none of their business, but you can let people know that you are not together, and then never mind what they say.
good luck, and i hope this helps you.

Answer 3

A couple of things come to mind that are worth mentioning here. (1) You can be completely against the situation and still get an erection, in fact it's most likely that you will because you're a virgin. (2) You can be attracted to her on some levels and still not like her as a person, that's a constant, but it's made even more likely again because you're a virgin. I would suggest that (to the extent that it's possible to do so) you just play it cool and not say anything about it one way or the other. Why? Because for some people mentioning things to them that you want them to curtail makes them do those annoyances even more (so if she's already a little quirky that may be the spark to set her off into high gear). Another more practical reason is this: sometimes a quirky person can be a real ally because they have a tendency to see things a bit differently from other folks, in which case it would be better having her on your side than against you. Quirky people have an enormous amount of self-power largely because they don't spend much time worrying about what other people think, so you can learn a lot from them and having them appear to be on your side lets you piggyback off their reputation to an extent....which could come in handy in ways you haven't even thought of yet. Basically, your problem's not as big as you thought it was. This could be opportunity disguised as trouble.

Answer 4

If she really is bothering you, you're going to have to tell her very sternly to leave you alone, you're with someone else. Tell her you're not even slightly interested in her because your girlfriend is so much better than she is. I know it sounds a little harsh, but some girls just have to be told very directly and personally.

If that doesn't seem to work for her, you may have to resort to a more public talk with her. You know, you may have to say something very loudly and maybe a little insulting in front of her friends or your friends. I hate to suggest that, but some girls just don't take the hint easily.

As far as making her want someone else, you can't do that, but you can make her stop flirting with you.

And kudos, by the way, for holding onto your virginity and your morals! Hang on to the smart, nice, religious girl!

Answer 5

You have to start by telling her that it makes you uncomfortable for her to say certain things because you are involved with someone. Let her know that you care about your girlfriend and that you would do nothing to hurt her. This girl may already think you are interested because you haven't told her to stop. Also, when you and your girlfriend are away from a crowd, you should make her aware of what is going on. That way, she will know from you and not someone else. Make your girlfriend aware that you have handled the situation and told this girl you are not interested so that your girlfriend doesn't feel like she has to handle it. You have to tell this girl to stop saying these things and coming up to you when she see you. If you don't tell her, she will not stop. Good Luck.

Answer 6

Well you can't make her want someone else if she likes you. But I would set definite walls up so she understood that if she continues her lewd behavior that you will go to the principal and complain sexual harassment. If she persists then I would call it a stalking case on top of that. Any unwanted sexual attention is harassment no matter if your male or female. Hope this helps but I would do something soon so that you don't lose your girlfriend she sounds really nice and that would be ashame.

Answer 7

Tell her to stop and stop being mean to your girlfriend by accepting the advances. If you really love your girlfriend as much as you say you wouldn't want some random girl to be hitting on you in such a way nor would you like the idea of people thinking you are with her.

Answer 8

Lol, Joseph and Potipher's wife, that's a good example. Look man, if you really are religious and if you really like your girlfriend, then just tell her you're not interested. Don't let it drag on for too long, tell her now before your girl finds out that you've been letting this girl whisper in your ear for the time you did. Be direct and tell that you're not interested with a serious tone.

You just better hope she isn't as aggressive as Potipher's wife...

Answer 9

If she's hot, she probably knows she's hot and she's just being a tease. Just keep ignoring her and eventually she'll realize you aren't interested and that every guy isn't interested in just sex. Maybe she noticed you had an erection and is now just having "fun with it", thinking if she talks dirty (by saying "sex") that she can make it happen again. Think about other things when she's around so it doesn't happen again. She sounds like a jerk, lol.

Answer 10

Just Ignore her as much as possible. Another way is to start flirting with someone else in class and start to buddy up to that person. Get people you know in class involved. I had this girl that tried to be all over me all the time. So i talked to my friends and we came up with a plan, if she came around i would have my girlfriends hang all over me. Sure it drove the chick crazy but she got the drift. And she wont blam you for it cause your not the one being mean. In her eyes is the other girls.