Parenting a toddler, especially one that cannot efficiently communicate verbally yet, can be extremely difficult. Though they are still our precious babies, we need to make sure that they are learning what behaviors are right, and what are wrong. Besides positively reinforcing good behavior, what do you do to make sure that your little one is becoming a respectful, loving child?
2007-09-18 03:22:16 · 7 answers · asked by G is for Grover 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
ive seen several answers that says say that a one year old cannot determine right from wrong... i am speaking from experience though. i started the time out chair with my daughter at around 11 months... before that i said no no and took things away from her but when she was walking good and i noticed that she could determine what buttons make noise on a toy or which people she remembered from the last time she seen them.. i knew she could also remember right from wrong. it took untill her 13 month mark before she would set there for her full min without getting up but it works. she is now almost 21 months and we still use the chair. when she is doing something wrong all we have to say is "do you want to go to the time out chair?" and she will stop doing what she is doing and say no. she also says please and thank you... i know she doesnt know what it means when she says it yet but one day she will. we do on occasion have to spat her hand. she is like any other toddler and likes to test the limits every once in a while... but ive noticed that it is usually when she is late for a nap or she is sick. we try to avoid those situations by keeping her on a schedule of some sort. i really hope this information helps you
2007-09-18 03:50:26 · answer #1 · answered by hdw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only negative reinforcement you can employ on a little kid like that is getting down on his level, looking into his eyes and saying, "No, Derek, No-no!"
Now if a safety issue is involved, you can demonstrate to the child why he shouldn't' touch (like a candle) "hot! hot!" If this doesn't work though, such as a child reaching for lit cigarettes, you may have to swat his hand. You've got to make an impression on him, or he'll do it when you're in the kitchen.
One of my favorite stories my m-i-l tells is that her son, Roy, was doing something he wasn't supposed to, and he'd say, "nono, Roy, nono Roy."
Love that sweet little one,
TX Mom
Mine are 17 & 21
I'm pulling my hair out
I wish a swat would work with them!!
2007-09-18 03:35:12 · answer #2 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He got a stern reprimand and if he continued, a swat on his well-padded bottom. Time out's were pointless, as he could entertain himself while sitting on a chair in a corner by just thinking happy thoughts to himself. He needed to learn that he was not in charge, and he had to do what we told him, and most of the time the swatting occured for safety issues like running across a street, finding ways to bypass child safety devices to get to electricity, knives, or tools, or for willful and clear cut defiance. We emphasized the importance of learning to respect authority (parents, teachers, law enforcement), to respect others (neighbors, friends, relatives), and to respect other's property (their yards, cars, things in the store, etc) That worked out very well, and he is now a happy, outgoing, self-confident, friendly young man. As a student, the teachers always said "You are doing a good job."
2007-09-18 03:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by snapoutofit 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Firmly say no, and distract with another activity. It's a one year old.
Model good behaviour. Give lots of hugs and kisses. Get excited over the smallest victories.
Emphasize please and thank yous, but don't expect to actually hear the baby say it until he or she can talk. The baby learns what he or she sees.
2007-09-18 03:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best way to teach any child over the age of 11 months age is to spank them every child undestands that pain will come if they misbehave,if you do choose to do this give him a warning and a smack on the legs and say firmly no!,then if he continues pull down he pants and remove diaper(pullup ect.)and spank his bare bottom a couple a times o and make sure the child is crying or it will never work
2007-09-18 03:36:06 · answer #5 · answered by lwrymatt 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
About all you can do is say "no-no' one year is too young to understand much.
2007-09-18 03:33:27 · answer #6 · answered by PROBLEM 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
One year old is still too young to understand consequences.
If they do something "bad", you can only say to them "When you do x, I feel y." and help them develop empathy.
2007-09-18 03:29:40 · answer #7 · answered by alanastarkey 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋