My bf and i have been together for the last 4yrs.I want him to marry me but he has never proposed.our sex is so perfect but he keeps telling me that he is not ready to settle down yet.is he using me?will he marry me?why hasnt he proposed to me yet?
2007-09-18 03:07:28 · 7 answers · asked by lynn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has told you why he hasn't popped the question.
Decide what you want and then tell him.
What the does marriage mean to you?
Can you live without marriage for next 4,10,15 years?
Think on it and decide in your heart what you want and need.
Then talk to him.
2007-09-18 03:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by southernbell_1313 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, but if at least 27, and he hasn't done so by now don't hold your breath. If a man is saying he's not ready to settle down but has been with you for 4 years, what exactly does he call that? If you aren't ready to settle down then you aren't in a meaningful relationship. That's just this one man's opinion.
2007-09-18 10:14:20 · answer #2 · answered by maximus_1914 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he already answered that for you..he is not ready and you cant really rush him. The thing that I find strange is that you've been together for 4 years and all you say is that the sex is perfect?? Is the rest of the relationship going well?? or do you guys just have sex when you see each other? because if thats the case, then yeah he is just in it for a good time, if not just give him some time
2007-09-18 10:14:04 · answer #3 · answered by sweetinsanity 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I doubt he is just 'using' you...4 years is a long time to be with someone if you aren't serious with them. Sounds like he is being honest he isn't ready to 'settle down'. Men find getting married a very serious committment and some of them take a long time to get ready for that.
2007-09-18 10:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by *~*love always*~* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably has commitment issues. but dr. phil says that if you're with someone for 5 years and you aren't engaged or married already, it's time to let them go. and i wholeheartedly agree.
oh and by the way, whether he marries you should really have nothing to do with what your sex is like, but rather what your love is like. you don't marry people for sex.
2007-09-18 10:15:41 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has been yours alone for 4 years, he HAS settled down.
Has he been?
If he hasnt...... do you want to marry him?
2007-09-18 10:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by Alexander Shannon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't see you as wife-material.
2007-09-18 10:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋