I lied to my Boyfriend!!!! Please help!!!?

Question

well it's been nearly 3 months now. and we are very much in love and close... We have never fought about anything or have problems... we like a perfect couple...though something happened as he asked me a personal question about my past and lied about it as i was to scared it would ruin our relationship....now i'm regretting it... I really do want to tell him soon before its to late tho i don't know how to....i definitely don't want to do at school but face to face....please help... it's really getting to me

Answer 1

Sounds like you are quite young.... IS what you did, really his business.

Do you plan to marry him? Is there a real honest future?

Answer those questions first, sometimes not everbody needs to know everything. Is what you tell him, going to stay private if you seperate? Thats something you have to ask yourself, before you go telling any of your most personal information.

How old are you?

Answer 2

It depends on what you lied about. If it is something personal about you that he really does not need to know then don't worry about it. There are some things that you do not have to reveal and you are entitled to your privacy. However, if you feel you must tell him to make yourself feel better then I would suggest that you be completely honest with him. Wait until it is just the two of you and tell him that when you originally told him the lie that you were nervous and that you thought he would be mad at you. But you want to have an honest relationship and that is why you are clearing the slate now. If he can't forgive you or move on then he is a person you do not want to be with. Everyone is human and makes mistakes. You want to be with someone that can forgive and be understanding.

Answer 3

Sit him down, maybe invite him to some place to have a couple of drinks or something, and start telling him that you lied about something he asked you, and you want to tell him the truth cause you love him and you feel really bad about that lie.

So there he will know, then let him know what was your lie "Well, remember I told you...", and then tell him truth "Welll the truth is...", after that tell him you were scared about telling him the truth, that you don't want to lose him, that you realize it was wrong to lie and that's why you're telling him the truth now, because you love him.

So something like that would be nice, just try to make it easy for you, and let him understand that you love him very much, that you know it was a bad thing to do, and that you want to correct it so you can be fine with him and show him you really love him.

I hope it helps.

Answer 4

is this an issue that seriously impacts this relationship? now there will be two of them. the most important part of loving someone is trust. and this can go one of three ways. first off, you can apologize and tell the truth and come clean. that would be best for your conscience either way...now that will either clear the air and he will say okay and forgive you and move on, or...he will decide he can't trust you. if its not really that big of a deal you could try to let it go yourself. you need to think over the outcome. if he is someone you truly care for though he does deserve honesty. see if you can set up a time for a one on one after school. don't do it over the phone or anything, just say hey can you meet me for a coke or whatever and see where you can go from there.

Answer 5

Why don't you leave this page up on the computer screen, and have him read it when he gets there. He can see that you are concerned about it, and the reason you were scared to tell him, then he can also see what others think about it...I think you should not have lied, but he doesn't need to delve into your past, asking questions that are none of his business either. Your past is your own, and he doesn't need to know everything about you anyway...Next time, you could say that you don't feel comfortable answering that question, and leave it at that.

Answer 6

When people tell you "honesty is the best policy" it is because they are in ruined relationships and just want to ruin yours too.

Sometimes, you HAVE to lie.

There is nothing wrong with being uncomfortable with a question, and fibbing a little to save a good relationship. No, I'm not talking about going around and cheating, then lying about it later, I'm just talking about white lies. If he says, "Do you like my haircut?" and even if you hate it, you tell him "of course I do." Stuff like that.

If he asked you a very personal question that you weren't ready to answer, there is nothing wrong with not answering. I don't know why you would feel ashamed of that. Probably because you are very young.

Answer 7

If you're willing to keep little secrets from him, it could lead to trouble. It might have been better to say that you'd rather talk about your past another time. If he loves you that much he would give you that room, and you could open up to him in your own time.

Now you need to be honest - when you are ready. If it really is starting to get to you, he may begin to wonder what is going on. If you are as close as you say you are, he should forgive you for being untruthful.

Answer 8

Honesty really is the best policy. (and I am in a perfectly wonderful marriage of 12 years)

I would tell him you have a confession to make. Correct your lie and explain why you lied to him. Of course make sure he knows that you understand there is no excuse to lie and assure him it will never happen again.

Once you start to lie, you will wind up having to make up other lies to cover the original lie. Then more lies to cover up the next lie and so on.

I would think it is too exhausting to try to keep up with all the dishonest statements as well as make you feel well,,, like you do now!

Good luck!

Answer 9

If you've only been daing for 3 months - You are not in love! You may think you are - but it's only lust. It takes a lot longer to figure out your in love. Sounds like your HS, so don't worry about it. This is NOT the guy you will spend the rest of your life with. If he won't find out the truth somwhere else, who cares.

Answer 10

He probably lied to you about many things you just didn't find out, if i were you i wouldn't tell coz he's doing the same but in case you do want to tell try to catch one of his lies so you be square in case he is a saint and never lies at all then make him very happy by giving a good news and then tell him "by the way i lied about that" he will be happy by the first good news that the latter bad news (lying) won't have that affect, it will make it easier. ;) good luck.