concerning us and the relationship. He's dismissive. I sthe fact that he's 9 years older than I the reason I'm scared of him or what? And how do I get brave enough and talk to him?
2007-09-17 22:37:31 · 8 answers · asked by myyus4cedl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn't matter the age difference. Learn to talk to him about things. If you want this to be a long term thing, make it happen...let him know how you feel. I've been with my now soon to be ex-husband for 8 years, married for 1, we have always sucked at communicating....we are now starting the process of divorce.
You just have to do it, no getting brave.
I know where you are coming from and trust me....TALK TALK TALK!!!
2007-09-17 22:46:49 · answer #1 · answered by Kate R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF he is dismissing your concerns then he is not that into you or thinks that you are thinking too much and just wants to have fun.
Guys don't want and won't deal with the seriousness of the relationship or anything around it because they aren't ready to get that deep into the relationship.
Also, don't be scared of him he is a human and dies the same way you do. Wait til he is tired and on the phone.. best time to ask.it is like truth serum....
Also some guys think that if there is a problem in the relationship they are at fault because ina relationship men believe they have to fix everything.
Try a different approach.. say I feel that I need to talk about some things I am feeling about us. make it positive. Tell him that you have some feelings that you want to share with him and make it short. Tell him a time frame. I just want 15 minutes of your time to talk about this so I can understand. IF he thinks positive, and short he will listen.
Look up dr. phil
go to ivillage..what men don't tell women
2007-09-17 22:47:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot talk to your boyfriend I would have to say you do not have a relationship. End of story. That is why we chose relationships to begin with. Because we need to share. So what do you have with him? Hes dismissive? Oh thats not good at all. He sounds like your Daddy not your boyfriend. Too old for you. You need to develop some self confidence. You shouldnt be hesitant with a boyfriend or husband ever. If you are that means something is very wrong.
2007-09-17 22:44:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well then if someone causes you to have fears about something, maybe youshouldnt b with them?
ok do something.. talk to him and see his reaction.. if he is being "dismissive" then simply tell him that no this isnt working out because e have to be on a communication level and that is why we should take a break.
also do this when there is a friend around so that if he tries anything or says anything.. then at least u have someone.. :) hope that everything works out though and good luck!
2007-09-17 22:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by Chiv D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I can't seem to get the attention of someone that i desperately need to talk with, I usually write a letter. that way you can get all of your thoughts in without be distracted or interrupted.
2007-09-17 22:44:15 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your bscared of him than let me tell u my girl its not love ur in some kind of pressure get rid of it u wont be able to spend life with him
2007-09-17 22:45:07 · answer #6 · answered by S S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't think about his age just take him as your age and speak out you mind girl. don't let him walk over you refuse that gal.
2007-09-17 23:02:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you say scared, what do you mean??? is he aggressive?? abusive???
2007-09-17 22:44:39 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋