my brother left for college last weekend.....its in state a few hours away....and i miss him so much....this is the first time he WON't be living with me and my family! and he'll never live with me ever again! it hurts so bad...i cant seem to get over it. how can i hate someone so much at one time, yet love them so much? i dont know what ill do without him, looking back on all the memories... i cant believe he wont be here to experience the rest of my high school life....
has anyone else gone through this? how'd u get thru it?
2007-09-17 21:53:36 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
to whoever wrote that dumb commen
im not JEALOUS of my brother and i dont hate him im glad that hes going to college
im just so sad that im pretty much out of his life now
and things will never be the same
im usually pretty good with change
but this is different
2007-09-17 22:05:24 · update #1
as much as you fight with a sibling, there is no one else in the world that could be a better friend to you. aside from your parents, brothers and sisters are the closest family bond you will have in your life.
It is understandable that you are sad and miss him, after all, he's miles away and you can't fight with him, joke with him, hug him, or listen to him pick on you like you are used to.
This will pass, but I think that you may have kept your sadness inside and it all came out at once today. It is good that you are getting it out, but don't let it ruin your life.
Sit down and write to him...tell him that you miss him and how proud you are of him. Write him/email him with your daily happenings, and the latest news from school. He will be home more often than you think...and when he is, take advantage of it...spend time with him and act as if everything is the same. Trust me, he is homesick and missing you as well. Eventually both of you will get to the point that the separation isn't an issue, and you will look even more forward to the time you spend together as the years go along.
Don't pay attention to all the ones giving you a hard time about it. Until it happens to them, they don't know what it's like, or they are trying to pep talk you into 'bucking up and getting over it".......
hang in there .... it does get better.
2007-09-17 22:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by simmychick 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honey ,some brothers and sisters are close others are not but one thing remains forever memories keep the best ones get rid of the rest .Just take one day at a time you too will move on oneday from your family my suggestion is dont rush it though you have plenty of time as an adult so enjoy your school years do the best you can to get good grades and a good career then you can be independant and not have to accept the first man that comes your way or cling to one that is no good just because you cant support yourself.In closing I want to give you a peice of advise NEVER is a long time and anything can change before you get there good luck friend.
2007-09-17 22:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeh i no what you mean, id be lost without my brother - im 20 and hes 17 and were very close always tell each other everything they times i work night shifts at work and i neva get to see him i miss him heaps - then we have long catch up talks when im back to normal day shifts - on the other hand my lil 8 yr old brother drives me insane would mind a break from him once in a while - i guess you will learn to live with it eventually, u can call him n chat or over the net, there heaps of ways to keep in touch, not the same as being their with you but its something. everybody leaves their family eventualluy when they get married / travel and have their own lives - you move on and get used to it.
hope this helps =)
2007-09-18 01:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok hun. Your whole family is going through a huge change and you're just feeling a bit shocked. Over the coming days and weeks the shock will wear off and you'll have come to terms with the change. Look forward to visits and make the most of them. Write, phone, and email will make the transition easier.
I know how you feel. I live in the UK and my family lives in Ohio. I cry everytime I have to leave them after a visit. It's so hard sometimes but it does get easier.
Take care and cry all you want. There's no shame in that.
(((BIG HUGS)))
2007-09-17 23:42:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It makes me want to cry just reading it. Life takes so many sad turns...so many changes...one more step away from your childhood.
Try to keep a good relationship with him now...chat with him...call him...look forward to him coming home for XMAS n stuff. Think about how exciting this is for him and the stories he'll have to tell you. :) Maybe you could even go up and visit his campus at some point, that'd be cool. He won't be hogging the remote anymore or embarassing you in front of your friends. :P You'll get more of the parents' attention (don't know if that's good or bad)!
2007-09-17 22:04:43 · answer #5 · answered by iAm notArabbit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
crying is not bad its good u let go every thing that hurt ur heart that dnt let u be its bad if ur a boy cause they look guy but its ok cry cry and ill see who later ur feel better my high school life was almost the same really sad also i never had friends :( buts its ok if u need a frind im here :) my email es pxndx_sexy@yahoo.com.mx if u want a friend to talk 2 SMILE!!!!!!!
2007-09-17 22:00:55 · answer #6 · answered by IRENE M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, dont be upset. In your society it's the rule that all children will leave their parants and younger brothers and sisters after 18. It's some kind of stupid rule i think.
I live in Bangladesh, and here we don't leave our parants or other brother and sister after certain age. I am 23 now and I cannot even think of living without my parants and my little sister. may be I have to go other place one day, but I don't want to hurt anyone.
Is there any right to hurt my family who took care of my in my whole life?? I dont think so.
Anyway, may god give you the strenght to carry on your life without your brother.
If you need any kind of further support, don't hasitate to write to me. I always try to help people. Because I believe that, If i help people, when I need help, other people will help me too.
2007-09-17 22:04:47 · answer #7 · answered by akareem 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's perfectly OK to feel sad and lonely. You miss your brother, life is changing, and you have a sense of grief for the loss of the way things used to be.
Find something to be cheerful about. Write him letters & e-mail. I did that when I was 8 and my brother left for college. It was fun getting letters from him.
2007-09-17 22:00:47 · answer #8 · answered by ddd 874 587 545 543 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just because he wont live with you does not mean that he does not love you or your family. I had the same issue with my sister when I left for the Army. Eventually a child has to make his own way.
2007-09-17 22:06:25 · answer #9 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay... so I know youre having a hard time but try to have fun with your friends as much as you can right now. You have to try to keep your mind off him. Go and hang out with your friends and go see a movie. Have a girls night out.
The heart takes time to heal you can just put a bandage on it and make it feel all better.
2007-09-17 22:00:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋