I don’t know how to write this . I am gay guy and I am in relationship with a person older to me . he is open to his parents . but my family don’t know about it . last Sunday my mother got snaps of my partner on my cell and condom packet in my bag . from that day all my family members stop talking to me and they want me to get married as early as possible. I don’t want to do that what should I do. I am thinking to commit suicide
Tell me what to do ?
2007-09-17 21:38:44 · 11 answers · asked by siddharth n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Commiting suicide would be the silliest thing to do. I am very sorry to tell u but maybe u will have to part ways with the other guy. This is a choice between your happiness and your familiy's happiness. If you choose your happiness you may be acting selfish. I know it will be tough to forget the memories but at the end you will feel good about yourself and proud of doing the right thing.
It is entirely your choice. You dont have to come under your family's, the other guy's or my pressure and make your decision. Afterall I am only giving advice.
2007-09-17 21:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by The Girl With The Advice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Committing suicide is never an answer.
If your family culture is against begin gay then so be it. You need to be true to yourself to be happy.
You do not say how old you are or where you are living... what options are available to you regarding counselling for you and your family?
If they love you does your culture come before your happiness? If they cannot understand that then perhaps you can find a way to move from the family. If your sexual lifestyle is that important to you please do not be pushed into marrying someone you do not love.
Stay strong.
2007-09-18 04:53:44 · answer #2 · answered by Stuff Buster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call a suicide hot line for help. Do not hurt yourself. Some families just don't understand. Yours may never or they may come around. Do not get married. Your life would be miserable and so would hers. You owe it to yourself to make you happy and no one else. They are not thinking what is best for you and that is for you to be happy. Some people are embarrassed by gay family members. Do not worry about them. They should love you for who you are. Do not try to change yourself so they will talk to you. Please seek professional help as soon as possible. Good luck.
2007-09-18 05:17:18 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you decided to suicide, why ask others for they opinion …taking life is easy dealing with things not…when ur parents know already, tell them and move out with your partner.
And start you’re life with your rules, am sure they will not understand this now but they will come around…
take care, do the right thing, you wont get 2nd chance
prity
2007-09-18 08:28:18 · answer #4 · answered by prity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are thinking you cannot commit suicide .. People become gays when they dont get the love of a female . You can try having relations with girl (pay and use )and choose which you like .. then go with the decesion ..
2007-09-18 06:33:10 · answer #5 · answered by t9d007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever u do. DO NOT COMMIT SUICIDE.
If u are convinced of ur homosexuality then keep it a secret and try not to marry a girl. If u marry a girl u will ruin ur life and her life too. If necessary reveal this to ur elders and say a big sorry.
2007-09-18 04:44:01 · answer #6 · answered by Harisevak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not the only gay person who is not accepted by family so the matter isnt so serious as to commit suicide. please dont marry under pressure from family and spoil some girl's life thats what i can say.
2007-09-18 04:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by sweetu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Committing suicide is a loser thing to do..get a job with a good pay and live alone ..be independent and then your parents won't control you
2007-09-20 09:07:59 · answer #8 · answered by imsweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well all you can do is lay it out to your family plain and simple. unfortunatley i can't gurantee you acceptence but atleast let them know. if they can't accept it then they need a lesson on what family is really suppose to mean
2007-09-18 04:43:02 · answer #9 · answered by #52 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek some counseling or therapy ASAP.
2007-09-18 04:43:00 · answer #10 · answered by one of twelve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋