Why do women say they want a good man, then punish him for all of the bad relationships THEY chose to be in?

Question

I just don't understand why women are so intentively evil. If all men are dogs and you are going to treat them as such, then why the charade of being in a relationship or longing to be married? Why all the complaining about "no good men" out there if you're just going to ruin each one you get ahold of?

I know everyone has a unique situation, but I can't be the only one who feels this way. Marriage even seems to be a joke as it only gives a woman a divorce to hang over your head.

Izetryin<<<< What if I didn't ask, but she doesn't have any friends? LOL I guess that throws out friends first as well then.

Izetriyen<<<< What if I didn't ask, but she doesn't have any friends? LOL I guess that throws out friends first as well then.

Answer 1

Well here you go. You asked for it, so I am going to give it to you.

In this life, there are those who have more feelings and those that have less. The ones who have less get to misunderstand the ones with more. That is the rules.

The ones who have more get to feel them. They have deeper orgasms, more ability to react to somberness, more sensitivity to just about everything, including pollen and they are the nice people because they empathize faster about situations because of these feelings.

Sometimes there is even a thing where some people can be sensitive but not relate to sensitivity in others, so it is not cut and dried.

So, if you are a sensitive guy, and you meet an insensitive woman, your job is to get what you can from her, and her job is to feel fulfilled from you! She expects sensitivity from you because she has already felt you out with her senses and feels you are capable of that sensitivity!

Question to you is, will you get back enough from her in exchange for your sensitivity if you have that to give, to make it worth your while? What does she have that makes it worth your while? And only you can answer that!

Consider it a compliment, otherwise, for her to confide in you about what has happened in her life! Not every woman will do that! Women are generally less physically competent in physical battle so far and having less mass, they feel threatenned by the forces of males around them. They either have to be prepared to fight, and give their all to those they meet(more risky), or to hide! Your lady is apparently taking a chance with you!

Some men never have the privilige of meeting or being with a sensitive woman their whole lives! You are a lucky guy, if you but realize it.

We are all parts of God, and in actuality, once you realize that, all offenses committed by previous suitors can be answered by you if you have the capability to grow into that role and build that solid of a relationship that can support it. This life goes by fast, so if you want that excitement, go for it! I did, and 34 years later, with a 32 yr old son in jail for cocaine and a daughter dying of Cancer from risks she took and disinterest in functional diet and predestined situations perhaps, and a son in law headed to Iraq for 3rd tour of duty, I having been a Vietnam Vet, we are still strong!

I am not rich, but we are strong. My wife was hurt too and her father was rough on her family and us. Life is full of challenges. It is all up to you how you handle the logical and illogical circumstances in it!

Healing be unto you and yours and me and mine

~skahhh

Answer 2

I am almost sure that the Qur'an doesn't talk about homosexuality and its penalty except in the case of the people of Lot. The second verse you quoted (4:16) has been translated as "persons (man and woman)" in the translation I have but right now I can't check other sources due to limited access. Anyways, the two persons are obviously a man and a woman. Allah knows best. P.S. Don't depend on translation too much. The Arabic phrase saya "Wallaty ya'teenal fahishata min nisalikum" which means "and those of your women who commit illegal sexual intercourse". I use Yusuf Ali mostly. However, if something seems strange to you, check other translations as well. As for the issue of the two men, it is one of the very small chances but the larger opinion is that it means a man and a woman.

Answer 3

I see where you're coming from. But this is twofold. As women do to men, men do to women. Men also will carry over the resentment from a bad breakup into new relationships. My father is an example. When he divorce my mom he said he'd never trust, or compromise with women again. And he's lived up to that; that's why he's alone. Good men and good women are ruined by evil men and evil women. The only reason I can come up with is that these good people see these evil people as wounded animals that they can mend and rebuild. Darlin's its called survival of the fittest. Let Mother Nature get rid of these animals with her natural disposers. And another note there are women out there who don't do that. I've never been in a relationship, I'm a clean slate and I know there's other straight women out there like me.

Answer 4

Man Please; every woman wants a good man.For some reason the so called good men turn out to be just a bad as the bad ones.We don't all dog men out.Some men are just naturally dogs.We have to go threw the same as men do.And we run into the same problems as men.
The answer to that question is self explanatory.Why do men do what they do to women and expect them to sit idly by why they figure out what they want from a good woman?
Men don't ruin women and woman don't ruin men.It is all in the person.There is somebody out there for everybody.Hopefully we'll find the other half that makes us hold in this life time;

Answer 5

we for the most want to be in the fairy tale relationship be all happy go lucky in love get married blah blah but thats just fairy tale not real life in real life we have to kiss a lot of frogs to find our prince most of us judge every guy based on what one or a few guys have done to us and can't get passed the point that there are good guys out there that will treat us right and all we need to do is let go of the past and be ourself but then again we also wont forget our ex's what they did to us we want to get back to them or get even but ither can't or are scared so we take it out on the good guys in life and make relationships complicated as far as marriage we want things to be perfect have the perfect relationship were theres not drama no problems but there are problems in any relationship and instead of trying to work through them we rather just divorce because it's basically what everyone is doing, we dont know how a real marriage is and get mad or scared and it seems to be an easy way out if we hold getting a divorce over your head then we are not happy with the situtation and no matter what you do we made up our mind we will divorce sooner or later

Answer 6

You are already saying what you believe, correct? If you have these thoughts they then become actions and... lo and behold, you find yourself with someone who can fulfil your ideas (all women etc.).

If you can clear these ideas and have different ideas then I bet you would find different women that you would be attracted to.

All women are not evil, want to ruin men etc.

I have been happily married for ten years now, I love my husband very much and he loves me. We enjoy being with each other and accept we are not perfect - but we also do not make snide comments, think the worst of each other etc.

See if you can work on some different ideas :)

Answer 7

lol speak it homie what can i say. truth be told they want a man who knows when to be sensitive and at the same time knows when not to take any sh it. I hang out with a girl who happens to be one of my best friends and i've seen her intentionally get into arguements with her man just because she was pis sed off at someone else. good guys are like paper plates, they are used for what they are for, which is an outlet to get all her anger out on passed relationships, and then tossed aside when she is no longer angry.

Answer 8

if youve experienced a relationship with a woman that pours her horrible relationship past out on you....its because you want to hear all the details. for some strange reason men want details and then get all upset about them and all she is doing is answering your questions.

you ask about the past then you whine about the results.

dont ask about the past and move on into the present and future. thats what matters anyway. leave the previous details to her girlfriends and family members to bounce off onto them. be the boyfriend, fiance, husband and share similar goals and interests and stay out of the past. being a friend sometimes means, talking about light topics and having fun...not dwelling on the past.

good luck to you

Answer 9

SOME women, not ALL women.

More than likely, these women (some) are still going through a huge amount of pain that they have not dealt with. And you're right, it's not fair for them to make out as though it's your fault.. or treat you badly... and vice versa.

Do you not wonder why you are attracting these type of women?!

Answer 10

it's just a matter of trust and obligation and such... of course women got hurt with their past relationships but of course they should not bring it to their present relationship. and also, men should understand that if he wants this woman then he is willing to take the consequences he should know what he's into.