Ran in to an old friend from school today and I had my children with me who are both half hispanic. And well the old friend was prolly not realizing what she said but the words that came out of her mouth were " I see you never got with your own kind" while looking at my children. I wanted so badly to ask her if I am some kind of dog that has its own breed. I makes me so mad that people look at my kids like I ruined the blood line of white people. My children are mine no matter what. I don't know how to politely tell those people that because my children are half hispanic I consider them double blessed because they get the oppertunity to enjoy two caltures. Please help me with the words to tell these ignorant people.
2007-09-17 14:53:31 · 22 answers · asked by monkey 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think your own answer is wonderful -- that you consider them doubly blessed because of their two cultures. That ought to shut those nosy, ignorant people up. It's really none of their business anyway, but your polite answer will be like hitting them with a stun gun. Good for you! Hurrah! Your kids are lucky to have a mom like you.
2007-09-17 15:01:59 · answer #1 · answered by gldjns 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Those are certainly the words of a very small mind and it is best to not engage battle with those that are unarmed. You are hard pressed to find anyone born here that isn't mixed. Even though they may look one race, they are likely to be mixed with at least two or three others even if they don't know it. They didn't get the black descendents of Andrew Jackson recognized until about 3 years ago when all the DNA was unmistakeable. The white people refused to believe that their blood wasn't all white even in the face of science. People who say things like this person deserve a sad smile and a nice view of your backside as you walk away shaking your head.
2007-09-17 22:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by MJ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would say just what you said, and what the other girl said. Just tell them that you are blessed with wonderful children who get to enjoy 2 different cultures and at least they have enough manners not to kick her when she said that to you. Children are a gift from God no matter what they look like. I am just happy that you are the kind of Mother that wants to teach your children the right things to do and try your best not to let others ignorance get you down.
2007-09-17 22:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by norajean2001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no point in a comeback. I come from a very mixed background (most ppl don't even know what I am until I tell them). I caught hell all through school and after getting a few degrees, I just don't really care about that stuff anymore.
When I get on Y!answers, I just laugh at ppl making racist comments about how dumb minorities are because I'm usually the one helping their business make money.
You don't need to return an answer. Just ignore her and return to your life. Someone like that isn't worth paying any attention too.
2007-09-17 22:06:55 · answer #4 · answered by Ranz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your old friend is certainly no friend. In fact, she sounds like a bigot and may well be jealous of you.
It sounds like you are being charitable to her, but consider this ~ if it popped out of her mouth before she thought, it may be that that is what she really thinks. Do you want to be sad about someone's opinion of you who has those kind of views?
If you think you might be doing this old friend an injustice, you could contact her ~ sooner rather than later ~ and say to her that while you enjoyed running into her you were hurt and offended by her comments about your children.
If she seems genuinely surprised, you could let her know in a mild what she said and how surprised you were that someone like her would have such thoughts. perhaps next time, she will think before she speaks. You will give her the chance to be a better person.
If however, she reacts by blustering and getting defensive, you may suspect that she was deliberate in what she said ~ and she should be dropped off your list of acquaintances immediately.
Kids really feel things like when their mum is sad about them being 'half breeds'. I know because this happened to me in my young life. My siblings and I blamed ourselves for making mum unhappy, because we didn't know she was sad due to the attitudes of others.
You need to be strong for your kids, and name it when people are bigotted and put you down.
You have been fortunate to have two beautiful children and you have a duty to give them the tools they will need to survive in the world ~ self confidence, pride and an ability to tell the good people from the losers.
You have a kind heart, but don't let bigots use it to hurt you and your family!
Best wishes and good luck :-)
2007-09-17 22:35:48 · answer #5 · answered by thing55000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just take it with a grain of salt. That person isn't a "friend" and probably isn't someone you want to associate with anyway. Consider them racist, and forget them. MOST people you know don't think or feel that way, I'm sure. You must have suspected that a bi-racial marriage would have some bumps both culturally and with your families and traditions, so if basically your life is good, you made the right decision. If you life is bad, that also is your decision. Good luck.
I am sympathetic to you, but YOU in-able people to bother you, or you can empower yourself against their stupidity and racism.
2007-09-17 22:05:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a horrible thing to say to someone. "not realizing what she said" - there is word for this and it is "ignorant."
Simply look the person straight in the eye and say what you have said above in the form of a statement,
"DO NOT reduce me or my children to that of an animal that has it's own breed." MY CHILDREN are MY CHILDREN no matter what!!!" <--say it emphatically but don't lose your cool and self control.
Then walk away and don't associate with that person any more.
2007-09-17 22:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by Hermione G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggested come back:
" Actually I stayed within the human race, you should try to join it some time." OK, maybe too strong, but say something like: "What do you mean?".
Keep pushing the point and they will become self aware and embarrassed. It's a simple way of turning the tables. So, if she makes her comment, you say:
What do you mean?
Well, you know ...
No, I don't, what do you mean?
Well, you didn't marry a XXX person.
Yes, how does that not make them "my kind"?
Well, they're not XXX.
What difference does that make?
Just keep pushing the point over and over again. I would have a field day with your "friend".
2007-09-17 22:02:21 · answer #8 · answered by whuz007 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm sure she didn't mean it in a bad way. As long as your hubby didn't hop the boarder, I don't what the big deal is, there are white Hispanics- who have Europeans in them and you couldn't tell that they are Hispanic unless they tell you or there is an accent detected. If you are seriously that pissed off, instead of keeping your mouth shut-say something smart alec about it!
2007-09-18 02:23:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"because my children are half hispanic I consider them double blessed because they get the oppertunity to enjoy two caltures. "
sounds to me like your answer is the best. 10 points for you!!!lol
2007-09-17 22:01:54 · answer #10 · answered by ChynaRush 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋