I have a boyfriend (my first) been together for almost 2 months. I am in my 20's.
The thing is i have a really close guys friend, known him before i met my boyfriend. Don't talk to him much as i have a boyfriend now. We use to all go clubbing as a group, use to talk a lot with my friend and argue about silly things.
When he found out that i got a boyfriend, he was angry and upset and i also found out from someone that he likes me, he also had feelings for me. Think that i was developing feelings for him too. Use to talk to him easy and about anything including issues with other guys.
The thing is why do i feel so bad that I've met someone. My boyfriend is what i have been waiting for, just not open with him yet, as i was with my friend. Think that i am still in denial that i did have feelings for my friend.
What would you do in my situation?
2007-09-17 14:37:25 · 12 answers · asked by Glamourous_Girl 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My guy friend use to always compliment me and i would compliment him.
The strange thing is i find it hard complimenting my boyfriend, why is that?
2007-09-17 14:41:18 · update #1
Agree with pixieprincess
2007-09-17 14:42:27 · answer #1 · answered by Scout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How come you did not tell your very good friend that you now have a romantic boyfriend since you guys were so close,easy, and talked about issues with other guys.Not only did you not talk to him about it,but you also started to cut him out of your life because of your new beau.That is a no-no since you don't ignore or forget old friends because you have new ones, even romantic ones.I suggest that you :1)apologize to him for not initially telling him about your boyfriend2)assuring him that you still value his friendship, advice,and closeness and nothing will change that fact3)let him know that you were starting to develop romantic feelings for him which you did not tell him for fear of hurting what you guys shared4)ask him to confirm the news that he also has romantic feelings for you5)if yes, then you guys can now discuss what to do about your new boyfriend and your new-found feelings for each other.Unless your feelings for your beau is greater than those for your "friend",I believe that you will soon no longer be in denial.I wish you the best.
2007-09-17 15:10:04 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His loss.
If guys would quit trying to be macho and just say what they feel around certain girls they would be a lot better off.
Don't keep him on the back burner in case this thing with your boyfriend doesn't work out. Let him know that it could have been better if he would have opened up his feelings about you earlier instead of after finding out you had a bf.
2007-09-17 14:42:51 · answer #3 · answered by David T 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Someone that you have been friends with and you feel open to usually turns out to be the best kind of boyfriend. Since you have only been with your bf for 2 months...why not be honest with him and then see where it goes with your friend?
You might regret not doing it later on...when your friend is with another girl and you and your bf break up.
If you feel that close and someone you can tell anything to......that is your man. Just be honest with your boyfriend! Don't lie or string him along
Good luck!
2007-09-17 14:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad that you've met someone. If your guy friend likes you, then he should have told you earlier instead of waiting until you got a boyfriend. I think that you should try explaining to your guy friend that if he had told you about his feelings earlier, then things would be different, but he chose not to. Also, reassure him that you do want things to go back to normal between the two of you and that you do want to be friends.
2007-09-17 14:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by Fonzieo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your just comfortable with your friend, and not as comfortable with your boyfriend..... WHICH IS A OK BABY... all of us are a little more comfy with friends than we would be with BF's... of course, it makes sense right. dont feel bad that he is upset, you are a person and you have every right to have a boyfriend. he is upset because you found someone who isn't him, and you dont spend as much time together as you usually would. he can't be selfish though.... and he needs to let you find happieness in other ways. you should just talk to him about things, let him know you still care about him as a friend, but you do have a man and your gonna let the good times roll. Dont keep all this from your man either, he deserves to know. if they both care about you, then they will both understand that you have other needs than ONLY them as individuals. you need your man, and you need your homies!
2007-09-17 14:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-26 16:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you find it hard to compliment your boyf cos you havent known him that long and don't feel as much at ease tellin him things like that, don't worry bout your friend, if you to were ment to be together it woulda happened a long time ago, you just feel bad cos your thinking of how you would feel if it was the other way round, now you think you have feelings for him cos you found out how he feels bout you,
2007-09-17 14:46:10 · answer #8 · answered by shorty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he should of waited until you had a bf to say that he likes you, dont worry about it. At least if it doesnt work out you have the other guy.
2007-09-17 14:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by pixieprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have been with the new guy for 2 mths. if you aren't comfortable telling him things, then why are you still with him? it sounds like you are with him just because he came along right before this other guy let his feelings be known. if you like the friend more, then maybe he's who you should be dating...
2007-09-17 14:45:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋