relationship and keeping them?
you become clingy, want intamacy...and your opinion about yourself always shows through. which is a very very low one.
iam a 30 year old bpd sufferer thats had a very traumatic life.
i feel like im the only french person to have ever gone through anything like this or suffered this way..
can anyone advise?
2007-09-17 13:43:29 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
i always put every girl on a peda stool high above me...
like im truly worthless and unworthy..its a horrible feeling....can anyone help?
im 30 and aging prematurly....but ive never had a relationship because of my bpd.
but now im 30, im starting to long for love from somebody..
sorry i no it sounds pathetic
2007-09-17 13:53:41 · update #1
You first have to like yourself, if you don't like you how can anyone. Your nationality has nothing to do with who you are. As for love it will happen or not, I like many women but have loved only two. It is up to you what you do with your life.
2007-09-18 01:18:16 · answer #1 · answered by Coop 366 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's called depression and giving up on life. sometimes you have to be a self starter try a new hobby just walk a block, or get up around six in the morning and step outside and see where the wind is blowing from I'm sure you are worth more than you believe and if we went around asking someone saw the beauty in you that others might not see. Like art "beauty is in the eye of the behold." You are what you think of yourself even if you can think only bad things try thinking POSITIVE. BEST of luck.
2007-09-17 21:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by Ineedyouherewithme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to love other people first. I know it sounds dumb but let me explain my reasoning....
Some people who are clingy are really just needy. The reason people will not stay with them is because they do not get anything out of it (other than being needed which self-confident people do not need.) It does not take long to figure this out and by 30 most girls will have been with someone like you.
I would suggest volunteering to help other people. This will give you a chance to develop empathy rather than pity. Also, girls will see you in a role of caregiver.... which will counteract their perception of your neediness.
2007-09-17 20:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by bill h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship for 6 years and was cheated on and dumped. It has been 4 years and have not had a relationaship since. I don't try anymore I know I am unnatractive and have bad personality.
2007-09-17 20:47:16 · answer #4 · answered by j t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully, you will outgrow these feelings some day, and realize, that you are equal, and deserving of a nice girl friend..just be yourself,..some girl will love that about you.
2007-09-17 20:58:00 · answer #5 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋