i've always been with successful men. i am successful myself.
lately i met this guy and i really like him. we've been dating for around 2 months now. the thing bothering me is that he's without a job, and he doesnt want to find one which i dont blame him because he wants to do his own business. but now since we started going out he wants me to be involved with him in work (we work in the same field and i am a free lancer) so all he wants is to be with me since the moment i wake up, and i need to spend few hours alone each day or i go crazy. when we're not together he's calling all the time and complaining about missing me and asking what time are we meeting. so even when i am home alone he's with me either on the phone or on chat. i explained to him that i dont like this but he doesnt seem to understand. he also says that if i encourage him he will work but i always upset him so he doesnt get to concentrate on work. i dont want someone depending on me that much.
2007-09-17 13:36:10 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i had the same prob with my x except that he had a successful business but he always wanted to do everything together. is it me?
i like the new guy, but i'm about to leave because of this prob. what can i do to give us a chance?
2007-09-17 13:39:07 · update #1
thanks for all your replies. it really helps me to read them. i am sad to hear all advices to leave, but i guess thats what i expected. one thing i'm thinking of before leaving is to ask his best friend to talk to him and make him understand that he needs to be working on his own and not wait for me for each move he wants to make.
2007-09-17 14:00:30 · update #2
Talk to him, and tell him what's bothering you. If he doesn't try to work on it...then you should just cut him loose. Or just ask for some time apart.
2007-09-17 13:42:02 · answer #1 · answered by Lovely53 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i have the same problem wih tmy man he drives me nuts he wants to spend every waking moment wiht me which is flattering but gets to be too much sometimes. i have tried to just say it in a way he wont think im trying to et away from him like i will blame it on my friends by saying oh my friends want a girls nite out so i promised here we would go out but no guys sorry, that give me a little time to myself. but i guess it all depends on how much u can stand
2007-09-17 13:44:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, this likely won't work out. He says he wants to start his own business as an excuse to not work. If a grown man needs somebody to encourage him to work there is something wrong with him. If he doesn't understand now, he won't later on, it will only get worse. You need to find somebody that is your equal.
2007-09-17 13:41:18 · answer #3 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when you see "too much" of each other it is bad for the relationship; I remember a place where I worked where this guy and his wife worked side by side together all day then were together all night, all they did was fight and argue with each other constantly!
2007-09-17 13:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by Flying Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that he was a loser -- the rest just sounds like rationalization as to why you are too timid to leave.
If you don't admire and respect him, then I don't think that you should be with him.
===edit==
Why are you dating someone who has the same faults as your ex? Didn't you learn anything last time about what you don't like in a person?
2007-09-17 13:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
- so all he wants is to be with me since the moment i wake up
Warning sign number one. This is the sign of a man who is insecure and wants to control you.
DUMP HIM!
This is not about him depending on you. Rather this is about him controlling you. For more information read on this website:
2007-09-17 13:45:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its nothing wrong spending alot of time together but sometimes you need youre space and time to youre self and if he cant understand that then you have a problem and its not youre fault for him not having a job he needs to get one or start his own buisiness he is very dependent on you so if you wont this to work you need to talk to him about it and that you feel smuthered and you need a little time to youre self sometime and could he please respect you on youre feelings
2007-09-17 13:43:26 · answer #7 · answered by foxy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you knew he was a loser once you started dating that should of ended there. when aperson isnt working they have too much time on there hands too want and smother you. you dont wantn a man smothereing you so you know what you have to do from the way you compared him to the ex.get the hell out of there girl.....
2007-09-17 13:42:47 · answer #8 · answered by yasten69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you already told him you need more space and he didn't get it. Tell him one more time, I'm dumping your pathetic a ss if you don't give me soom breathing room!! I say, leave him.
2007-09-17 13:45:08 · answer #9 · answered by Big Bull 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont blame you i like to do stuff my self, thats why i married someone who does a completely differant work than i do!
2007-09-17 13:42:57 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs T. 2009 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋