I just got a new job which i needed very mcuh and i haven't told my boyfriend yet for fear hell make me quit before i get started how can i tell him without him exploding ???
2007-09-17 13:29:18 · 51 answers · asked by Lucky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Omg! he will explode if you tell him you have a new job?
I'm sorry but why are you with this guy? You should be with someone that will be proud of your achievements and be happy for you and with you.
You may not see it now because you probably love your bf, but your concerned that he will get angry because you have a new job, what happenes if you marry this loser and have his kids?
I know its hard but when your with the right person you will look back and wonder what it was you ever saw in that loser.
Keep the job. your allowed to be successful and congratulations.
Good luck!
2007-09-17 13:33:23 · answer #1 · answered by satans_lollies 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys and gals tend to be controlling when they are in fear. Fear of losing you to someone else or the guys at your new job wanting to hook-up with you etc. We can think just about anything our silly *** mind makes up-Now it is not silly to him or anyone else who lives with this fear, which can turn to anger. I have felt it before and after realizing that all women are not anything alike and some of worthy of great trust.
If you know there is not a true future for the relationship then the sooner you end it the better but I would guess you tend to pick guys who are like this-I would look at why that is and how much different a confident (not perfect but 95% or so of the time) guy will be when it comes to control. People lack confidence for many reasons ,but the biggest is their own internal conversation about themself. We all have it and some of the stuff we say to ourselves is just crap and has very little to do with the truth.
Good luck with the decsions you have ahead of you and no matter how it goes may you both find peace and true joy.
"Life sucks, stuck looking in the rearview mirror."
Bc
2007-09-17 13:43:17 · answer #2 · answered by Bc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're afraid of an explosion over getting a job you needed? You need to lose this guy way more than you need the job, unless you've just signed up to be a hooker or something. "Men" don't "explode." Teens and toddlers explode, not men. If your bf is exploding, get our while you can. Don't think of why you're afraid to get out of the relationship; do it now. If your afraid of someone, they are not your friend. If you're afraid of a bf, that's even worse. Don't try to sugarcoat a new job. If that's the kind of thing that sets him off, you're headed for disaster. Get Out Now.
Sorry to be so harsh, but this thing is ticking, sweetie.
2007-09-17 13:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by rb29440 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath and tell it to him like the happy news it is. He can't make you quit - you live in a free country where you can have a job if you want to, right? You might not be able to have that job and that boyfriend combination, but I can tell 'ya, if I had a boyfriend who would freak out if I took the job I needed, I'd take the job and ditch the boyfriend.
2007-09-17 13:36:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been very big on boyfriends who explode in anger. Fear isn't a good component of a relationship. Unless there is something about the job that is denigrating to you..... sounds like it might just be inconvenient for him. I vote with the rest...keep the job...walk away from the boyfriend! Good luck!
2007-09-17 13:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by PattiAtk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon..
Considerate yourself fortunate..At least you found out now, before you married this guy, that he's a control freak!..
Later on, if you would have married him, your life would have been hell..This man would have controlled every step you took, to what type of toilet paper you must use..
As I said consider yourself fortunate..He did you a big favor..
And control freaks tend to be abusers as well!
Just tell him that you've thought it over, and you're really not ready for any type of relationship right now..
And that should be the end ot it..
Good Luck Sweetie..And take care..
2007-09-17 13:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by howdoilvthee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him its your life and a job is a job and don't let him rule you who does he think he is, tell him your looking for a partner not a father as you have one and that you are able to make your own decisions and if you don't get him straight now you are in for a very sad life with him as it only gets worst the more hold he has over you DON"T put up with this treatment or you will be so sorry you ever met him.
2007-09-17 13:36:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your life is just that YOUR LIFE!
If you man is that controlling leave him.
I would tell him and if he flips out then flip out back and tell him how it is...
You are a grown woman and you can do as he feels and if he can't back up he can be replaced because you don't need a man to survive.
You should leave him if he is that controlling because one day you will say or do something that he doesn't approve of and he will hit you. Look up on yahoo search the term Narcissistic...this is most likely what your man is.
Good Luck: BlackWidow
age:24
Married:twice
Children:2
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2007-09-17 13:38:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with a guy that you cannot talk to honestly about your life? If you want a new job, get one, and tell him about it. If he "explodes" tell him that he can pay your bills if he doesn't want you working. How can he "make" you do anything anyway? You are an independent woman- don't put up with a controlling man.
2007-09-17 13:35:02 · answer #9 · answered by Dig It 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him a "Dear John" letter. If he's that insane where you're afraid to tell him you have a job, he needs to go. Take the job as a new beginning and get a new boyfriend. Seriously.
P.S.- He can't "make" you quit a job unless you choose to. If he's threatening violence, turn him in to the police. Congratulations on your job.
2007-09-17 13:32:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋