Sex problems please help me?

Question

I seem to have this recurring problem with all my boyfriends (not that there have been that many!) and I was wondering if anyone could tell me anything I can do to resolve it. Firstly, with all my boyfriends, despite them being the ones who liked me and asked me out, they don't seem to take intiative when it comes to sex. I ALWAYS have to make the first move for things to get, well, steamy. I don't understand this. It makes me feel exasperated. I am sure, as young men, they must want to, but they never take control. Any ideas as to how to get them to do this?
Secondly, most of them seem to have a problem with staying the distance, if you know what I mean. Not like it's a clinical problem, but it's usually been over in about five minutes. Is this normal, or is it something I am doing wrong? Is there anything I can do to make it better? All help is much appreciated, thank you.

Answer 1

Communication is key. You can tell the guys that you would prefer it if they take charge, or have the guys read David Shade's Manual (which will improve sex in general). See first link.

Staying power improves with practice, so you can always have sex more often, or use a desensitizing cream (available from most adult novelty stores). See second link.

Good luck!

Answer 2

the yahoo police wont let me answer in detail, and i cant tell how old you are, but im guessing about 18.

if you are over 18, email me.

some guys are afraid to move too soon, young guys dont have the experience, and aggressive women need to find the right guy. they scare most men

not lasting is normal. guys are only designed to last 5 minutes. somebody's idea of a joke.

with experience the guy learns to last longer. but it takes work.

the best way to get a guy to last is, have a lot of sex. do this guy a few times a day and he will last forever.

Answer 3

A lot of women might be happy with your first problem ; maybe not your second. The reasons for the first issue are as varied as you have women.Some women accuse guys of only wanting them for sexual reasons when they initiate intimacy so guys are now gun shy .Then there are women like you who are disappointed that their guys are not sexually aggressive enough.Hence ,it is up to each woman to communicate her own desires and needs to her guy. As to your second issue, it is more a function of sexual biology. Without being too technical, the mechanics of sex is different in men and women.The solution is a matter of talking about individual wants and letting your man know; plus a healthy dose of foreplay which is sadly missing in a lot of intimate relationships. Without violating decency laws, you now some idea of how to resolve the situation with your boyfriend.Don't forget that men can't read womens' minds, so women have to speak up.Also, just as not all women are experienced or knowledgeable about sexual matters, it is absurd to believe that all guys are.Think about it.

Answer 4

Try wearing some sexy clothes, doing your hair really nice, wear some alluring perfume or pheromone (which attracts men) and act confident with your body if you don't already.

When you get a man in bed, try to keep him longer by asking him what you can do to make him feel good - different positions, touching, rubbing, kissing, etc...

Try a different type of boyfriend who seems to like to touch and get more intimate.

That's the best answer I can give. Good luck!

Answer 5

there is a time and place for everything , so the mood of the enviorment , tone of voice , dress down might be clues . but where guys and where kinda dumb . so maybe just sofly say "i'm in the mood" and then we go OH !! it takes time in a relationship for him to get when .... as to too soon , for me it's the pace , if she is jumpin' around like a jackhammer from the get go then i can't last . but if she can keep the pace slow from making out until it's time to do some heavy pumping i can go for an hour . and yes even us christions know about healthy sex .peace

Answer 6

Here's the thing. If he really really likes you and thinks you are hot then he might not be so aggressive because you might not like it, and scaried to lose you. But if you are average looking and he is not into you that much he should be waxing that a*s.

About the 5 minute thing, yea not much you can do there. Start off with some head to numb him, that should do the trick for him to last longer. call me if you need me to break you off some

Answer 7

My sister had the same problem, all the guys used to tell her that she acted like a man. I told her that she was dating men who were younger then her and didnt know what they hell they were doing. I told her to start dating older men and more experienced... Lets just say she been very happy with her new boyfriend its about a 7 year age difference!!!

Answer 8

What you are describing is not clinical premature ejaculation.
It sounds like a case of rushing to orgasm. The guy needs to learn to take his time, try some different positions, extend the foreplay.

Answer 9

Preoblem 1- they dont initiate. for thatu cud give them signles. b4 u meet them. like talki bou that u took good shower and shaved. tell him u are in really good mood or exciting mood. i mean give them clu that its ok if they initiate..tell him that he is shy.. he may take the challenge..
problem 2- its not ur fault. Its them who ccant hold it. u can talk bout it to him too. but make sure he soent stress bou it. it is very delicate issue for guy when u are gon asay it. so be carfull how u r going to word it. there are few things he can do to hold it longer
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Answer 10

5 minutes is quite normal.
Thats why foreplay was invented.

As for taking the lead, how many dates is this?
Guys have been taught to go slow and show respect.