well theres this guy i my school that always picks fights with me i knew him for a long time but never been anything to friends with him i usually just ignore him. So today he kept calling me names and stuff and i walked away and as i was walking away one of his words actually got to me and i called him a homo and then he tackled me against the wall and held me by my collar i got really mad and pushed him really hard right at a picture frame and it cracked and thats when a teacher came and told both us to go to the office. The principle didn't really have time to discuss this so he just told us to go home and come back tomorrow and explain to him the story. So do u think I'm partly to blame for coming back and calling him a homo and do u think what i did was wrong because i have to explain this to my principle tomorrow and i don't feel the slightest guild lol
2007-09-17 12:59:12 · 17 answers · asked by Reno S 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
slightest guilt*
2007-09-17 12:59:50 · update #1
I can't blame you for what you did. You put up with that crap for a long time. You obviously don't resort to violence as a first plan of action or you would've done this a long time ago, so give yourself credit for being as civil as you possibly could have been. As for tomorrow, I encourage you to be honest with the principal (which I'm sure you will be), including not feeling guilty. Do apologize for causing a scene and damaging property but not for giving the guy what he deserved.
2007-09-17 15:05:37 · answer #1 · answered by Opal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any idea why the guy is picking fights with you? What did he say that got to you? Why did you choose to call him a homo when you reacted to him? I don't need the answers btw....but your principal might be asking them. He started the verbal confrontation. He started the physical confrontation. But you participated in both also. I would suggest you are "partly" to blame. I know it is easy to say just turn the other cheek, suck it up and maintain your composure....if you aren't the person in the situation. You slammed him into the picture frame and it cracked. I am guessing the teacher and the principal aren't just thinking about having unruly behavior at school and a broken picture frame....Was there glass involved? What if a shard of glass had slashed his face leaving him disfigured for life? Taken out an eye, leaving him blind? Or somehow pierced internal organ and killed him? Would you still not feel guilty? I am not suggesting it is easy, but you are responsible for the outcome of your actions whatever the provocation. If I sound like a prudish principal, I am trying to ;). I would suggest you explain the situation honestly...leaving the principal to judge if the other guy's comments were out of line, making it clear in the telling that he started it and it wasn't the first time. I wouldn't focus on "the he started it aspect". I would concede culpability. I certaintly wouldn't say I didn't feel guilt. I don't think that will go over very well. Would you be okay saying you feel bad that school property got damaged? Good luck....
And think about where you want to be in 5 years, where he might be, and that this has nothing to do with that.... what seems so important in junior high or high school doesn't define your life!
2007-09-17 13:26:51 · answer #2 · answered by PattiAtk 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell the principal that you pulled a Zidane and if he's a soccer fan, he'll know what you're talking about. Zidane is a French player who's always been a picture of calm and class, but in the last game of the world cup, his last game efore retirement, he let the stupid Italian player's trash talk get to him and he reacted with an uncharacteristic headbutt, which cost France the world cup and he left on such an ugly note.
Just tell your principal that you'd let quite a few comments go, but that you felt that if you don't say SOMETHING, that this was going to become a trend for the rest of the year. You also want to add that you've thought about it and realize that you shouldn't have engaged the other guy, but that you're grateful that at least by this meeting, that you're finally getting to expose his issues to the right authority and hopefully this will nip this guy's abuse in the bud, these first weeks of school.
I promise you that if you say this, you'll shift the attention of the principal on the other guy, where it obviously belongs.
Good luck and next time keep walking away. These idiots aren't worth it.
2007-09-17 13:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by TJTB 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The etiquette answer is that you should have kept on walking.
The fact that you let this bully suck you in, is your fault. Name calling is never acceptable--and it gave him the ammunition to attack you.
By now, you have already met with your principle--and I hope you were totally honest with him--about your part as well as the bully's part. That would be the proper thing to do, and take whatever punishment you are given--and NEVER let this guy get to you again. To do so gives him satisfaction. Not giving in means that you are actually the stronger person.
I am hoping the best for you.
2007-09-21 11:03:36 · answer #4 · answered by Bromeliad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's wrong to call people a homo.
Jackass would have been more politically correct.
This guy is jealous of you for some reason or maybe you did something to him. Does anyone else pick on you? are you a target in any way?
What you said was getting even by saying the worst thing you could think of .....and I am assuming he isn't gay .......so that would make him feel angry.. something YOU feel.
When you pushed him you were defending your self from the physical attack.
when you defend yourself to the principle use the word bully at least 4 times so it sinks in.
No it wasn't all your fault but you are going to get detention anyway and peer counseling is on its way,too. as for the bully. Parents will be called and detention and possible therapy outside of school is in order, Try not to walk alone for a while until this kids gets his hatred of you in check. Good luck :)
2007-09-17 13:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by to tell ya the truth........... 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, I think you are partly to blame. Now...don't think for a minute that I am ragging on you. It would have gotten to me, too.
The hardest thing is to ignore people like that, but honestly, it's the best thing. If he can't get a reaction out of you pretty soon he'll stop trying and leave you alone.
Unfortunately, now he knows how to get you going, so he may give you a rough time for a while. You'll need to be extra mellow about him and let his comments slide off. You'll be the bigger man for it, and anyone with any brains will see that.
Keep a good thought....and I'm glad to know you are concerned about how to treat others. There aren't enough people like you in the world.
2007-09-17 13:18:18 · answer #6 · answered by artistagent116 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you acquire blamed? For what precisely? It feels like this woman is definitely advise yet different than telling on her there is little you're able to do. you ought to team up with different infants who've been bullied by her, yet there is little else you're able to do. If all else fails, get your mom and dad to flow you to a distinctive college. If there grow to be no data against you interior the blaming (?) factor you ought to improve a super ruckus. probably sue. yet i kinda doubt it. by your colourful language on my own i'm able to guess that there is a reason the lecturers do no longer have confidence you, no rely if or no longer that is honest. The call Erica Spellman seems commonly used to me. i think of a woman with that call used to bypass to our college. She did that variety of factor a lot. by any hazard, does she have countless freckles and that i think of reddish type hair, because of the fact if she does, she did a similar issues to me.
2016-10-18 22:40:28 · answer #7 · answered by koltay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. you are not to blame you defended yourself that homo or fa g can't get away scott free from what he did to you. If that pissed him off, then next time call him a fa g-heeheee. You had every right to defend yourself...when you ignore it and it doesn't solve anything, sometimes*--you have to take a stand physically and let him know you are not one to mess with or they'll be hell to pay. It only takes one word or move to trigger something in you to fight like you've never thought you could and basically kick his dumb a s ! Kudos to you!
2007-09-17 13:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain how this kid was harassing you. Also include past bullying. I'm wondering why you've tolerated this. You're entitled to an education without being bullied or harassed. Demand the school do something or you'll call the police and get them involved.
Why arent you parents helping you ?
2007-09-17 14:54:59 · answer #9 · answered by Frootbat31 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont feel guilt then why are you asking if what you did was wrong? you had it right in the beginning you should've just kept walking away. If it continued you should've told someone like a teacher or parent what was going on.
In the real world you can't call people names and hit them. You'd go to jail or be sued.
2007-09-17 14:35:49 · answer #10 · answered by Rainey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋