The simple way to put this would be that me and my boyfriend *Frank never ever argue we have an excellent sex life and no complaints...
I'm freaked out because everything is too perfect...
I'm only 18 (as is he)
When we talk he gives what I call commercially based answers ...which means that its exactly what I would wanna hear...
we've been together almost 7 months but I rebounded quickly from the 3 yr relationship before (2days)(we had big reasons why we broke up)
So am I just scared of commitment or is the idea of a perfect relationship simply unrealistic?
&& my bf now has never had an actual relationship...
He's only "associated"(he doesn't claim them) with other girls (sex was 90% of the time involved)...
So... Um...
What do you think??
2007-09-17 12:45:15 · 12 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I asked for the break....
My boyfriend disagrees but completely supports me...
Please only give me indepth answers i'm completely confused... I think
2007-09-17 12:52:49 · update #1
Were not fighting...
I just keep thinking that its weird for it to be this perfect....
Maybe 2nd thoughts about an ex?
I don't know..
HELP!!!
2007-09-17 12:55:33 · update #2
Seriously EVERYTHING is perfect...
and when something is too good to be true it usually is...
2007-09-17 13:02:10 · update #3
I think you teens put entirely too much emphasis on sex and never learn to have a real relationship with one another. Sex is a very special commitment between two consenting adults, preferrably in the confines of marriage. It's not something you just do to feel good or to prove your feelings or to say you've doneit.
A three-year committed relationship that started when you were 15 is a lot of emotional pressure on a teen. It also doesn't allow you time to be a kid. Your current boyfriend has never had a real relationship but has had sex with how many partners? Do you even know?
I think you both need to take a break from these sexual encounters and learn to have a real relationship by dating. That's what the teen years are for. You date; you learn about other people, and you learn about yourself. It prepares you for an adult relationship.
You've been putting the cart before the horse here and it has only brought you confusion. Both of you need to lighten up on the serious relationships and enjoy life, your friends, and learning about yourselves before you get bogged down in the mechanics of it all.
2007-09-17 13:16:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you guys are only 18. I don't think that at 18 you are supposed to be completely devoted to one guy and freak out when it doesn't work out or everything is not going how you want it. It seems you had a fight for a reason. Not every person you date is meant for you to be in a relatonship with. That's why it is called dating. I owuldn't worry about it. I know it is harder said than done. Just give him time wait a couple of days and then talk to him. Talk, don't fight.
2007-09-17 19:50:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No real relationship is perfect. people argue people disagree, thats normal. he probably never had a real relationship..as you said, so he doesnt know how to act. but you need to explain to him that trust and communication is key in every relationship. you guys will do fine he will figure it out. but if it doesnt seem right to you or things dont work out remember you are only 18.. you have a long life ahead of you dont forget to have fun ok? good luck sweetie, you will be fine
2007-09-17 19:58:35 · answer #3 · answered by Becky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody is perfect.
Being afraid of commitment is normal.
Take your break, and when/if you get back together, the relationship will be stronger.
If you don't get back together, it probably was not as perfect as you thought.
2007-09-17 19:50:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it takes time for problems to get in a relationship...usually about 6-7 months but if you both live with your parents it will be more...
2007-09-18 15:23:18 · answer #5 · answered by ele 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to be alone for a while. When you are 21, you will be a completely different person. When you are 25 you will be a different person. You should enjoy yourself and live your life. Soon you will be pregnant. Your going to have to clean and cook. That's not going to be fun.
2007-09-17 19:50:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you need to relax and have fun without sex ...you are young and have plenty of time to worry about all of this.... you should not be having sex and being afaid of commitment...sounds like you need to slow down and find out what you want out of life and if this person can help( or stand next to you while you ) acheive that.
2007-09-17 19:51:11 · answer #7 · answered by anut76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lie to him and tell him a break is a really good idea..act confident and pretend u want it too...stop talking to him for a few days (ignore his calls etc) start even going out on a few dates with other men...maybe even call up one of his guy friends to see how there doingl...within two weeks he will be crawling all over u...it might sound weird but belive me it works...just dont sleep with anyone else...keep it casual dating
2007-09-17 19:52:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your probably his one of few girlfriends he has ever had. dont worry he just wants to know other girls and he will come back to you. 7 months is a long time you know
2007-09-17 19:50:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
a break is not really a good idea to sort out any problems --- if you cant talk them out and find solutions now how will it be in the future (however long that future is) ---- enjoy
2007-09-17 19:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋