okay so i juss got this new boyfriend and i dont want him to break up with me cuz im not fun to talk its jus that im kinda shy.like when we were friends we could talk about everything but now that we go out its like i have nothing to say to him you know?i juss need to know how i could do better and keep him intrested
2007-09-17 12:03:37 · 26 answers · asked by darrell b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he's dating you it means he's already interested. Don't try to change yourself. Try going out or finding something you both like and can talk about i.e. a book or a movie. If you can't think of one make a topic, any kind!! Anywhere from whats up with the weather to his favorite color. Just talking and hanging out with him will make him happy. Also, throw in some compliments for him. Not all mushy but something like 'you looks nice today' or 'i like that shirt'. Tell him he's really special because it's not just the girls who like to be told they look good. It'll reassure him and defiantly tell him your still interested and that your caring for him. And don't forget the most important rule: BE YOURSELF!!!! ^-^
2007-09-17 12:12:18 · answer #1 · answered by To-Many-Questions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pretend as if you still are friends, but just a little more closer(that's exactly what a girlfriend is, haha). If you are with someone you deeply love, now why would there be a reason to be shy about? He took you for who you were and you took him for who he was. Don't let the "girlfriend" label change anything. Everyone holds this power, but some take a while to let it out. Once you do, you'll be enjoying the greatest life with your loved one.
Wish you the best! =]
2007-09-17 19:08:36 · answer #2 · answered by John P. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you think it would be fun to make a scrapbook of pictures and stories all about him. Then you can ask him questions about his family and hobbies, and he can talk about himself. Guys love that. Take pictures. You can get a loose leaf type scrapbook and type pages of his jokes and stories (use plastic page protectors), and use those peel and stick pages for the snapshots, programs, ticket stubs of things you do together. Ask him what he likes to do, skating, bowling, running, hiking, biking, etc. If you keep doing things together, then you talk while you make plans, and then talk about what you did afterward. Ask his help on homework, even if you really know how to do it. Check what movies or bands are coming to town and you can talk to him about that. Always compliment him, and don't be a complainer. Guys hate that! Good luck!
2007-09-17 19:24:34 · answer #3 · answered by soupkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is really nothing you can do, if you're shy, you're shy. I'm exactly the same way, I feel that I don't carry on a conversation well. But, I figure if he's bored with me, then it's his loss, what I look for in a guy would have to be opposite of me that way we can balance out.
2007-09-17 19:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by Janine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...he asked you out in the first place because he likes you...don't change..but don't be too shy...then he will start thinking the relationship is going no where. But definitely do new things together....like play games or something.. :D have some fun together!!
2007-09-17 19:08:39 · answer #5 · answered by Missy M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your meant to be the conversations won't always be interesting, but it really won't matter. Seriously. My boyfriend and I talk about his dog, work, belly button lint. The magic is that we don't have to talk about anything amazingly interesting. We're comfortable enough with each other to be ourselves. This comes with time. Just be yourself. You may be realizing that there isn't the right kind of chemistry there.
2007-09-17 19:07:52 · answer #6 · answered by Kristen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be brave! Try going places together, it usually helps the conversation side if there are things visually around to discuss, try exploring into things he's interested in, if he's into Soccer or something, ask him about it, then try researching a little on your own.
2007-09-17 19:13:35 · answer #7 · answered by Dizzy O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
k first off i went thru that a couple years ago with my first bf. and it gets better so have a little faith in ur guy , just flat out tell him how u feel. say i am shy or i am still getting used to the new things now but i really like you, make ur point that you dont want him to get un-interested. it soudns weird and kinda hard but guys like it when ur just flat out honest with them. trust me, dont txt or email or wat ever call him or say it in person, a good boyfriend will understand you. :)
2007-09-17 19:08:12 · answer #8 · answered by Angela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy above me is right. Just talk like you 2 would when you were friends.
2007-09-17 19:08:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can just be yourself...You can go to a movie with your
b/f then go out to eat...you will already have somthing to talk about, the movie...was it a good movie, was it a funny movie...and if you know hime from childhood, talk about funny things that happened in your childhood...bring back the good memorize. =) good luck
2007-09-17 19:08:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋