I really don't understand why i'm a magnet for man-whores. if there's a man-whore, he'll like me. it's very annoying because usually i end up being upset about them. i don't think i give off a vibe that attracts man-whores....i don't act slutty and i'm not stupid.....so why do they think they can fool me?? what is it about me that makes them feel so....so........"welcome." It's not like I flirt with them or give off any wrong messages. so why me? it's never the nice guys that like me, it's always the man-whores. i think i have a nice enough personality to attract the nice guys but apparently not...
2007-09-17 11:19:14 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
lol this question is hilarious
never heard anyone use that term before, man whore lol
As to your question:
How do you dress? You say that you don't act slutty, so I'm going to go on a limp and say that you don't dress to sexy either. Dress modestly to avoid man-whores
Second, are you physically "blessed?" That's another thing man-whores keenly look for. Nothing you can do about that, except maybe look for guys at the right spots (bars/night clubs are filled with man-whores). Try church.
2007-09-17 11:25:41 · answer #1 · answered by Jared 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there are a lot of 'em out there. Are you sure you're attracting more than the average girl?
Plus, are you sure you know what "vibe" actually attracts man-whores? Or, maybe there are subcategories and you're attracting one or more specific subgroups.
For instance, even though you're not "slutty," is it possible you're overly nice, too tolerant? When you see the early signs, are you assertive, setting clear boundaries? Some of 'em look for women who they think they can manipulate and control - some of whoring has nothing to do with wanting sex - more about power & control of another person who they perceive to be less powerful.
Also, do you have beliefs about sex that are opposite of those of the "man whores?" You might be surprised by some of the less extreme interpretations of people who have more liberal beliefs and behaviors re sexuality. So, is it possible that some "man-whores" are also nice guys? In my experience, most of life can't be categories into "good" and "bad." It seems like most of life falls in the grey area.
If you talk to the females who don't seem to attract many of them, you'll probably learn that there are some common beliefs/behaviors that differ from yours. I have to say, if it's really as many of them as you make it sound, then you must be a part of the dynamic. Rather than assuming that you're not the "common denominator," maybe it would help to assume that you are and ask others around you for feedback to help identify themes and patterns in your behavior.
Might be fun to experiment for yourself, in an environment where people know you and won't take advantage or be disrespectful, to see what it feels like to be really nice and rather whorish. Ha!
2007-09-17 11:40:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you could be super hot or you could be super naive (which is what I'm suspecting). You may not think that you're giving off any vibes but you definitely are if you're asking this question. Naive and stupid are not the same thing.
one of my old best friends was like this. She is very naive about the way the world works and how most guys think about sex and relationships. She just didn't really get it because she was so moral and such a nice person she kind of expected everyone else to be like that when in reality, they aren't.
She would start kind of liking a guy and then sleep with him like the next day because she thought that they would obviously end up as boyfriend and girlfriend when really, all the guy wanted was to get in her pants. So as soon as he got that...he was outta there. So she was hurt numerous times by this.
If this is what you're doing, you might want to think things over. maybe ask one of your close friends what they think.
If this is not what you're doing then its just because you have a vagina, and you need to learn how to spot the "man-whores" from a mile away so you can avoid them.
good luck!
2007-09-17 11:26:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Judgeing by the way you ask your ask your question, I would call you a target back in my younger days. You are the type that probably does not give the nice guy the time of day. I used to be one of the nice guys, and became one of the jerks because of it. You are probably not doing it on purpose as I learned later when i matured. It is subtle things that you do that attracts different guys, and when guys see a girl with an attitude, they tend to want to "Teach them a Lesson." I will tell you what, those guys were the nerds in high school, and they are out for revenge, so next time a dork tries to say hi to you and you blow him off, you probably should think twice.
2007-09-17 11:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Victoria I don't know if you have gotten yourself a reputation as being easy or why these guys are constantly bothering you. Perhaps your too nice and so these guys think they can either con you or play you like a cheap fiddle. If you start putting them in their place then eventually word will get out that your not there for the taking. Best of luck in finding a decent fella to care for you.
2007-09-17 11:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart it is not your fault, this is coming from a good man yes nice guy. Most men are pigs and they show it every day and twice on Sunday. That's where nice guys lose out women are so fed-up with all the a** holes out there that every guy is put in the same picture. Trust me i see it all day long it is like another notch in there belt it is discus ting to a real man. Sorry from the good guys.
2007-09-17 11:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by freeze 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it talks like a man whore and acts like a man whore watch out. Observe their behavior for a few months or years before indulging in sex with them. It doesn't take too long to tell what people are up to.
2007-09-17 11:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by 354gr 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt have to neccessarily a vibe.
*just think about this*
~was there ever a guy who was after you - but you werent into him. maybe by chane he asked you out. you said NO but that no echoed through his heart and he was torn....
long story short, the guy you (dissed) may have talked to a couple of buddies and "CLAIMED" you were easy or claimed you did things to him all because you kindly rejected his @ss and wouldnt go out with him. You thought nothing of it, cuz you turned him dowon nicely and wasn't mean at all. He just said fine, okay and shrugged it off.
The @ss did not shrugg it off. He told someone you got HIM off. *think about it* *think hard* i am sure there is one guy around if you can remeber...if you remember exactly who it is.....lay it on his sorry @ss and tell him you can get twice what he aint!
2007-09-17 11:26:00 · answer #8 · answered by 3LL3 e VAT3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start paying more attention to the nicer guys, ignore the man whores and see how much it pays off
2007-09-17 11:22:08 · answer #9 · answered by pikachocobo 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hot tip- ALL women are magnets for man-whores. As for the "nice guys"- they tend to be taken up and hard to find, is all. Hang in there, you'll find one...
2007-09-17 11:25:55 · answer #10 · answered by Shank 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋