My daughter is getting married next month. Today is the deadline for RSVP's to come in (don't even ask about how many are here - that's a whole other story!).
This weekend, I get an RSVP from someone whose name I don't recognize. When I got here to the office, I checked the file, and sure enough, this guy isn't on the list. No biggie, I figure he's somebody's significant other...he did, after all, RSVP for two, and my guess was that the invitation was mailed to the girlfriend.
When I asked my daughter about it, neither she nor her fiance know anyone by this name (first and/or last).
No return address. Local postmark. No one in the book with that last name.
My current thought is that one of the invitations went to the wrong address, and he's looking forward to a free meal. I'm thinking he must be fairly clever, and I might enjoy meeting him...He'll probably sit in the back of the room, though, with the kids.
What would you do in the same situation?
2007-09-17 11:01:06 · 13 answers · asked by abfabmom1 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes, I checked the phone book, and there's no one (at all) with that last name listed...and I did google him...found a professor out of state with the same name, but nothing local.
He and his date are having beef, since you've asked!
2007-09-17 11:25:02 · update #1
Most definitely, I will be calling everyone who hasn't sent in a response. I'm certainly hoping that I'll figure this out in the process.
How would we go about having someone at the door to stop him from coming in? I'm not gonna ID everyone as they arrive...
2007-09-17 12:44:41 · update #2
Phew, we figured it out! As expected, he is the SO of a female guest...Thank goodness!
And thanks for all your answers!
2007-09-18 08:18:05 · update #3
That is too funny!!! I say that this person has some HUGE balls if they show up to a wedding where they know not one person!!! I don't think there is much you CAN do. I guess just try to figure out from the those who did not RSVP who the invite really went to and go from there.
2007-09-17 15:21:23 · answer #1 · answered by GiddyGiddyGoin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what I would do first is mark off everyone who RSVP'd on the list. then I would call everyone who hasnt yet and tell them that you think an invite got lost in the mail becuase someone you dont know RSVP'd as coming. this way you can find out either a) who it is or b) who didnt get the invite as well and if the people who didnt RSVp are actually coming or not. if yout still cant figure it out then I would have this person seated near the back and keep an eye out for who it is.
2007-09-17 20:42:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like someone else here, I would wonder who didn't get an invitation who was supposed to. Please make sure anyone who didn't send an RSVP gets called and ask them if they received an invitation. Also, I like the idea above, of asking the single women who were invited with a guest if that fellow belongs to them.
If you want to find out who he is at the wedding, you could note his table number and visit that table. Make sure you know everyone else at the table so you'll be able to identify the couple.
2007-09-17 19:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wedding crasher or not, this is a potentially dangerous situation.
I would have someone stationed at the door for when he arrived and ask him to idntify himself and his relationship to the bride or groom before he would be given access.
Most weddings have somoene there to direct when guests pick up their place cards. His wold of course be flagged and when he reached for it, that person can ask..
I have seen weddings where some people were banned and they did in fact ask people who they were at the door.
Since no one seems to know who this person is, then for me it would be worth putting a person on station at the door or by the place cards to identify him ..
There is also a master guest list that some weddings have. As you go in you are checked off the list.
This one is for highbrow weddings though.
2007-09-17 19:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by psstoffagain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Yes, that is funny. I don't think they received the invitation by accident. I think they were mailed the invitation and they are trying to be funny. Could it be a friend of your daughter or her fiance....or perhaps someone that they work with? Is there a jokester in the crowd? It was nice that they sent it back....so that you can plan accordingly....but my guess is that IT IS someone that does KNOW one (or both) of them and is trying to be funny by using the bogus name.
Yes....seat them at the kids table. That will be a hoot!!! Good luck!
2007-09-17 20:02:57 · answer #5 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't seat them anywhere!!! Even if they are people you know, if you know them it should all come out before hand.
You will need to find out who didn't get their invite, then go from there.
Don't give them a seat, especially with the kids, a little unsafe!
I definatly see the humour though, they would have laughed all the way to the post office!!
I've just sent my invites out and my in-laws didn't recieve theirs, I sent three to their address they got one ( a friend of theirs), I had one sent back to me (have no idea why) and my in-laws still haven't recieved theirs. Jokingly i told them they weren't invited! ha ha , anyway, getting to my point, maybe it is the postie!!!
2007-09-18 10:08:42 · answer #6 · answered by christy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing my self admitted overly anal self I think that may send me right over the edge! Good for you for taking it with such humor! I agree, seat him in the back and make a point to know where his table is so you can go and meet him. But be prepared with a bunch of questions. You may have a professional wedding crasher on your hands!
2007-09-17 18:27:28 · answer #7 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it. I was likely someone that isn't coming that put in a bogus name. Seat them at a children's table. Either way, the married couple will be able to identify wedding crashers!
2007-09-17 18:08:48 · answer #8 · answered by jamesv000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you already tried to find the name in the phone book or on line?
As your daughter and her groom to identify the single girls they invited and contact the ones who haven't been marked off as replying to see if this fellow belongs to one of them.
2007-09-17 18:14:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I have no idea how to handle that. But what I'm wondering is if the invitation did fall to the wrong hands, who DIDN'T get invited that should have?
2007-09-17 18:57:44 · answer #10 · answered by ds37x 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋