2007-09-17 10:55:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
That would be a matter of personal opinion for you.
The only thing that concerns me about later life pregnancies is the health risks to mom and baby.
I am not quite sure how a parents age could ever be unfair to a child.
I am 30 with a 4 year old, I plan on having another, As long as i feel youthful and happy it will reflect in my parenting reguardless of my age.
2007-09-17 12:29:44 · answer #1 · answered by here2adoreyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had one at 35, one at 38 and one at 39. They're all healthy kids. I have 3 friends who had babies over the age of 40 and all their kids are healthy, too.
I didn't want to be an older mom -- I wanted to start having kids at 21. However, I was not in a good relationship at the time, and it took me a long time to find the right partner. I think that's much more important than age.
The second most important factor, IMHO, is your personal health, because that plays a lot into how healthy your baby will be. My sister-in-law had a baby at 21 who has tons of problems. So again, there's another argument that age has less to do with it than you think.
I think if you have to use artificial means to get pregnant (surrogacy, IVF, etc.), then you're getting to where it's unfair to the child.
2007-09-17 11:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by sparki777 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
My aunt is 59 and just found out that she is pregnant. She will be sixty when the child is born. This was not planned she has been marrried for 30+ years her youngest is almost 40. She went to the doctor thinking it was menopause and guess what...... I believe that she has been blessed although many may not see it that way but I believe that the lord can bless anyone he sees fit with a child whether they think its for the best or not.
2007-09-17 13:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by smoothazhoney 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My personal cut-off age is 35. Statistically speaking, the chances of having a disabled child increase after age 35. (I worked with disabled people and decided early on that I was going to give my kids the best chance of NOT having disabilities. That being said, if they were born with disabilities, I'd have had no problem.)
HOWEVER, I have plenty of friends who've had children well into their late 30's and early 40's and both they and the kids are fine. I don't think anyone thinks of fairness when it comes parents' ages in relation to the kids' ages anymore. Forty is the new 30...60 is the new 40. Plenty of people are healthier and more active in their later years.
2007-09-17 11:02:43 · answer #4 · answered by pattypuff76 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think if a person is so old that theor pregnancy has to be artificially made from donor eggs and sperm and supported with drug injections that's too old. I think that if a person is physically capable of having a child, then it's up to them and God's grace to decide. Sometimes older parents are better equipped to be parents than their younger counterparts.
2007-09-17 11:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by Heavenly Advocate 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i don't think anyone is to old to have a child. they could adopt a child if they couldn't have any more. i know people who are in their 80's who also foster little babies and infants.
2007-09-17 11:09:18 · answer #6 · answered by lbear 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
About 48 or over. Just my opinion.
2007-09-17 11:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by Vires 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
i think it becomes unfair after 30. everyone ive talked to says to have them when you are young so that you have energy to play and then you can play with grandchildren.also ive heard its easyer the younger you are.
2007-09-17 11:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by Kayla C 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋