I really don't want to seem like a conceited bi*tch, im really not i hate people like that but i know that guys find me attractive. I typically don't like all those arrogant football players and preps and i go for the quiet, smart, and dorky kids. Im a drama geek myself. This one kid, he's nerd, and i really like him. no girl really finds him attractive and my friends think im crazy that i like him. but i still do. and he completely ignores me. its as if he purposefully tries to avoid me or something. I try to smile and say hi in the halls but its as if he will have nothing to do with me. He talked to me once, and he seemed nice but after that, like if we are in groups he won't talk to me, or if i ask him a question he'll look away. I don't know why he treats me like this, i was only nice to him, and he won't even be my friend. the weird thing is, we barely know each other. Why is he doing this to me, i hate it, he's killing, me he only makes me like him even more. what should i do?
2007-09-17 10:49:37 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he probably has low self-esteem and feels intimidated around you and other girls in general. i would try to keep talking to him to let him know that he doesnt have to act shy around you. hopefully if he gets to know you more he'll open up more around you. good luck!
2007-09-17 10:58:09 · answer #1 · answered by rosieposie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OHHHH MAN!!! well...i know EXACTLY what u mean. The reason why he acts like this towards u is because he is confused as hell. Here u are a girl who alot of people find attractive and ur going for a guy who doesn't find himself in ur league at all. I've seen this problem so many times with my friends. So basically he sees ur kindness as a bit of either a tease or his selfesteem isn't strong enough to accept the fact that a girl like urself has any interest in him. Esencially doesn't find himself worthy of a woman of ur caliber. It is sad, but its true. Many kids like that who are regarded as "nerdy" don't have too much confidence when it comes to girls. They usually WAIT for someone who is of the same dorkiness or shares the same interests on the same level as they do. And now that an "above expectations" girl is talking to him, he has no friggen clue how to react. It's actually a bit overwhelming for him too. So what u need to do is every time u see him make it a point to compliment him in some way, and try to get close with him through conversation. Ask him questions that u know he will have to answer. Even if he seems disinterested for a while like he has been, ur still making progress although it may not seem like it at the time. Discuss things he finds interseting. For example, if he plays Dungeons and Dragons(i know that's a sterio type, but its just an example) u should try to learn enough about D&D too just so u can have long, friendly talk with him. If u like him enough, u will do these kinds of things. After u know him better, ask him when and if he would like to go get lunch together. Eventually if all goes well tell him how u feel. But make sure its extremely sincere sounding when u do because again he'll be skeptical due to his lack of confidence. Good luck!
2007-09-17 18:27:50 · answer #2 · answered by FutureFederer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you came across as conceited to him when you spoke to him. Or maybe you come across as conceited to other people and they have told him you are this way. Most guys find anybody that isn't a guy attractive so don't get to high on yourself that guys find you attractive. There is someone out there for everyone even the girl that you think is the ugliest thing you have ever seen. Also if you go around calling this guy a nerd it is highly unlikely that he will like you. He probably believes that you are just setting him up for a cruel joke especially if your friends are kidding you about it and making jokes. If you really like him then try harder to talk to him. Tell your friends to knock off the jokes and kidding. Good luck to you
2007-09-17 17:59:36 · answer #3 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you. Probably a lot.
You stated he is a geeky guy and your friends don't understand why you like him. The fact is that he does like you and does not want to screw it up by talking to you. It is probable based on your friends reaction that you are the first girl to act in a positive manner towards him so he does not know what to do. The best course of action is to try and let him know you like him and that you would like to go out with him. Hopefully that gives him the courage to make a move.
2007-09-17 17:57:43 · answer #4 · answered by arimarismacon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a sad fact of life that we always want what we can't have - thats what's driving you crazy is the fact that he's not responding to you like you want.
You have to decide to not let him get to you like this and start living your own life without him. Then, if he is playing games, he will notice that you're not chasing him around and will wonder why. He'll come around to see whats up, if he cares at all. If he doesn't, than you know what the real deal is and you'll have to accept it.
2007-09-17 18:00:49 · answer #5 · answered by CATHY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes that nerdy like you say he probaly is very shy. He might not realize that your even flirting with him. I would just ask him out b/c it sounds like he'll never make the first move.
2007-09-17 17:56:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him out for a soda and see if he goes. he may think that you just playing with his feelings..and let me ask why are you attracted more to a guy that has not returned your feeling..this is a bad sign for things to come
2007-09-17 18:13:24 · answer #7 · answered by autumnbrookblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes probably really shy. most nerd are like that to people that are more popular then them.
2007-09-17 17:55:59 · answer #8 · answered by Raven C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hes either playing the "im hard to get game"
or hes reallyyy nervous to talk to you since he thinks your beauitful or something
2007-09-17 17:55:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he sounds rly nervous 2 me lol..best thing 2 do is point blank tell him u like him
2007-09-17 17:56:23 · answer #10 · answered by graysonwc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋