my half sister is 20 years older than me and she is my godmother- so she is important, but the fact is im not really close at all with her, she's gonna want to be in the wedding (she's pushy and gets her way too much) but, i dont want her in the wedding party like my other half sister..... so where do i put her? personal attendant is dumb b/c she'll want all the arrangements her way-not mine (my wedding).... i want her to FEEL important without being the center of attention...
HELP!!!!
P.S. my other brother is the same way, but im putting him as an usher, and my other brother/godfather is taking me down the aisle, b/c my dad is dead and we are close
2007-09-17 10:43:28 · 19 answers · asked by Radar M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Let her be responsible for making sure that every body get's their flowers (best man, groom, parents, special guests etc) and she can also be the one to show guests where the rest rooms are, give directions to the reception, where the nursery is if you're having one etc....
2007-09-17 10:54:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
This your day, but it is also a family celebration. Your friends come and go,but your family is there for the rest of your life whether you like it or not. Put her in the wedding party, just put her on the furtherest end from the bride.
When she gets pushy, try your best to ignore her and do what you want. If you seriously don't want her in the wedding party, put her at the entrance of the church as a greeter. That way she is front and center-like she wants, but she is out of your way- which is what you want.
2007-09-17 17:54:02 · answer #2 · answered by mischa 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask her to do a reading, its important, it gives her her 5 minutes of being the centre of attention, but its a clearly defined role that wouldnt allow her a way in to start trying to arrange things her way like being a bridesmaid/attentdant would. You could even narrow down her influence even more so by picking out some readings you'd like to hear and asking her to pick from those only.
Remember its your day, be tough and be straight, if someone wants something that you dont you simply have to speak up for yourself, if they love you they'll understand that its your special day and your time to have what you want, if they dont understand that then they really arent showing love for you so arent worth bothering about.
2007-09-17 17:56:05 · answer #3 · answered by KeaneMiss 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
She could:
- Light candles in church before the wedding march starts
- Oversee the guest book at the reception
- Be a 'flower woman' at the wedding
- Be an usher (yes, woman can be ushers too!)
- Emcee at the reception
2007-09-17 18:04:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have her do a reading and ask her to organise the ushers and seating and keep an eye on the caterers. Invent as many jobs as you can to make her feel important and to keep her too busy to interfere. She will think she is running the show, but really wont be. she will drive the caterers nuts but at least she will be out of your hair.
Good luck
2007-09-17 17:53:53 · answer #5 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are including one half-sister, you must include all of your siblings per proper etiquette per Sharon Naylor. I would suggest that you have her do a song if she can sing or a reading during the ceremony. It would be beyond rude to include all your other siblings in your wedding party and exclude her.
As far as her wanting to be controlling, you are just going to have to learn to say no to her as need be. That is much LESS rude than not including her!!!!!!
2007-09-17 18:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by starrrrgazer 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, I think you're gonna have a difficult time explaining to her why the other half-siblings are in the wedding party and she isn't. But if that's how you want it, have her do a reading.
2007-09-17 19:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by ds37x 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes it is best to let her feel important. My suggestion is to assign her as your "day of assistant". She would be responsible for making sure the cake is delivered and set up, meeting the caterers (if you have them). Laying the asile runner after pictures are completed, making sure the asile has rose petals sprinked down it. Basically keep her busy and out of your way and out of your hair!
2007-09-17 17:53:33 · answer #8 · answered by texascutie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have her guard the gift table, did you see the guy who stole a bunch of envelopes from a wedding party ? THAT is am important job in my book.
2007-09-17 17:53:30 · answer #9 · answered by indyskinsfan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is that pushy I would have her sitting and watching the wedding rather than in it. Or make her the director they get to boss people around
2007-09-17 17:49:42 · answer #10 · answered by 4 Ever A Hustlers Wife!!!!!!!!! 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋