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Okay I meet this nice guy off of eharmony.com and we want to have our first date this coming Saturday. He lives in Wisconsin and I live in Chicago. He drives while I don't. It is a 3-4 hour drive from Wisconsin to Chicago. I had mentioned that I could take the Amtrak and meet him halfway but now I'm not so sure if I comfortable with doing that. I would really like for him to drive here. I know that is asking a lot but I think its more reasonable than me being on Amtrak late then having to take public transportation to get home late at night. So do you think I am being reasonable with wanting him to drive here? If he does drive here should I be the one that pays for our activities to make up for this lost of gas and all the miles that he is putting on his car?

I would really appreciate if you answer the questions above. I really don't need to hear about the danger of meeting people from offline. I very aware of the dangers and how to protect myself.

Thanks
CuriousStacy

2007-09-17 10:37:51 · 7 answers · asked by CuriousStacy 4 in Society & Culture Etiquette

7 answers

Usually it is the invitOR who sets the traveling plans. Whose idea was it to get together? His or yours?

You are not being unreasonable to want him to drive to you, but if it is YOUR "invitation" then it is proper to offer to pay for his transportation costs. If it is HIS idea, HE pays.

As for activities while together, it is, again, depending upon the invitOR or invitEE. The invitOR pays. If that is him, HE pays. If that is you, YOU pay. But be fully prepared to pay just in case he turns out to be a jerk and wants you to pay... followed by a quick DROP HIM from your life!

I don't lecture people on online-dating and such. There are as many jerks in "real" life as there are online. I have wasted 10 years on a "real" life jerk, and I am currently waiting.. and have been waiting for 8 years... for the love of my life to return, whom I met online. So, you get no lecture here.

As long as you are aware and protect yourself, which you say you do, you GO GIRL!

Have a polite day!

2007-09-17 11:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by wyomugs 7 · 3 0

Since he is the only one who drives, he should probably make the trip, though you could help him out with gas, like someone else mentioned. In all, do what you feel comfortable doing.

Also, congrats on meeting someone on eharmony. I had little to no luck when I was on that site. I guess I just do a poor job of presenting myself online.

2007-09-17 11:02:08 · answer #2 · answered by I'm Still Here 5 · 1 0

I think it's fine to ask him to drive, but you might want to pitch in some money for gas. Gas is expensive these days. I'd say make the money arrangements with him before he comes.

2007-09-17 17:21:12 · answer #3 · answered by drshorty 7 · 2 0

Call me old fashion, but the guy should be the one going to see the girl. Yes, he should drive to see you. You don't have to pay for everything. Let him pay for all and you might buy him one or two meals or coffee/snack.

2007-09-17 22:03:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

lol.. i live in chicagoo toO!. cool. lol but im prolly wayy younger thann yoU!! not sayingg yurr old. but i think it would be more reasonable for himm to drive cuzz whenever ya'll are going places then.. like you guys wouldnt have to like go on buses and stuff. and whooaaa do i know how buzy chicagoo can be on saturdayss! lol. and umm. kay. ya. hope i helped yaa out
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2007-09-17 11:12:17 · answer #5 · answered by aim=xocutypie344xo; talk to me!♥ 2 · 0 0

I think at least paying or provising for dinner or breakfast might be in order. when he leave ask if you can give him some gas money.

2007-09-17 11:06:06 · answer #6 · answered by Laine 4 · 0 0

He should since he drives. You should reimburse some of the gas.

2007-09-17 10:45:47 · answer #7 · answered by mattgo64 5 · 1 0

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