Pagans: How did you find your Coven/Family/Kindred for your tradition?

Answer 1

Mine is actually my own biological family.

Answer 2

I'm perfectly happy as a solitary; over the years I've followed a path primarily composed of animal magic and totemism, flavored with neoshamanism and some solitary Wicca by way of Cunningham, and a few years ago was heavily influenced by Chaos magic, which made my path a lot more pragmatic. I'm currently working on formalizing and organizing the elements of what I've learned in the past decade and change that are most useful and meaningful to me into a sort of one-person tradition.

I do sometimes practice magic with my husband and fellow magician, though my spirituality is more personal. As far as other people go, I very much enjoy trading notes and talking shop with pagans of all traditions at gathers and other events. While I have no interest in joining any groups, I do like seeing what other people are doing. Additionally, talking to other people helps keep me focused and helps assure that I don't end up going off the deep end.

Answer 3

Almost by accident.

I was an amateur, a teenager with abilities I didn't understand and couldn't always control for the first part of my search.

The man who became my first teacher steadied me, gave me guidance and tutelage, introduced me to the gods and helped me integrate the instinctive magick I'd been working into my daily life. So I became a solitary under a solitary.

After about eight years, I began to hunger for someone else to share this experience with. Another student joined us, a seeker like myself. Like myself, he'd been searching blindly and had made some mistakes, but found what he'd been looking for with us.

Though my original teacher has since parted ways, our coven has grown from that nucleus. We are small, but our bonds are strong. These people are my best friends. We can all lean on each other, without any of us feeling weak.

Answer 4

I went threw a few diffrent groups.. I dont play well with others, mainly because Pagan Time... Anyone familliar with Pagan Time???? DRIVES ME NUTS.. Cant be on time for anything cept MAYBE a ritual.... Ahem... let me compose my slef. Ok.. I am my own tradtion, I know a lot of poeple and i married(and divorced and married into another one) into a all pagan family.. cept for the odd atheist here adn there., Go to events in your community and meet people, talk to them and decide what you want in a tradition.. make a list, and then take notes, compare contrast ect. Look on the witches voice for local covens.. Better yet, create your own, its easier because then you know what type of traditon you are starting..although i must say you never know what it will end up as. good luck!

Answer 5

I was reading and researching everything I could find on-line and at my local library. One of the links that interested me was for CUEW and CFFN. This particular family of traditions introduced me to a wider view, but still laid down some basics that included study and intellectual integrity, as well as recognition of some of the biggest challenges facing Wicca and Wiccans today. I took the time to write an entrance assignment and was accepted. I am primarily a solitary, but I am talking and learning with a very good group of balanced, intelligent folks. I hope to help others who find this a refreshing way to continue on their own spiritual path.

Answer 6

I'm a Solitaire, as many here are, but many Witches find their kindred spirits on witchvox.com.

I live in th eBay Area, there are covens here practically in the yellow pages, so there is no problem finding one if that is what one seeks.

Blessings,
Lady Morgana )0(

Answer 7

I'm not really sure. The people that I would consider my pagan family don't necessarily believe exactly the same things I do - we're all quite different. I guess that one of the lessons I've learned along the way is that I can have my connection and worship on my own - the adding of others is pleasant but not necessary.

Answer 8

They found me! :)

I'd been exploring paganism in general but had a definite affinity for the Norse gods. Donated some runes I made to a pagan pride day raffle that caught their eye. Next thing I knew, I was invited to a heathen event. One thing led to another and eventually I was invited to join my kindred. Been there nearly five years now and it's been a real joy to find that sense of true community that had eluded me for decades.

Answer 9

Solitary... well, with the exception of my son. The few groups I've met up with in my area, well, were less than desireable. One group the only discussion for 3 months was who, between 2 young women (younger than I - not that age really matters... wisdom, among other things, matters in this case), would get to be HPS. The other was basing most of their information off of things they picked up off of TV (of all places) and anything else that made them look like "Cool Witches". *Sigh* I finally just gave up and decided it's probably better to just be Solitary and work only with those people who are serious about doing research (even if they don't follow one single cultural path - that doesn't matter to me)... but the least they can do is use Honest Research. In my opinion.

Answer 10

Just lucky I suppose. Dowsing dbs on the web, spiritual healing dbs. To the extent I have a coven/family/kindred they came to me through the web originally.

Answer 11

I know it sounds odd. but i have never had to look for a coven/family/kindred, we have always just sort of found each other. when the student is ready the teacher will apear. it aplies to more then just learning. when you are ready for something you will come a crosse it. be open to the experince.