I have known my boyfriend since 6th grade but we just started dating 2 months ago. I always doubted when people say you just know when the person is right, but I actually really do feel like he is what I have been looking for. I know he is thinking the same way but it 2 months too soon to be thinking about marriage even though we have known each other for 12 years?
2007-09-17 10:09:44 · 19 answers · asked by ditzwannabe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes because your still in the honeymoon stage. You have known him for 12 years, but you haven't been in the same relationship for 12 years. When you get through your first very big fight as a couple, then you have a better idea.
2007-09-17 12:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband inofficially proposed after about 2 weeks, we got married less then 5 month after our first date.. Many people from my town thought we had to get married because I was pregnant (I wasn't). We just knew that we are meant for each other, I knew it before we even went on our first date (we met on the internet, no dating site though).. We've been happily married for over a year now and are expecting our first child.
Especially if you've known your boyfriend for 12 years, if you both feel that you belong to each other, don't listen to other people, do what you know is right.. Good luck to you two!!
2007-09-17 10:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To start thinking about marriage, no it's not too soon. Now to actually get married..probably. There is nothing wrong with talking about it, even getting engaged....but there is no reason to rush the wedding. You could continue to be with one another, plan it out...stuff like that. It's ok to talk about it...after all, none of us are getting any younger. If you love him, he loves you and you both see yourselves as being together for a long, commited relationship....then sure...it's ok to talk about it.
That doesn't mean he has to be pressured into doing it though right now....even an egagement might feel like too much too soon to him....so for now...speak in abstracts....not absolutes with marriage...see how he feels about things. This will give you a better idea of what is going on in his head and heart. Though it also may be feeling to much to soon for you as well, hence why you asked the question to begin with. Don't worry about it though...it's not too soon unless one or the other is pressuring to do it now and it's making the other one feel uncomfortable. That's too soon. However, just getting ideas on how each other views marriage, what they hope for in the relationship...what kind of wedding each of you wants...thoose aren't bad things....and it's not too soon.
So talk about it...it's a good thing. Just don't put pressure on one another to do it too soon...let it happen over it's natural course of time.
2007-09-17 10:24:19 · answer #3 · answered by Machowolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be about 24 yrs old?
There's nothing wrong with thinking about marriage. But since you just started dating 2 months ago, then I wouldn't rush into marriage, enjoy getting to know each other better. Enjoy going more places together, beach, mountains, doing something exciting that you never did before, so you get to know each other even better.
2007-09-17 10:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by LAL 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you know, you know. Things moved SUPER fast with me and my now-husband. We moved in together after just 3 months of dating, and we were engaged after 5 months of dating. We had a long engagement, about a year and a half, and just got married this past March.
When we first got engaged my family and friends all thought we were crazy... but, we both knew in our hearts that this was the right person and it's worked out. Good luck to you!
2007-09-17 10:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by jackibear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely don't think it is too soon to be thinking about marriage after 2 months of dating! You SHOULD, because I believe if you can't see yourself marrying your boyfriend, then why are you wasting your time??!!
I knew after only a month or so that my fiance was "The One"!! We both did! We got engaged after nine months of dating and are planning our April '08 wedding :)
I think its great that you feel he is what you are looking for...you should trust yourself! I'm not quite sure if getting engaged or married right now would be right, but you are the only one who know your relationship. Good luck! ;)
2007-09-17 10:20:45 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that is to soon. You have been getting to know him for 12 years and if you still like him and have grown to love him, then you should go with it. If you don't know him by now I don't think you would ever know someone. There are people that get married after they have only been together for 2 months without knowing them previously, and the marriage is still going strong after 30+ years.
2007-09-17 10:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by nikic64429 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be together for at least two years and live together for one year before being engaged.... stay engaged for about a year then get married that is what i did and i am happy as a clean diapered, belly full, baby!! we are so happy and our relationship is working... and yes we have known each other for a long time too... we knew each other for 10 years before we started dating... GOOD LUCK
2007-09-17 13:09:55 · answer #8 · answered by Kayla J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know everyone says when you know you'll know, but it's true. I have been with my now fiance for 1 month and 2 weeks - we got engaged 2 weeks into dating each other and we have only known each other for 2 months. It is not up to you, it is up to your heart.
Good luck with your decision.
2007-09-17 10:48:18 · answer #9 · answered by Angela O 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think, it depends on your age, maturity level and life experience. It's "too soon" if you haven't had much practice in making serious decisions. I mean, first few months of any relationship might seem like this is what you want; it takes wisdom to make long-term predictions when you're in the grip of infatuation.
2007-09-17 10:27:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋