Hi, im in the process or organising a wedding, but need to keep it as cheap as possible. does everyone have a wedding breakfast / meal? if not do you still have the speeches? im looking to have a buffet at the reception, but am not sure that we can afford both.
Ideas appreciated.
2007-09-17 10:03:47 · 23 answers · asked by SilverstreaK_1066 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I've been to loads of buffet weddings and they've just done the speeches when everyone has more or less finished eating. After speeches guests can get more food.
2007-09-17 10:16:38 · answer #1 · answered by ladylovin 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Don't know what planet some of these answerers are on. A wedding breakfast is not a morning meal the day after the wedding, but another name for a wedding reception.
When I got married in the UK, I had a buffet, for which my Mum organised the catering with help from some friends. You can do this type of catering quite cheaply.
I prefer a buffet as the guests can mingle. With a sit-down meal, you are stuck with the adjacent people, whether you know or like them or not.
You still have the toasts/speeches/cake cutting as you want.
2007-09-17 12:04:48 · answer #2 · answered by steffi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A wedding breakfast is a dinner given to the bride, bridegroom and guests at the wedding reception that follows a wedding in England.
While not normally a morning meal, the name apparently arises from the tradition that the bride and bridegroom would have been fasting before the wedding, and so the reception would be the time when they would break their fast. Another theory on the origin of the term is that the wedding breakfast is the first meal of a couple's married life, just as breakfast is the first meal of the day.
( I put this in as some people seem a bit confused as to what a wedding breakfast is mcdonalds saver menu wouldnt be very tasteful or tasty)
I got married at 4pm as I like you had a budget to stick too I m sure your guests will be very happy with a buffet mine were we did have a few simple speeches and a lovely cake
I would say the best thing to do is get married later in the day and your guests wont be expecting 2 meals
2007-09-17 11:39:30 · answer #3 · answered by Wiggly_pumpkin 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You never ask people to pay for anything at a wedding. My budget is $10,000 and we're having a 150 person (minimum) wedding, so as long as your guest list isn't through the roof you should be able to manage. I would suggest looking into state parks and county parks as a wedding site. They're very reasonable, some of the ones in New York are about $100-$200 to reserve for a day. As for catering, we found a good caterer in our area that is buffet style and after taxes, gratuity, and plate rental will be about $16 a person. Catering doesn't need to be $100 a head! We're doing a fun, barbecue style meal because that is what we can afford. Check out UniqueVintage for dresses, they have a lot of 50s style clothes that are really quite lovely and very reasonable. If you are in the United States, bridesmaids and groomsmen expect to pay for their dresses and tuxes. UK, different story: the bride usually pays. But again, check out sales: JCrew is having a huge sale right now, and bridesmaid style dresses are about $50. Pretty damn good! I'd also recommend checking out Offbeat Bride for more ideas; it is a wedding website for brides who are a bit less traditional, which can mean some creative budgeting. Good luck, and best wishes for your marriage!
2016-05-17 06:59:07 · answer #4 · answered by shawna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We got married in a Register Office on a Monday morning. Didn't invite anyone - said we would get two people off the streets as a Witnesses. Made my own frock (silver blue because it was his fav colour) with a light coat over. The shoes cost most - pale blue at 59/11d (one penny short of three pounds). I still have the shoes.
In the end there were 12 of us and my father took us all out for a steak lunch at a Bernie Inn in Bristol (with impromptu speeches); next door neighbour had made a 2-tier cake and the steak house gave us a bottle of champagne.
Went to St. Ives, Cornwall for 2 weeks honeymoon.
That was 48 years ago and we are still there for each other.
Why don't you just go for the buffet - with your cake on a side table for you to cut. Then you can mingle with your guests all day. Why run yourselves into debt (not a good way to start a married life) just to make a big show?
2007-09-17 22:19:51 · answer #5 · answered by Veronica Alicia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say do your speeches just before the buffet is open, and if it's important to you to have a wedding breakfast just have a small number of people i.e wedding party or immediate family/ close friends.
Most people won't mind not having a wedding breakfast providing the buffet food is good. best to have one great meal, then two mediocre ones.
Good Luck
2007-09-18 22:33:32 · answer #6 · answered by loreali22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dfinitely dont need to do a meal, but you do need to have a small party after the ceremony. If you plan an afternoon wedding, you could do a small cake and punch reception. The trick is to plan between meal times this way most people will nderstand that there is no meal and also the way you word your reception card will tell the guests what to expect.
Say your ceremony is at 2 pm and lasts a half hour, then you can have people join you in the parish hall of your church for cake and punch, put out some nuts, a tray of cookies, some coffee and tea and you have a very nice cake recption where your best man can give you a toast and send you on your way. This would last at the most 1 1/2 hours, just time enough to thank each guest individually for coming and cut your cake.
2007-09-17 10:17:37 · answer #7 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
my daughter got married on a low budget, the place they hired charged a reasonable rate for a sit down meal which was brilliant and they provided a buffet free for the evening if a certain number had the meal (it wasnt many) whole thing venue for afternnoon and evening and meal cost £1200 and it was excellent. if u are near Reading, Berks i can tell u where it was if ur interested. u could have a buffet for the wedding breakfast and another one for the evening, u could try a caterer and see how much they willcharge for doing both it may be cheaper. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-09-18 05:32:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask some one in the family to do the catering?always afterwards its why did you not say we would have done it?a Continental breakfast cold meats, cheeses,breads butter jams toast boiled eggs and some fruit set on a table and buffet style people can help themselves?tea coffee orange juice if you find you get help and people want to do this get some bottles of champagne from the supermarket if hiring a hall and have a toast and yes do the speeches its fun and people like that its a gathering on your wedding day and the people who care will be happy to celebrate this day with you,enjoy your day and congratulations
2007-09-20 07:06:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually people plan a brunch for the gift opening the next day. Ours was at my mom's home, it was summer, so we were able to have some people be outside. It was pretty much just close family.
Lately, though, for other family weddings, they have gotten the use of a 'party room' free the next day, after having the reception at a hotel. Then you just have buns and cold cuts, cheeses and pickles, some dainties, and drinks.
2007-09-18 00:29:36 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋