This is only because we don't have the money for a big wedding and honeymoon but we want to be together forever. Anyways I know you have to go and fill out paperwork but how do you find someone to marry you? If anyone has ever done this or knows how to go about doing PLEASE help me!! THANKS!
2007-09-17 09:52:12 · 22 answers · asked by sureality00 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
http://usmarriagelaws.com/search/united_states/index.shtml
Check out site above. Click on your state for details.
Phone number of the courthouse will also be there. Call them to set up at date/time for your wedding.
2007-09-17 11:16:54 · answer #1 · answered by Suz123 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me and my husband got married secretly, all we had to do was do the paperwork and see a justice of the peace. And we were married in under an hour. When you go to fill out our paper work ask the people there if they happen to have a list of possible justice of the peace they probably will. Depending on what state you live in you may have to have a witness(some one to sign paperwork stating that they saw you go to the JP), so you may have to let at least a couple of people know. But that is the best advice I can give you. And good luck to you two.
2007-09-17 10:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by babyangel81981 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm troubled by it being a secret. Getting married should be somethng to be proud of, to proclaim with excitement. You don't have to have a big wedding..you can easily have a private wedding with just you and your 2 witnesses in attendance, but why is it all a secret? I think that stuff done in secret usually ends up in hurt feelings and regrets.
From the words you used in your question, you sound like a very young girl...I'd guess under 21. If so, please tell your family what you are doing. It is a sign a maturity to talk through things with the people who matter rather than just run away and do what you want in the moment.
2007-09-17 10:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOu are still going to need 2 witnesses so someone will need to know unless you drag a couple of random people off the street....
My first husband and I did this.....I was barely 18 and caught up in the romance of the idea. I didnt think it thru enough, My mother was devestated. As were my sisters....I didnt realise how much hurt it would cause......and the marriage didnt last anyways.....limited funds carried over into the marriage and we fizzled.
I am now getting married for the 2nd time to a wonderful man. We are older and wiser and I realise what a wedding means to my mother and my family.....yet I am also paying for it myself so that means I have to save money where I can.
It is possible to have a lovely wedding on a budget. And it is probably worth it if you have family that will be hurt for not being able to share in your special day.......marry in secret if that is what you really want to do, but be prepared for some disappointment from familiy if you do this.
Good luck
2007-09-17 10:00:25 · answer #4 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You can find a justice of the peace in the blue pages. But even if you can't afford a big wedding you shouldn't do it secretly. If you do, you will hurt her parents so badly and close friends. Why don't you just tell everyone you are getting married and unstead of saying you can't afford a big wedding say you rather save money for a house or car. You can still enjoy having everyone included by having the JP come to an outdoor wedding or park. Or you can just have everyone gather at a local resturant for a mini celebration. I strongly discourage you from doing it in a "secret fashion" you will miss out on blessings.
2007-09-17 09:58:06 · answer #5 · answered by Chicka 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Well, I dont know why you wouldnt want to tell anyone just because you dont have the money for the big wedding, that doesnt seem like a good enough reason to keep it secret.
BUT
You can marry at the Justice of the Peace in the couthouse where you fill out your paperwork. Its a small fee and you are in and out.
2007-09-17 09:58:42 · answer #6 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Go to the court house. You only have to pay for the marriage license and a small fee for the ceremony. But expect to be disappointed. Friends got married in a court house and they said it was extremely short, unpersonal and like an in-and-out in 5 minutes.
you don't necessarily need a big budget. my husband's sister got married on Hawaii (she lived there at the time) for about $150. She had a pot luck reception in her backyard with friends, didn't cost her a thing. If I may recommend something, try to make it a nice experience. Yo don't need to spend a lot of money; have a pot-luck with close friends and family; probably the minister of your church or a Justice of Peace can hold a nice ceremony in your yard. You will only get married once (we hope), make it a good memory..
2007-09-17 10:04:55 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie P 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to secretly married for the reasons you give. When I got married I had a full time job and so did my fiancee at the time. We did not want to have all the added expense. We we told our parents our intentions they immediately started with there plans. We told them no that we decided this is our wedding plans and we are going to stick to them. We want to get legally married, we have enough money for an apartment and a few funiture pieces and we would be happy with that. All we wanted from them was their blessings. It worked and been married 20 years now.
2007-09-17 10:02:14 · answer #8 · answered by yoliesline 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Now we all know. So it's no longer a big secret. You need a license from your local county. You will most likely require a medical blood test. Then you can arrange to get maried at the County by a judge. County will give you all the details. You sound rather immature to tell the truth, so I would re-think getting married.
2007-09-17 10:07:08 · answer #9 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call the justice of the peace in your town or city. An application for marriage runs about $75. You could also ask a pastor to do it for a reasonable fee, and it doesn't have to be a formal thing.
You have the rest of your life to honeymoon. Good luck :)
2007-09-17 10:04:29 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's a big difference between secret and private. What's the big secret? Anyone can find out who has applied for a marriage license so it's no big secret unless you get married in a different county. What are you hiding?
2007-09-18 11:40:00 · answer #11 · answered by Gr8estluv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋