i am almost 6 months pregnant and i have been with my baby father for 4 years and it seems like everything is goin wrong but he is happy about the baby but it doesn't seem like he is ready to give the streets up. like he doesn't really call me anymore like to see if i am ok but he be with his friends more than he be with me and it wasn't like that before i am 18 and i know the responsibilities of raising a child but i am just tires of feelin like i am alone so over the weekend i went to his house and packed all of my stuff that i had over in his house and took it to my mother's house. i am thinkin of movin to florida before i give birth because i feel like when i have the baby it is all going to be the same. im not the person that likes to be treated one way and then another. he says that he wants to be around when the baby is born. i just need some advice on wat to do. i tried talkin to some many times n it is to the point that im tired of talkin thats y i packed my stuff and left.
2007-09-17 09:50:19 · 5 answers · asked by janet h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you really think that baby is going to make him change and be the person YOU want him to be forget it. People can't make someone change that person has to be willing to change for himself. 9-10 times they don't change so don't get your hopes up. I would move and just forget him.
2007-09-17 10:01:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
During pregnancy, the hormones go wild. We tend to see what was there the whole time and may have chose to ignore it. You shared the nights going out and having fun with him. Now that you are with child, you feel you are alone because you realized before him that the lifestyle was unacceptable. Moving home with mom might be a good idea since she has already been through what you are going through. But, you may want to give him a chance to be a father before you assume he won't be one. Don't make hasty decisions. He will still be the baby daddy no matter where you move. Your body is going through so many changes and your mind is racing. You will be a great parent because you are thinking about your child. Men don't bond with their babies until after birth. Don't take that away from him because the two of you don't see eye to eye. May God Bless you and your baby. CONGRATULATIONS!
2007-09-17 17:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by flirty30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing is for sure, and that is that you are real emotional because you are pregnant. We cry and complain about some of the simplest things. But at this time during your pregnancy I know that it is important for him to be around because you do feel lonely, and sometimes you want your space because they can get on your nerves too! I would wait and have the baby and see if he changes his ways, and if he doesn't then I would do what you feel is best for you and your baby. But at the same time don't take away fatherhood from him if he wants to be apart of the babies life. We get so involved in what we think is best for us and we forget about what is best for the child, we can sometimes get selfish when we get upset with our baby daddies, but give him a chance!
2007-09-17 17:01:41 · answer #3 · answered by Janell P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is staying with your mom until the baby comes an option. Moving is hard and you have so much going on right now. be sure to take care of yourself and that baby first. and the rest will take care of itself.
2007-09-17 16:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur man is a real A-S-S H-O-L-E
i wont do da thing wid a gal if she had my baby
2007-09-17 16:57:45 · answer #5 · answered by king 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋