A friend that I've known a few years-- not a close friend, but not an acquaintance either-- is marrying another not close friend not acquaintance (I met them separately) and I'm spending about $500 to get to the wedding.
Am I expected to spend a large amount on the wedding present? How much would you suggest?
2007-09-17 09:41:40 · 9 answers · asked by Starving Student 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You're not "expected" to spend anything at a wedding. I know this may sound out of the norm, but whether you have come a long way or not (and you're a great friend for spending that kind of money to go to their wedding!!), the matter depends on economics.
In your case I would not put money in a card, but get a small, simple, but thoughtful gift and put it with a card. No explanations necessary-- they invited you, not your wallet. And they shouldn't be "expecting" anything of you!
You can spend whatever you feel you can afford-- I probably wouldn't go over $30 in this case, myself (you can call me cheap, but your grand total is more like $530!)-- and if you make it a gift, not money in a card, it won't matter. The standard used to be "give enough to cover the meal"-- so that would more than cover it!
Hope this helps!
2007-09-17 09:52:49 · answer #1 · answered by LJG 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spend what you'll be able to have enough money with out sacrificing your possess elementary demands. It's the concept that counts. Everyone has been suffering from the present recession that we're nonetheless in and if anyone remains to be grasping and ungrateful in spite of being suffering from it, then that is their predicament. Even so, a $50 importance reward is greater than beneficiant and so much folks will be pleased about whatever due to the fact presents don't seem to be required in any respect. The rate of dinner is moot and now not handiest do you now not know the way so much they spent (nor will the couple let you know), that's *now not* how you work how so much to spend on the regional Bed Bath & Beyond or at any place they're registered. What they gave you at your marriage ceremony is inappropriate as good. As for the most cost effective resort within the subject, is there a Motel 6 or some thing equivalent you'll be able to keep in? That will likely be alot less expensive than $500.
2016-09-05 17:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I simply cannot abide the "begging" expectations which accompany wedding invitations.
You give them a gift which you feel they will appreciate, regardless of it's cost. If the bridal couple feels offended that the amount is not sufficient, that is THEIR problem. Whatever happened to the adage, "It's the THOUGHT that counts"????
As for myself, I usually think about the couple's "entertaining" needs... which are usually not things that OTHERS give them, nor something they give themselves. I like to focus on placemats, napkin rings, candlesticks, etc.... things to "enhance" a table when the new couple entertains. These things can range in prices from very affordable to very expensive, so you have your choice. Even a pedestal cake plate is something fancy and not normally given... like the proverbial line up of toasters!
Do as YOU feel is right for YOU and YOUR budget, NOT what others are expecting of you!
Have a polite day!
2007-09-17 11:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by wyomugs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would spend in $50-100 range.
They already know that you're traveling and spending a great deal of money/time to get to their wedding. I'm sure the best "gift" is your presence at their wedding, but a token gift of $50-100 would be thoughtful.
2007-09-17 09:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by gopher646 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why spend a fortune getting to a wedding of someone who is not a close friend? Are you obligated in someway? If not, don't go. Save the $500 and send them a card.
(If you are unlucky, you might even lose your life in an accident getting there). Don't risk your life for someone not close.
2007-09-17 22:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford $100.00 that would be great. Or even $50.00.
Just enclose it in a card with well-wishes and a short apology for being cash-tight..... or, depending on your relationship with them, a quick 'sorry' with a 'I owe you one when I graduate and get that blah-blah job'
I'm sure they realize that the trip is expensive for you and that you're a student and probably don't have much money right now.
Your presense and not your presents, is what they really want.
2007-09-17 09:56:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As always, you should spend what you think is appropriate and what you can afford. It's inappropriate for anyone else to set expectations for you in this case.
2007-09-17 17:57:53 · answer #7 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no more than 100 bucks is a generous and thoughful gift
2007-09-17 10:14:56 · answer #8 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just spend what ever you can afford to spend.
2007-09-17 18:53:28 · answer #9 · answered by Jai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋