by the way its a family member and hes homless and has been trin to quit 4 5 years
2007-09-17 09:07:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
bad bad bad. truely trying to quit needs to start the rehab rounds. The kids dont need to be around it whatsoever. good luck
2007-09-17 09:11:45 · answer #1 · answered by Geia 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he's still using he'd be better off in a place where he can get some help to stop using heroin. It's not only the children being around an active addict, but frequently the people who associate with the addict can be less than desirable. Check your local hospitals or rehab programs and find a place where he can live and get some help. The children dont need to be around that kind of influence. By the way,I'm speaking from very hard experience. both personally and professionally.
2007-09-17 09:16:16 · answer #2 · answered by phlada64 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The children need to know the truth just in case they witness the drug use. The children should be told that the drug user is not a bad person jsut someone that is addicted to drugs and is trying to quit but might relapse. make sure that the drugs and supplies with it are away from teh children.
2007-09-17 09:11:59 · answer #3 · answered by suheilly13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well
this is tough
it happens a lot, more than you may realize
not every addict harms their children
there are addicts living manageable lives (although I am NOT endorsing this in any way or saying it is not bad)
i hate to say that but it is true, i know
believe it or not, people work and such with Heroin addiction
i would be more worried about a meth or crack user as they can be a bit more manic and less responsible
but i have worked with (I do a lot of work with addicts and used to be with a private charity concerned with this full time)
crack and meth users who use as occasionally as possible and still work and such and are really good to their kids
as long as the kids are clean, eat properly, stay in a regular shelter, have enough to eat, he or she doesn't use around the kids, go to school, etc then i wouldn't rat out your family member
kids in the system may fare much worse and when they get taken away for drugs it is usually now next to impossible for them to come back, even to other family members
so if you do that the kids may be lost to your family forever and not any better off
so for now I would say give he/she time to get clean for good
the homeless part worries me because I don't understand the whole particulars: are they in a family shelter they go to every night? do they live here and there with relatives? or are they really on the streets?
they really really need to get off the streets, if they are there
1. children need a stable place for their health, mental and physical
2. it is next to impossible for the addicted to get clean living on the streets as there is much temptation
weigh and consider everything first if you are going to say anything about it and see what you can do to help
i mean, it doesn't sound like this relative and the kids are going to be bunking up with you anytime soon, but short of that you can call around whatever city the relative is in and see about putting their names on a list for shelter (if they are not already in one) and what other help can be provided to them
good luck and the relative and the kids are in my prayers, as well as you
2007-09-17 10:34:26 · answer #4 · answered by soulflower 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it amounts to child abuse. Trying to quit for 4 or 5 years? give me a break, you either do it, or you don't, there is no try when it comes to heroin. I think children deserve a much better environment than one wherein a drug addict lives, it sends them a very bad message and one that is likely to stick with them all their lives, ie that using is ok.
2007-09-17 09:13:17 · answer #5 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If its taken him 5 years he's not trying to quit very hard. Nobody quits until they lose it all. Giving him shelter and a place to comfortably do drugs is a disservice to him. You're just making it easier to be an addict. He needs to hit the streets and suffer before he quits. Make it easy for him and you'll just find him dead in the bathroom with a needle in his arm. ( happened to my cousin)
2007-09-17 09:22:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A heroin addict, whether they are trying to quit or not, has no place around children.
If you are letting someone stay with you who uses heroin, no matter what their relation to you and the children, you are putting your children at risk, and if I knew who you were I would call Child Protective Services on you.
2007-09-17 10:03:25 · answer #7 · answered by Barney Blake 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him be homeless, if someone really wants to quit then they will try to get help and help over and over again at a rehab center, why would you want kids around the drugs and maybe needles they could be harmed, and not even knowing what other drugies that could be hanging around
2007-09-17 09:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's trying to quit for 5 years? He can't on his own especially heroin. Get him to a state run re-hab to get him clean and away from from your kids. Family member or not you are enabling him as long as he has a roof over his head. Think about your kids first get him out now
2007-09-17 10:20:55 · answer #9 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
show them you love them have them go into a rehab. practice tough love. don't be an enabler. and end up suffering from something happening to one of your children. thats not setting a good example for your children if they was to see them slip and take the drugs or by being around them high. i know its tough their family and you love them and their in a tight spot. but you have to be strong and show your love by getting them help at a rehab unit. and if its been 5 years trying to quit they are not going to do it without this help. good luck and best wishes.
2007-09-17 09:30:29 · answer #10 · answered by Gladys C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋